3 Common “Alpha” Myths That Make People Instantly Dislike You

5. aug.. 2019
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Sometimes becoming powerful can make people act like jerks. The same thing can happen as you improve your charisma, which is a measure of social power. If you’re not careful you can become a domineering leader that is dislike for how you wield that social clout.
In this video we are covering 3 common myths about being an alpha personality that actually just make people dislike you, and what tweaks you can make to be a respected leader that people love to be around.

0:44 - Myth #1: They direct attention towards themselves.
3:27 - Myth #2: They are intimidating with their bodies.
6:02 - Myth #3: They are stoically unimpressed.
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  • I like the content but can do without the clickbait type thumbnails

    Mary 888Mary 8884 timer siden
  • I naturally speak while smiling I didn’t know I did that until one day I was speaking with a group of colleagues and one of the girls said out loud why are you always smiling when you are talking? I was so confused and felt insecure becuase It made me feel like a crazy person. I just said I’m a happy person, don’t kill the vibe. She laugh and I smash lol

    Jose MontoyaJose Montoya3 dager siden
  • Great video!

    Vlad MarinVlad Marin7 dager siden
  • What movie is the first clip from?

    Shehzad MohammedShehzad Mohammed10 dager siden
  • Only Beta soy-boys pretend alphas aren’t real

    Danny PopeDanny Pope11 dager siden
  • Corona has ruined the touch parts

    A DudeA Dude12 dager siden
  • Only men lol

    Chloe AChloe A18 dager siden
  • No. 2 did not age well in 2020...

    royohzroyohz19 dager siden
  • Having a stone face or not is a matter of personality. There are sunny alphas and there are stoic alphas.

    Jave Lester OdvinaJave Lester Odvina23 dager siden
  • Or just make all your friends kids. So there is never a question of authority. WTF am I talking about.

    Blender DumbassBlender Dumbass23 dager siden
  • Seriously? The “Rock” became a pebble the moment he endorsed Creepy Human Walking Turkey ILLINOIS MEXICANS FOR TRUMP 2020

    Jack LincolnJack Lincoln24 dager siden
  • Sasuke thinking he's the alpha male 😢

    JosieJosie28 dager siden
  • Just be nice to people and make the interaction about them, not you! When you’re actually actively interested in what they have to say, automatically people have a better impression of you(in my opinion). Personally, i just love people. Quarantine taught me the value of relationships, so now i value people so much more for who they are(i didnt speak to anyone for 2 months, imagine my loneliness). Now it seems that places i frequently go to are awesome places because i know so many awesome people too!

    Michael ElijahMichael Elijah29 dager siden
  • Well when your awesome, your just awesome, and if your awesome enough your humble. I personally would tell you how awesome I am but I am too good at being humble. 😄 ( Or you use sarcasm, because it's funny ).

    Louis SeifertLouis SeifertMåned siden
  • Does anyone know which interview the scene around 4:00 is taken from? Really interested in the whole discussion.

    Stephanie EhrenbergStephanie EhrenbergMåned siden
  • No touching guys, social distance is important

    Jack WJack WMåned siden
  • Don't ever do eyes? What don't ever do? And what is the arrow pointing then? Click bait thumbnail.

    OravankarvaOravankarvaMåned siden
  • fiction

    gothsorrowsuffergothsorrowsufferMåned siden
  • myth

    gothsorrowsuffergothsorrowsufferMåned siden
  • An ego-driven district manager on my current job made me and my co-worker feel ignored by his comments, despite my regional manager (upon our introduction to him) saying we were vital to the success of the business. I don't even remember the DM's name. He isn't worth remembering.

    Michael ElliottMichael ElliottMåned siden
  • The rock clip is legendary. Love how he did that highlighted the interviewer

    OGdienomyte850OGdienomyte850Måned siden
  • wonder if this guys as charming as his videos make him seem

    Michiel TakMichiel Tak2 måneder siden
  • Wait can u do this if I’m a girl I mean I can but these are guys I mean no I can whatever 😂😂😂

    Rose MargieRose Margie2 måneder siden
  • GET SWIRLED FISH!!!! *Gives wedgie to OP and then puts his head in toiletbowl.

    Dr HDr H2 måneder siden
  • Alpha’s don’t care what people think of them.

    Jokes YayJokes Yay2 måneder siden
  • I work in debt collection. I smile as soon as the person answers their phone and I talk with that smile. I have a very high success rate.

    Lexie SmithLexie Smith2 måneder siden
  • Not an appropriate video in these Corona times... LOL 😆✌🏼🔥 especially the body language and touch topic..

    Veer ChauhanVeer Chauhan2 måneder siden
  • "hover hands" are the worst

    Jack FergusonJack Ferguson2 måneder siden
  • Ahhh. Pre-COVID advice. How we miss the days.

    EpicEpidemicEpicEpidemic2 måneder siden
  • Wow so you can't even use the world Alpha anymore without offending people?

    slevin prakashslevin prakash2 måneder siden
  • Yeah... Do not touch me.

    W MW M2 måneder siden
  • Keannu is still has the best character.

    Jonathan TagayJonathan Tagay2 måneder siden
  • Beta male master race assemble.

    Ben WallaceBen Wallace2 måneder siden
  • Feels weird getting advice on how to manipulate people

    August OsaniAugust Osani2 måneder siden
  • thats wolf packs

    Andy whiteheadAndy whitehead2 måneder siden
  • alphas are the smart ones betas are the strongest omegas are the ones that keep the group together using a mixture of diplomacy and humour then you got the rest

    Andy whiteheadAndy whitehead2 måneder siden
  • Tom Cruise is as physically imposing as a garden gnome

    Jake KrigeJake Krige2 måneder siden
  • tom cruise is such a good guy.

    Screech BeastScreech Beast2 måneder siden
  • People who thought they were alpha but in reality they are just jerk- IMPOSSIBLE

    Drieza GonDrieza Gon3 måneder siden
  • Jimmy Fallon is so cringey.

    AcidDomeAcidDome3 måneder siden
  • ok, so i note down everything and can do these "tricks", but i am ugly ... what now?

    kruakrua3 måneder siden
    • krua your about 20% more attractive in the eyes of others, bare that in mind

      Jusnogood 1Jusnogood 12 måneder siden
  • The rock seems like a nice guy to hang out with

    villegas24villegas243 måneder siden
  • Tom cruise is 4'11". He couldn't physically intimidate a middleschooler

    Danger BearDanger Bear3 måneder siden
  • Tom Cruise is both, the most likable and the most creepy dude you'll ever see.

    Captain SmokeCaptain Smoke3 måneder siden
  • way too many people REALLY don't understand what a true alpha is. but science knows, because they've discovered and unlocked the behaviors of chimps and bonobos--our closest animal relatives. these are the actual features of alpha men and women: 1) they're giving and caring. they're willing to let others go first, and they give ALL THE TIME without expecting anything in return. 2) they tend to help resolve disputes rather than take sides. 3) they work hard and don't make a big deal out of it. 4) they make sure everyone in the group feels safe and noticed, and they do NOT tolerate bullying or ridiculing. 5) they MUST not be afraid to be kind and generous with their emotions. alpha primates are completely responsible for caregiving when someone is sad or in mourning (this is true in all apes). so when you see some loud, macho dude being toxic and insulting and intimidating, remember--this guy is NOT an alpha at ALL. avoid these people. they take without asking, and demand without giving.

    roflmowsroflmows3 måneder siden
  • Behaving like alpha male doesn't work, unless you actually are that alpha male, because other men will call out your BS and prove that you aren't actually that alpha that you think you are, gang up and put you in your place. That's why human society normally doesn't have any alpha males, because no-one is actually that powerful. The best men can do is being a beta male. And what is described here in this is actually behaving like a beta male. What ignorant people call as "beta male" is actually an omega male. Also it's noteworthy to mention, that most species that actually have alpha males, are also endangered species, it's not a very evolutionary fit behavioral strategy.

    ErilazErilaz3 måneder siden
  • Tom is right. Ritalin is one molecule different from methamphetamine. And it is given to children.

    Jesse OwensJesse Owens3 måneder siden
  • This is why I love Dewayne Johnson. The guy is all around a nice human being, he has respect for everyone and loves everyone. He is obviously physically a beast but again, he never makes anyone feel like their less of a person. I like that.

    Joey FigueroaJoey Figueroa3 måneder siden
  • 1) Alphas are not narcissistic. They spread the attention to others, especially the quiet outsiders. 2) Alphas initiate physical contact in a friendly manner, not to intimidate others. 3) Alphas aren't stone cold. They radiate positiveness.

    JimmyJimmy3 måneder siden
  • If the term Alpha offends you or you need the term explained, I have some news for you...

    Gina CimagliaGina Cimaglia4 måneder siden
  • Only betas believe there are no alphas in the human species.

    kyndakrazykyndakrazy4 måneder siden
  • how do i send this to my annoying “alpha” obsessed guy friends 🥰

    Hadley GraceHadley Grace4 måneder siden
  • If we can master charisma life will... in its simplest form... be more fun

    AARon LamoreauxAARon Lamoreaux4 måneder siden
  • why is the arrow pointed at his eurasian eyes?? dont be eurasian??

    Kono DutchKono Dutch4 måneder siden
  • Incels and niceguys are quaking

    FoxLimbsFoxLimbs4 måneder siden
  • Many of your tips you are given are for people that are already popular to maintain their popularity or to further expand it marginally. Don't see how this fits the title

    Yeah YeahYeah Yeah4 måneder siden
  • I must be the least alpha person in the planet :(

    NehemyahNehemyah4 måneder siden
  • Tom was on edge around Matt for a reason....

    Schwinn D.Schwinn D.4 måneder siden
  • Every movie clip vannu just highlight the movie name

    paedru fernandopaedru fernando5 måneder siden
  • If you review characters (not sure if you do) you should review Jeff Winger from Community, and maybe one day even Abed Nadir.

    LegoLego5 måneder siden
  • Can you do a video on Hugh Jackman please?

  • Is it possible I'm actually an alpha male, but I've simply never been told because I never leave my house?

    Crimea_RiverCrimea_River5 måneder siden
  • i am great at including people. i dislike when people are having conversations and they exclude a person in the group.

    Sayeta ZonenSayeta Zonen5 måneder siden
  • the video thumbnail made me literally think the video was gonna talk about squinting your eyes.

    E IE I5 måneder siden
  • * Smoldering intensity *

    Awesome SoulAwesome Soul5 måneder siden
  • So this is where all the incels gather up? lol

    iHave NoNameiHave NoName5 måneder siden
  • Let's call it dominant instead of "alpha". Your videos are always based on how celebrities act. Have you ever had a chance to observe interpersonal dynamics in academics, technology or business? You are good at observing people and you might consider a career in psychology. You could make a good impact on the world. I think if you started to learn about psychology and sociology, you would realize that most of your videos are only your opinion.

    Joe BedardJoe Bedard5 måneder siden
  • Where are the female examples that are good?

    LaurelLaurel5 måneder siden
  • It makes me super sad to watch these videos about touching and physical contact in a post COVID world. Especially as someone who always touched, shook hands, etc...

    CloudSurfer821CloudSurfer8215 måneder siden
  • alphas are some of the lamest people

    GavinGavin5 måneder siden
  • Why must one become the alpha? To beget more lion cubs?

    Maruf AnwarulMaruf Anwarul5 måneder siden
  • Tom Cruise is like the least Alpha male. He forces acting as an alpha, but it look really off

    La BarbeLa Barbe5 måneder siden
  • I reeeally hate people touching me though.

    Jarcu AdanantusJarcu Adanantus5 måneder siden
  • Tom Cruise is used as both positive and negative examples... is this scientific proof that the guy is just bipolar?

    Ant TamAnt Tam5 måneder siden
  • yo i do these subconsciously i just watched my dad do it growing up but i thought it was normal lol

    BetoBeto5 måneder siden
  • I start touching my colleagues, the HR start calling me. This never happened to me.. I exist now Yay

    Sid DiazSid Diaz5 måneder siden
  • If i try to touch someone in norway i will become a social outcast >_>

    Fredrik HalvorsrødFredrik Halvorsrød5 måneder siden
  • only 11.99 a month were do i sign up what with the world in flames right now and uncertain times ahead at least il know i have my app

    Danny ClarkDanny Clark5 måneder siden
  • >watches 25 charisma on command vids at 3am >processed by the subconscious >i absorb the information better >your charisma has increased by 25

    tigernipe37tigernipe375 måneder siden
  • Obvious exception for rule 2: if you happen to be a member of the toxic gender, you do not touch a member of the protected gender unless the form has been signed and notarized.

    J WJ W5 måneder siden
  • Another good time to be nonreactive is in a group meeting/brainstorming session. A lot of people think they need to lead the conversation at every moment. Don't. Instead listen to what's being said and only open your mouth when you have your ideas clearly in hand. Then, when you do speak, you automatically project confidence and authority.

    James DavenportJames Davenport5 måneder siden
  • Great video. 'Alpha' men are so often misconstrued. They bring others together and usually spread joy and kindness wherever they go, while still having a backbone to defend themselves and their loved ones as needed.

    Mindset With JoshMindset With Josh5 måneder siden
  • imagine if rock has an intimidating Aura / attitude

    പരശു രാമൻപരശു രാമൻ5 måneder siden
  • My homeboy compromised he reads and watches video on obtaining power. I’m super slick I acted surprised at the same time uninterested in watching the videos he thought he would be putting me on to. Point is he’s pretty big not going to lie. He looked into my eyes and I looked into his. Staring into eyes is not that big for me unless someone imposes themself as a threat. Homeboy tried 1 upping me. I looked away first so he must’ve taken that as a stripe. He TRIED bullying me. I’ll let you guess what happened after and ever since then

    V AV A5 måneder siden
  • 'Strong people don't put others down. They lift them up.' - Darth Vader. Philanthropist

    Stamatis ArvanitidisStamatis Arvanitidis5 måneder siden
  • 5:34 look at kevin ..its so funny ..😂

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  • Damn this guy’s legit

    Unknown YouTube UserUnknown YouTube User5 måneder siden
  • why did you gave an advise of touching people for friendly purpose? are you okay? now hundreds of douchebags gonna touch each other in every moment but apropriate

    DrEloksDrEloks6 måneder siden
  • hello Mr Charisma, good video, but I could add something to your explanation of why Alphas are not straight faced but smile a lot. why do you think woman are attracted to men with good sense of humor that makes her laugh? because it is in their nature to find the alpha, the man that makes her laugh will also be better interacting with other man and improve his chances of leading man and therefore provide for her. inverse is true if a man is just mean all the time, straight faced and no humor, that man is more likely to find more enemies therefore affect his capacity of provide for her. unless that mean man, is a real alpha (not in the sense of personality) but like a very important person,a great champion a top billed artist,CEO etc then she knows even tho he has that personality he is the alpha because he own, then it does not matter, she will love him.

    johny zjohny z6 måneder siden
  • As a teenager I started pushing myself to always be “cool“ and non-reactive, but I think I ended up being more boring than cool. It shaped me to the point that in my adult life I wouldn’t really smile or display happiness when greeting someone. I still have a bad habit of doing this. It’s probably not an attractive or likable quality, unless you have a very specific vibe. This video has a good point, cool/charismatic people aren’t totally emotionless or cold. They just keep it cool at the right moments. Most of the time, if you’re smiling and friendly people don’t even notice, it just affects them positively toward you.

    Boss NassBoss Nass6 måneder siden
  • This video is a tutorial on social skills 101

  • 1:58 what the movie name? :|

    Farhad JamanFarhad Jaman6 måneder siden
  • I've long thought a lot of tricks guys learn to come over as "alpha" to women work in reverse to other guys and only succeed in pissing them off. I know they do me.

    videowilliamsvideowilliams6 måneder siden
  • The only people who take exception to alpha personalities are betas. The end.

    The Balder ThorThe Balder Thor6 måneder siden
  • All these guys are Beta males. Sorry.

    jay foojay foo6 måneder siden
  • I personally work out, have a beard, have done boxing and don’t take any crap off of anybody, all the usual things but my old mum can make me feel like a schoolboy again in ten seconds.

    nicedog1nicedog16 måneder siden
  • Jon hamm's execution of Don Draper is perfection he didn't miss one beat on his acting there.

    yakiyokitittiyakiyokititti6 måneder siden
  • Title: Don't do ths. Thumbnail: Points to Ryan Gosling's nose.

    Studio ICStudio IC6 måneder siden
  • 3 tips! Don't be ugly Don't be not handome Don't be not pretty no need to thank me

    Peter MPeter M6 måneder siden
  • These channel should be titled become a pyscho in 10 hours

    Aditya skaria GamuzAditya skaria Gamuz6 måneder siden