3 Steps To Go From Shy To Confident

9. des.. 2019
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Jumanji is back and once again, The Rock, Kevin Hart, and Jack Black are getting back together.
All three are super charismatic, we’ve covered them in previous breakdowns, but today I thought it’d be fun to combine their strengths to talk about how you can build rock-solid confidence from the ground up, going from shy to confident.

0:25 - #1: Command attention.
4:38 - #2: Share the spotlight (turn it back on the other person).
8:13 - #3: Fully commit to your actions.
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  • *"High fives are an easy way to spread coronavirus..."*

    LAHIVELAHIVE24 dager siden
  • this guy actually really knows what he’s talking about

    dropwafflezdropwafflezMåned siden
  • With the repeating yourself, dont repeat a joke that no one laughed at, honestly its just annoying and screams that you dont know how to take rejection, because making a joke that no one laughs at is being rejected

    James MiddletonJames MiddletonMåned siden
  • I absolutely hate when people scream in the middle of talking. This whole video was aggravating to watch.

    Strill XStrill X3 måneder siden
  • 1- loud ur voice To have attention 2- high 5 3 -praise

    عمر العوينيعمر العويني4 måneder siden
  • imagine practicing a really cool hi5 and then...covid19

    Rule CRule C4 måneder siden
  • "REESE WITHERSPOOOON" thats fuckin golden

    Porkbelly CutletsPorkbelly Cutlets4 måneder siden
  • I just tell myself "don't give off awkward vibes give calm vibes and calm vibes will be received"

    La chanclaLa chancla4 måneder siden
  • I watched this video 24 hours too late. Yesterday I went to play golf with a couple of relatively-close friends who are both excellent players and me - well, it was my first time. I sucked. And the more I played, the more I felt the pressure; the worse I got and the more my enthusiasm plummeted, my awkwardness and anxiety took over - I ended up feeling a mixture of suppressed anger, embarrassment and demotivation. Seeing JB play basketball in this tells me I took the complete wrong approach.

    SuperMisterKorySuperMisterKory4 måneder siden
  • 7:14 i thought he was about to say covid19. positivity. yes. lol

    Dale C.Dale C.4 måneder siden
  • I for real LOVE your channel! When I was younger, I wasn't that shy...but bullying took the confidence away from me. Now I'm learning to be the same old girl, what I used to be. And thanks to you! This channel has taught a lot!

    iam_sherlockediam_sherlocked4 måneder siden
  • I am a simple man I see blackjack I click

    Jim SkraJim Skra4 måneder siden
  • You see, I would try to command attention by telling folks why what im saying matters, but most of the time i dont even know. Im just talking so they dont forget im there

    SozeyTozeySozeyTozey4 måneder siden
  • Those aren’t high fives that’s a handshake lmao

    hullstar242hullstar2424 måneder siden
  • The rock + jack Black + Kevin heart = Harambe, I gonna like this video

    Roberto GarcíaRoberto García4 måneder siden
  • Jayden getting interrupted is basically a super power of mine 😣 New problem I face now is learning all these tips (and from other vids) and wanting to apply them... but I know I'll be thinking really hard on it all, obsess and probably end up overcorrecting or coming off even more awkward 😅😔

    Meghan WebberMeghan Webber4 måneder siden
  • 7:11 Reese Witherspoon

    Giel te MolderGiel te Molder4 måneder siden
  • Maybe I don’t want a lot of attention

    James CazierJames Cazier4 måneder siden
  • All I got from this is that I want to be fiends with the rock

    Lety CelesteLety Celeste4 måneder siden
  • This video comes over like how to be like the 3 main Jumanji members

    ZelayaZelaya4 måneder siden
  • I like how the rock is bigger than his security

    Edward BaleEdward Bale4 måneder siden
  • "the two minute rule" this video is 13minutes long hmm yes this makes perfect math sense

    Spacer GazerSpacer Gazer4 måneder siden
  • need to shake hands with a stranger asap...thanks coronavirus

    choudhury shadmanichoudhury shadmani4 måneder siden
  • The high 5 thing did not age well

    Alpha WolfAlpha Wolf4 måneder siden
  • Last time i tried to high 5 someone, I got Tazed.. No Covid high 5's i guess. What else ya' got?

    Monte Lee My P.O.VMonte Lee My P.O.V5 måneder siden
  • great stuff!! i'll definitely try one of these! 😮

    Big ElectronBig Electron5 måneder siden
  • I speak loudly on accident sometimes when I’m exited on the things I’m saying and it works people turn around and listen... some people do point it out but it ends up uplifting the mood and making other people more energized and awake

    II5 måneder siden
  • 7:07

    Best GamerBest Gamer5 måneder siden
  • Man i absolutly love your videos and your work definetly buying your course as soon as quarantine is over. Your a great guy. Charisma = being a better human being

    Mircea DochiaMircea Dochia5 måneder siden
  • Lol when you realize these celebrities are naturally like this.... while your trying to learn how to be human. Isn’t it kinda narcissistic I try and change yourself so others can like you? Idk I’m just tryna learn how to be more comfortable with who I am while also letting ppl be comfortable with me.

    Lone x MoLone x Mo5 måneder siden
    • Hows it narcissistic?

      Reuben SearlReuben SearlMåned siden
  • What if you have multiple personalities and some are confident but other are not? Steve

    Liam lllLiam lll5 måneder siden
  • They are all rich..

    John HooperJohn Hooper5 måneder siden
  • Love you Charlie

    PAPAIatDuskPAPAIatDusk6 måneder siden
  • Lol when people cut me off, I dont repeat myself. I go "EXCUSE ME I WAS TELLING A STORY". works like a charm

    QQ6 måneder siden
  • I’m the type of person who only talks when I have something to say as opposed to trying to fill the silence. Sometimes I feel people get so used to me not talking that they tune me out when I do. There was a time where no one was talking, I suggested something, and no one responded. I said it again and then two people in the group looked over and said that’s a great idea. Then the rest of the group asked what, and she repeated my idea, even though I said it twice without being interrupted.

    Amy SirawskyAmy Sirawsky6 måneder siden
  • Great Content thank You Coc Dem att Ene Fun Hi5 Repeat Loud Bod Smi Talk abt oth Prai

    Jason Ong HimselfJason Ong Himself6 måneder siden
  • thanx. these are great videos.

    Freddy NovemberFreddy November7 måneder siden
  • You should do a breakdown of how Kevin Smith tells a story. He tells extraordinarily long but immensely entertaining stories. I would love to see how you breakdown his storytelling skills and how he manages to keep the listener immersed in it.

    Mally GeeMally Gee7 måneder siden
  • Ah, the holy trinity of confident comedic charisma

    Cassandra AnneCassandra Anne7 måneder siden
  • I can't! i say NEVER BE LIKE KEVIN HEARTS!!

    afifa tariqafifa tariq7 måneder siden
  • I was confident until I quit my job and realized the only people I hung out with were my work friends and after I left, none of them cared to keep in contact with me. So now I just spend time with my family, husband and cats.

    SimmlySimmly7 måneder siden
  • Okay can somebody explain this to me: what do people really mean when they remark "you are so quiet" or even say to someone else right in front of me "she's quiet." 🤔 (Never said by people I know well, always by a stranger/someone I don't know very well.) Is this a compliment? An insult? An attempt to start a conversation? Trying to tell me that I'm making them uncomfortable? What exactly do they hope to accomplish by this remark? It doesn't make me uncomfortable that they say it; I'm just curious what they are trying to communicate by it.

    It's Just BreeIt's Just Bree7 måneder siden
  • Im not really shy. I have a tendency to destroy any given persons ideals about what they think is right/wrong. If I love you and I get the urge to tell you what I KNOW you dont want to hear, I put myself on mute. I need a video on how to stop loving people.

    The Forbidden OnesThe Forbidden Ones7 måneder siden
  • Damn... The Jaden clips were so cringe 🤣

    Michael GMichael G7 måneder siden
  • 5:59 how the heck do you that freaking handshake?! I've never gotten it right. I usually slide the hand and make it awkward so I just do a traditional firm handshake but the other person does that Fancy handshake and it's still awkward! I've looked NOworld videos and haven't found a how to video! Please help!

    ArchangeldawnArchangeldawn8 måneder siden
  • I’m so glad I found this the day before I see my councilor. Gladly appreciate the mentorship!

    Fiona KyleeFiona Kylee8 måneder siden
  • I just think is a bit sad that almost all your videos are from guys or to guys. There are also some interested girls

    AlaskaAlaska8 måneder siden
  • Once again the author not grasping shy by telling those who are to just be the opposite with advice only extroverts use. Oh well, issue could be me expecting too much.

    Donald FrederickDonald Frederick8 måneder siden
  • Shy isn’t a personality FYI commenters... it is a defense mechanism triggered by a fear of rejection. You’re not “shy people” youre a person with a natural fear of rejection.. which can be overcome like any fear with things like immersion therapy 👍 keep your spirits up!

    D-Risky 49D-Risky 499 måneder siden
  • Im Not a fan of Kevin hart

    Mattilda HubbardoMattilda Hubbardo9 måneder siden
  • I think you should make a video on Adam driver. Really love the he carries himself around inspite of having social anxiety

    SriSri9 måneder siden
  • someone said happy birthday i said you too confidently wrong!

    VEALofficialVEALofficial9 måneder siden
  • *When you realize that people study professionally on interacting with humans*

    Maddy Is sadMaddy Is sad9 måneder siden
    • Aspie Chadlet yep lol

      Maddy Is sadMaddy Is sad9 måneder siden
    • Aspie Chadlet same, i havent made a new friend since kindergarten oof they both still go to my school tho 🤠

      Maddy Is sadMaddy Is sad9 måneder siden
  • Sick vids bro Xx

    Dale Morrey-pDale Morrey-p9 måneder siden
  • yet another video that just recycles previous points...

    Jason GrJason Gr9 måneder siden
  • Anybody realized he left the girl out No just me😂😂

    I love you’re comment butI love you’re comment but9 måneder siden
  • For me, who grew up painfully shy, its not about how to grab attention or get everyone to pay attention to me, it was about how to avoid all of that. So the issue I have is how to become comfortable wanting to grab the attention and not avoid it. I even find it hard to write about but, my face would turn red as a fire truck at the drop of a hat. That in itself was a very strong deterrent for me to even put myself in a situation where there was a chance I would be singled out. I would become embarrassed just because it was obvious to everyone that I was embarrassed. I always thought that if I could somehow block my face from turning red, it would allow me to at least begin to try and overcome my shyness. As I have grown older it has faded somewhat but, I have missed so much in my life because of it.

    Roger RogerRoger Roger9 måneder siden
  • How do you respond when people say something mean or rude to you? Specifically, What do you suggest when people are being derogatory towards you at work? What do you do if you are being blamed for something you didn't do at work? How do you respond when you are being written up at work?

    Ten MonkeysTen Monkeys9 måneder siden
  • Intp here, trying not to seem like an alien for once.

    Grace DengGrace Deng9 måneder siden
    • Intj. Try being an alien from another dimension.

      Coco The Spooky LibrarianCoco The Spooky Librarian7 måneder siden
  • How to be confident: Don't not be confident

    Sterling MSterling M9 måneder siden
  • How to be more confident 1. Have friends with you. 2. Don't have anxiety.

    danpauldanpaul9 måneder siden
    • @Solar Aqier gotcha 👍

      Ben O. VerbichBen O. Verbich5 måneder siden
    • meditate and delete social media and stop watching porn. That's how I went from social anxiety, panick attacks and depression to threesoms and girlfriending my crushes.

      Solar AqierSolar Aqier5 måneder siden
    • F

      Ben O. VerbichBen O. Verbich8 måneder siden
    • Both steps are too difficult for me

      RankenRanken8 måneder siden
  • ⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 0:25 - #1: Command attention. 4:38 - #2: Share the spotlight (turn it back on the other person). 8:13 - #3: Fully commit to your actions.

    Grammar Nazi PartyGrammar Nazi Party9 måneder siden
  • Is there Charisma University Masters program?

    Aleksey BaranovAleksey Baranov9 måneder siden
  • what got me out of my shell was watching videos like these then driving UBER. Helps a lot to just live in the moment, and have no hesitation in what you want to say

    R.I.PR.I.P9 måneder siden
  • Can you do an analysis on swaggersouls comedic voice

    Fish BoyFish Boy9 måneder siden
  • The Rock: "Take steroids."

    L SL S9 måneder siden
  • thank you for these video's you put up on your channel. i'v learned a lot from them. :)

    SwiftySwifty9 måneder siden
  • Huh, I never knew that if Kevin Hart, The Rock, and Jack Black fused it would make Harambe. The more you know.

    Sam ThalenSam Thalen9 måneder siden
  • Wish I could afford Charisma University 😩 like $600 bro

    BeccaBecca10 måneder siden
  • This is why I'm subscribed

    MorfikMorfik10 måneder siden
  • I am not shy i am just introvert.

    Omnipotent 000Omnipotent 00010 måneder siden
  • Do a video on Hassan Minhaj

    Ayokunle OniAyokunle Oni10 måneder siden
  • Hi guys! I’m not sure if you already covered this in your previous videos, but there is a character on The Office, Robert California. He has a very interesting personality around him. I figured, it would be interesting for you to analyze him. Sure, he’s a made up character, and his style is a bit hyperbolically enhanced, a magnetic character nonetheless.

    Artem TykhovArtem Tykhov10 måneder siden
  • Great video, yet again :D

    Aishwarya ThapliyalAishwarya Thapliyal10 måneder siden
  • That kids not wrong tho. 20 something and interviewing The Rock on a tropical island?? You ain’t going nothing but down after that

    Friendly Neighborhood CrackheadFriendly Neighborhood Crackhead10 måneder siden
  • "I need 7-8 hours of sleep. That's a lie"! ...

    SInghSIngh10 måneder siden
  • Jack Black is literally a National Treasure.

    Grey lGrey l10 måneder siden
  • 'the 2-minute rule' - 13 minute video

    Declan LambertDeclan Lambert10 måneder siden
  • So be a slap knee comedian aawww

    Barbara LeidenfrostBarbara Leidenfrost10 måneder siden
  • My one trick for going from shy to confident: a l c o h o l

    Awesum BearAwesum Bear10 måneder siden
    • @ProdByBubzuru What? xD, check with your doctor about the memory loss, alcohol is a legal drug, and I'm glad it is :)

      DevDreamsDevDreams3 måneder siden
    • @Dalen Bennett not weed , drugs only work for so long benzos are the best for confidence but you wont remember it hahah

      ProdByBubzuruProdByBubzuru3 måneder siden
    • Or weed

      Dalen BennettDalen Bennett4 måneder siden
    • T R U E

      Ben O. VerbichBen O. Verbich8 måneder siden
  • Whenever I'm nervous to introduce myself and talk to someone I always think to myself, "they're probably just as or even more nervous than me" and *believing* that I'll be leading the conversation always ends up with me *actually* leading it. When I started leading conversations I got more comfortable and secure with the people I talked to and my confidence level just kept going up.

    TimB0zzZTimB0zzZ10 måneder siden
  • 00:50, wow little Kevin makes Jack Black look big.

    OPOP10 måneder siden
  • Dynamics, dynamics, remember DYNAMICS! Building and breaking tension is super effective in any aspect of communication or entertainment.

    Zion SZion S10 måneder siden
  • If you're an introverted person: Play around with the volume and tone of your voice. Get more into your characters as you tell a story. Speak as if you expect to be listened to.

    juan yorkjuan york10 måneder siden
    • 1 1 I’m introverted but your comment is why you are gonna stay shy.

      WindmillWindmill2 måneder siden
    • @Nayo Silver 1 You won't go far with this mindset, I'm super shy but I can manage to have some conversations and everything, these really work

      ahsatanvanlisahsatanvanlis3 måneder siden
    • 1 1 he’s just giving tips.... you don’t have to

      Nami ZNami Z9 måneder siden
    • Genaro Silvera chillll bro. he’s just trying to help 🥺

      Nami ZNami Z9 måneder siden
    • Genaro Silvera 😂😂

      Rod ERod E9 måneder siden
  • Please do a video on Harry’s Styles charisma he’s everywhere rn

    rachel acholarachel achola10 måneder siden
  • "the same approach that *JACK OF* ten does"

    Harm KotzeHarm Kotze10 måneder siden
  • It is really interesting how it varies what society appreciates or at least tolerates/sees as confident/positive based on culture/age/gender/looks. For example some of your suggestions would be viewed as attention-grabbing and bad style in many european places. Also I think some of it is only accepted in men, not in women or some gets strange/creepy when you are older.

    Bjula lulaBjula lula10 måneder siden
  • Well it's much easier to have charisma when your rich and famous.

    Ghost Ridah AK47Ghost Ridah AK4710 måneder siden
    • @Otto Echo Ah, good point. I never looked at it that way. Interesting.

      Ghost Ridah AK47Ghost Ridah AK4710 måneder siden
    • Ghost Ridah AK47 Charisma made them rich and famous

      Otto EchoOtto Echo10 måneder siden
  • My problem isn't drawing attention! It's knowing when to deflect and when to lean into my awkwardness. Being super awkward in every social situation is literally my thing.

    RichardRichard10 måneder siden

    Maria AyalaMaria Ayala10 måneder siden
  • okay, but I cannot high five to every girl

    jj jjj j10 måneder siden
  • What if you don't have anything good to say?

    David S.David S.10 måneder siden
  • Aw man, no love for Karen Gillan?

    V XXIIIV XXIII10 måneder siden
  • Lucifer Morningstar!!!!

    Уейд УилсонУейд Уилсон10 måneder siden
  • Lucifer Morningstar Serial “Lucifer” Tom Ellis Please

    Уейд УилсонУейд Уилсон10 måneder siden
  • I’ve never felt more alone than I do at this very moment. I’m too weird to be normal but too normal too be weird. I just got out of a two year relationship. I got my own spot but I’m currently sleeping on a one inch piece of memory foam on the floor. I was never good at making friends. Right now my confidence is shot. How do I not go crazy? I feel so worthless.

    girandspongegirandsponge10 måneder siden
  • How do i become better friends with more people when its already halfway intk my 3rd year with these people? Its too late to just, start conversations with "strangers". They know me, but i want them to know me different

    Buff NatsukiBuff Natsuki10 måneder siden
  • can you please look at Paul Walker - One of the most humble celebs to walk this planet and everyone liked him

    HopalongHopalong10 måneder siden
  • Can you do a video on king Arthur legend of the sword, and why the Arthur is so charming even when he's being annoying

    cosmic 815cosmic 81510 måneder siden
  • Two minute rule following the five minute rule. Soon I will have a rule for every minute.

    NaptimeGamingNaptimeGaming10 måneder siden