5 Common Charisma Mistakes You’re Probably Making

25. nov.. 2019
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Paul Rudd is almost universally well-liked. And after watching his most recent Hot Ones interview, I realized he makes an excellent example of some of the most fundamental and easy to implement charisma principles, that nonetheless most people just skip.

So in this video we’ll be covering those 5 core principles and what you can do to make sure you’re not one of the people who are getting it wrong.

0:19 - #1: Don't skip the friendly touch when first meeting someone.
1:31 - #2: Joke about others in a positive manner.
3:19 - #3: Support other people's jokes.
5:23 - #4: Use direct and genuine compliments.
7:48 - #5: Turn the question back on the other person.

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  • As a mid 30s Asian woman, I told myself to be Paul Rudd today.

    Nadia KNadia K12 timer siden
  • 5:03 or RUDD of a joke. See what i did there? 😮

    growingoaks productionsgrowingoaks productions16 dager siden
  • I wish I could afford the course. I love these video's, they alone have began to change my work and family life in positive ways. Every video I have seen, I am always saying the same thing, 'I have everyone’s of those bad habits'. Thank you, I am trying to save up and see if I can get my wife talked into giving this to me as a Christmas present.

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  • I absolutely love these videos!!! There's a plug at the end of every one I watch, though, that takes up a big chunk...

    wrenasawrenasaMåned siden
  • “The best way is to complement them.” Shows clip of the Rock flipping off interviewer 😂😂

    Drummer SchmittleDrummer SchmittleMåned siden
  • Thanks i really needed this, you make good videos

    Camilo ManjarresCamilo ManjarresMåned siden
  • 5:08 Caught Captain Price in the video

    Merdog MCMerdog MCMåned siden
  • What a load of bollocks. Men don't hug: it's only something that's been pushed in the media. A handshake is fine

    Richard Du PlessisRichard Du PlessisMåned siden
  • After covid, touching may be seen as anti-charasmatic!

    September QSeptember QMåned siden
  • Waitress: Did you enjoy your meal? Me: did you??

    TheAlarmGames 359TheAlarmGames 359Måned siden
  • imagine how likeable the guy who makes these videos is

    gracie gilmartingracie gilmartin2 måneder siden
  • I wouldn’t mind touching 5 months ago, 🦠helllllllllll nooo!!! 😂

    Hooperhooper HooperHooperhooper Hooper2 måneder siden
  • You nailed it!

    APoultryTaskAPoultryTask2 måneder siden
  • Stranger: hello Me: I am going to touch you now

    El MagoEl Mago2 måneder siden
  • He's so damn gorgeous 🤩I've been a big fan ever since Clueless and The object of my affection

    H PH P2 måneder siden
  • Your video so short that watching them back to back ur advert for all people who tryed ur corse is a bit much to have it in every advert take away from message I just learned pls could u try another approach I’m sure any one watching can see value of your course

    Cyn cCyn c2 måneder siden
  • How to be charismatic: Lean your head on Scarlett Johansen's shoulder. Man I sure would if I could

    RobRob2 måneder siden
  • I don't think physical contact is possible at these times :(

    MacbethMacbeth2 måneder siden
  • hug is a bit too intimiate in a lot of cultures

    kruakrua3 måneder siden
  • Me handshaking and touching everyone during the pandemic 😂😂😂

    nuketownnuketown3 måneder siden
  • This title scares people into watching it

    Bryan BreezyBryan Breezy3 måneder siden
  • Well, we can’t do #1 anymore

    AqwikaAqwika3 måneder siden
  • “Complement beautiful women for them being smart and smart girls for being beautiful”. I heard this somewhere. And it’s true. It means to look beyond the obvious, beyond what is on the service

    AndrewsAndrews3 måneder siden
  • When depersonalized is the rule, how can you talk about charisma?

    Dan MDan M3 måneder siden
  • Paul Rudd will be the new Tom hanks

    JohnhitboxJohnhitbox3 måneder siden
  • Am i the only one wondering,WHY is he on every movie i have been seeing lately??

    smelly catsmelly cat4 måneder siden
  • I really want to try the Charisma University, but I don't have money... 🙁 I guess I better start saving.

    IcchasakiIcchasaki4 måneder siden
  • Yeah I'll skip the hug for now

    NDK0NDK04 måneder siden
  • Whenever I have the money for it, I am signing up for the course. I love the purpose of this channel.

    Serge RomoSerge Romo4 måneder siden
  • Are you serious? He said and did socially akward things. He said beefier head. He made her uncomfertable. Dude, if he did that on a guy he would have provoked an argument about crossing the line.

    Hej EricsonHej Ericson4 måneder siden
  • My butthole is stinky.

    Joshua HammondJoshua Hammond4 måneder siden
  • Where you showing the pervy guy joke as a bad joke? ... because I thought it was hilarious given the context of who he is.

    DozyProductionsDozyProductions4 måneder siden
  • Small talk 5% listening 10% nodding my head 85% finding a way to escape the conversation.

    Ghost RiderGhost Rider4 måneder siden
  • Well it might be long before we dish out handshakes

  • Love all except I don’t like when people touch me, especially acquaintances that are guys

    Love KunisLove Kunis4 måneder siden
  • It’s 2020 right now and I think I’ll pass on the whole touching thing...

    App AppApp App4 måneder siden
  • He's just generally really charismatic. If you look at a lot of the roles he plays there's a lot of charm that some other actors just don't seen to have. If you want a really good example, look at his role as Bobby Newport in Parks and Recreation. Even if his character is the antagonist of a sort at a point, you still like him.

    nyangata gamingnyangata gaming4 måneder siden
  • Great video.

    Linda Beasley BrewerLinda Beasley Brewer5 måneder siden
  • I’m British so I was born with more charisma than most people.

    Phillipa Soo Cinnamon rollPhillipa Soo Cinnamon roll5 måneder siden
  • What it boils down to is that Paul Rudd is not just absolutely adorable, but he is a great person.

    njphamnjpham5 måneder siden
  • But what do we do now that we can’t touch? How do we compensate for that?

    thingsTheaterthingsTheater5 måneder siden
  • I feel like people don't complement Steve Carell's hair transplant enough...

    MegaSkillaMegaSkilla5 måneder siden
  • Can we stop touching each other even after this pandemic ends?

    Asad MarmashAsad Marmash5 måneder siden
  • It's possible that the "physical contact" end of things may have to be re-evaluated in a post-COVID world...

    Live with VigorLive with Vigor5 måneder siden
  • "The best way to make them feel good is to compliment them" *Shows The Rock giving the birdy

    AckoonAckoon5 måneder siden
  • It only works when you are dealing with nice people.

    IvetteIvette5 måneder siden
  • That is probably one of the flaws that I must work on, complementing. As an Aussie bloke it is kind of out of character for me to do it. I can see its benefits and I like making people feel more comfortable around me. I will consciously make more of an effort to do it. Thanks for the advice.

    Jake DugganJake Duggan5 måneder siden
  • When you're watching this during the pandemic...

    orchestralbunnyorchestralbunny5 måneder siden
  • i say a lot of bad things in front and at the back of my friends

    John Paul PaquibotJohn Paul Paquibot5 måneder siden
  • Is it just me, or is it hard to follow this video?

    Bluewave369Bluewave3695 måneder siden
  • life is hard af

    Master ProcrastinatorMaster Procrastinator5 måneder siden
  • I work on costumer aervice and whenever someone asks me how am i doing is like WHUT? one time i literaly said ARE YOU TALKING TO ME? :V it is very appreciated :)

    sheepgray08sheepgray086 måneder siden
  • Awww... the first one. Can't do that anymore.. :(

    Marilyn SparksMarilyn Sparks6 måneder siden
  • You make some really great points like when you said being/seeing ourselves as special is a zero sum game and getting competitive over that feeling.

    Madhav C BMadhav C B6 måneder siden
  • I have hard time on listening to you again after listening how you treated your ex girlfriend, you teach a lot about charisma but lack emotional intelligence, it’s not your fault but I don’t want to learn from you anymore.

    Melisa GonzalezMelisa Gonzalez6 måneder siden
  • That part at the end was so true. Gotta stop trying to feel special and lift others instead and then maybe it will all work out. Thanks for the great videos.

    Celeste NewtonCeleste Newton6 måneder siden
  • i tease but sometimes i feel it can come off a little bit harsh thanks for helping me with that

    Fc channelFc channel6 måneder siden
  • This is a brilliant video including some very useful points. Thank you for your good work.

    L. DAMMEL. DAMME6 måneder siden
  • can we pls have a vid on richard ayoate

    sarikatimmisarikatimmi6 måneder siden
  • Touch (friendly!) as many people as you can, while you can... you’re gonna miss it in quarantine (believe you me)

    Miguel Ángel Carrillo InfanteMiguel Ángel Carrillo Infante6 måneder siden
  • This channel is great, thank you

    Lara Anne PinterLara Anne Pinter7 måneder siden
  • How best to “touch” someone in the wake of the Corona Virus?

    Lovely TouchLovely Touch7 måneder siden
  • All I can say is, "No Homo, but"

    D KrappenschitzD Krappenschitz7 måneder siden
  • 6:15

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  • 6:57

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  • 1:11

    Best GamerBest Gamer7 måneder siden
  • Seems like the common rules you emphasize are Comfortability:the best way to do that is to make them feel good about themselves, to make them respect you and trust you, and to always invoke the one emotion you want them to feel around you every time you're around them. With a view from evidence in quantum physics and psychology, The more you do the same things with a person, the more they will like you, so make it something enjoyable, it has to do with aligning frequency. If you make a person laugh hard every time you see them, their subconscious mind will automatically release those endorphins every time they hang out with you again if you do it continuously.

    John PachkoskiJohn Pachkoski7 måneder siden
  • It's funny, one of the most charismatic guys I know does almost everything in your tip vids but genuinely and naturally, and the kicker, he was home-schooled all his life. I don't get how someone who was basically isolated his whole life can have better social skills than me lol EDIT: And, another crazy thing, he starts doing contracting IT work right out of homeschool? On a farm house? Like what? How do you learn IT when you deal with dial-up at home, pretty much lmao

    D KD K7 måneder siden
  • Positive touch doesn't work in my community. Its forbidden for literally ANY touch if they are of the opposite gender and then being the same gender is very awkward. What solution is there to this?

    Eli EgbertEli Egbert7 måneder siden
  • I feel like an alien trying to learn how to be a human watching these

    Jellly WenJellly Wen7 måneder siden
  • I’m British.... the first point is against my DNA

    J HadleyJ Hadley7 måneder siden
  • I ❤️ Paul Rudd

    Sħira yukiSħira yuki8 måneder siden
  • 10:27 i hope you don't have many portuguease speaking viewers because i personally can't stop laughing

    Sofia CavalcanteSofia Cavalcante8 måneder siden
  • once i analyze the joke i have in my mind, i get lost and miss the time window to actually tell the joke. So its all in awkwardness or no dice.

    Rhuan WilliamsonRhuan Williamson8 måneder siden
  • “ ppl universally like Paul Rudd” is funny cuz I don’t like this guy at all.

    Smoovy ChevySSSmoovy ChevySS8 måneder siden
  • Could someone tell me please what Paul Rudd said in the moment 4:27 till 4:31 ?

    best-choice4ubest-choice4u8 måneder siden
  • If you're ugly, or a nobody, somebody might call the police.

    JV TVJV TV8 måneder siden
  • I work with individuals with autism. Your videos are always great for breaking down social scenarios. Thank you.

    CosmosGamingCosmosGaming9 måneder siden
  • People walk over you and don't appreciate you when you act this way, you shouldn't strive to be liked, it just ends in disappointment

    Fuckin A JaredFuckin A Jared9 måneder siden

    judged by timejudged by time9 måneder siden
  • where can I find the clip at 0:33?

    Zayan SadathZayan Sadath9 måneder siden
  • Just adding comment because current number is 666 (You don't need to thank me).

    Przemysław ZającPrzemysław Zając9 måneder siden
  • Nice, a real person this time

    Jan WintersJan Winters9 måneder siden
  • To sum this up. Paul is a sweetheart. Be a sweetheart

    67maxfield67maxfield9 måneder siden
  • Dude makes me feel good about life yo

    BrandonBrandon9 måneder siden
  • I feel like there's a negative stigma attached to extroversion, and some of it is true. Alot of it is superficial and selfish. But I'm lucky to have found you, I am more effective at turning my energy into kindness/support in my relationships. I have been complimenting people alot more over the past year and have found that my own and their confidence is better.

    Jack McCabeJack McCabe9 måneder siden
  • I would love to know this stuff completely, the greatest thing is to master one self.

    philos4rphilos4r9 måneder siden
  • I wonder if you would be interested including other cultures' habbits in your analysis ? In French we kiss on the cheeks when we arrive at work.

    Mo ohMo oh9 måneder siden
  • I find Paul Rud to be very over rated.

    Mark WrightMark Wright9 måneder siden
  • Learnt a lot in this video. Thank you

    Jay HaddadJay Haddad9 måneder siden
  • You should do Craig Ferguson

    Manit AminManit Amin9 måneder siden
  • nothing is more fun then pinging off other people's lackluster jokes, especially in a group setting. If you have the charisma and personality just wait for the opportunity to do this with a girl you like.

    jacesaces15jacesaces159 måneder siden
  • My only ? is - - ok, it's cool & great to have charisma & get all these others to appreciate your presence more as a result of this, but then doesn't this just make you artificial as a person? I mean you lose all authenticity as an individual when your ONLY goal in using these tactics to begin with was to get that person to "like" you. Thus, you become "fake" which to me is WORSE than being disliked for being AUTHENTIC.. right?

    Lemon ChecksLemon Checks9 måneder siden
  • could you make a video about how to maintain the positive attitude when someone is constantly bringing the general mood down (eg. someone with depression that beats themselves up for anything or someone that gets angry about everything)?

    Itala AguileraItala Aguilera9 måneder siden
  • My job requires me to talk to groups of people at a time every class and I really appreciate these videos

    Corey MendozaCorey Mendoza9 måneder siden
  • This man is so underrated 💞

    Sofie StefSofie Stef9 måneder siden
  • I hate people touching me

    BrorBror9 måneder siden
  • Waitress: Enjoy your food! Me: You too!

    DigitalDyslexiaDigitalDyslexia9 måneder siden
  • Great point there about giving earned compliments. That's why complimenting people on their looks often makes them feel uncomfortable, because they haven't earned that

    Jack WardJack Ward9 måneder siden
  • I wish the volume of all your videos were the same. That aside, the content is great and really fascinating

    J1BigtimeJ1Bigtime9 måneder siden