5 Common Phrases People Use To Manipulate You

21. jan.. 2019
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I know this sounds a little insane…
People are trying to manipulate you ALL THE TIME!
No, I’m not joking.
Sometimes this comes from a relatively positive place, like when your parents would tell you to eat your veggies so you can get superpowers.
BUT people don’t always have your best interest in mind.
That’s why we’re going to breakdown what manipulation looks like so you can save yourself!
0:51 - Phrase #1: “You Said…”
2:04 - Phrase #2: “I Would Never…”
2:51 - Phrase #3: “Don’t Throw Away ____”
4:16 - Phrase #4: “What A Good Man/Woman Should Be”
6:14 - Phrase #5: “This Is How We Do Things _____________”
8:45 - Book Recommendations
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  • "You might not realize it..." Sorry, I wasn't born yesterday; I damn well realize the constant efforts to manipulate me.

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  • I’m addicted to psychology videos.

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  • Don’t listen to this guy. He’s trying to manipulate you

    DarkstarDarkstar5 timer siden
  • Does this guy have a coat hanger in his mouth?

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  • Bro break down Biden and trump speeches lol

    Luke’s PoliticsLuke’s Politics7 timer siden
  • Countering the “you said “ sales tactic as suggested here definitely works... the look of confusion and angst almost makes me feel sorry for them... until I see the overly polite old lady suddenly signing up to learn about options trading/self help course/time share/new pc....

    Peter MangerPeter Manger9 timer siden
  • Whose here to learn how to manipulate people? 😂☝🏾👌🏾💪🏾🤦🏾‍♂️😂😂😂😂

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  • Also ending all statements with "Right?".

    Hans KarpsHans Karps13 timer siden
  • how do I show this to all asian parents without sending it to them

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  • Ahhhh, number 5. That one has dogged me for 8 years.

    Teddy SmithTeddy Smith23 timer siden
  • When I hear people say, "I would never ..." I usually think that a) they do it all the time, or b) They're working their way up to doing that thing, and while consciously they may not realize it, subconsciously they're already there.

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  • You’re the best.

    Carrie PerilloCarrie PerilloDag siden
  • Yes I said, but still no

    bryan holtbryan holtDag siden
  • up up

    Wltrdz MendesWltrdz MendesDag siden
  • 6. You're probably wanna know why I'm holding you at gunpoint?

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  • I needed this right now... thanks to good people like you, I feel better about myself... very informative... dude... I LOVE YOU

    Pun GaPun GaDag siden
  • I learned alot of this as a kid. Going into long explanations or letting them talk further is a mistake. A simple hard Fvck off is more expedient.

    William JonesWilliam JonesDag siden
  • Dont trust this phrase: "5 Common Phrases People Use To Manipulate You"

    Tongue OceanTongue OceanDag siden
  • You're a lot nicer than I am. 1) "You said..." I would not 'accept the inconsistency'. There is NO inconsistency. I can both like saving money and traveling AND not be interested in the salesman's travel plan. As one of the top commenters said, Yes I said that, I also just said 'no' to your offer. What part of that did you not get? 2) "I would never..." ...That's great, because I don't recall telling you this was about yourself. 3) "Don't throw away..." If I wanted it instead of the other thing, I'd keep it. 4) "What a good man/woman should be" ...is not for you to decide. 5) "This is how we do things here" followed by "What, you don't trust me?" Why, are you opposed to possible improvements? followed by Dude, I barely had time to remember your name yet. You just met me, do *you* trust me without hesitation? EDIT: And yeah, obviously I would be a lot nicer if the comment was said in a more friendly manner, and I would not be so aggressive in my response if the other party has been kind and polite so far, but even though I would change the way I would say it, I would still say those things in essence.

    Jessie HogueJessie Hogue2 dager siden
  • "People try to manipulate you ALL the time" Okay, so you are trying to manipulate your subs? :P

    Whitey the AkbarWhitey the Akbar2 dager siden
  • "It is what it is." Every time I hear someone say this to me, it tells me that this person cannot think, but loves to talk.

    Plissken 21Plissken 212 dager siden
  • Anyone else here to not only make sure your not being manipulated and also to make sure your not doing things unknowingly that are manipulative.

    Blue SunBlue Sun2 dager siden
  • "but you said" is one phrase I'd sling at my covert (dangerous) ex husband narcissist. I also planned and managed my escape, and spent 2+ years in therapy to regain a semblance of equilibrium. That said, your analysis is spot on with manipulators.

    Weather MoonWeather Moon2 dager siden
  • You said #6 in the video - You don’t trust me?

    Mike MaldonadoMike Maldonado2 dager siden
  • so sexy

    dragonmceadragonmcea3 dager siden
  • This video cannot have enough views. A billion isn't enough. It should be 7+ billion. Yes, everyone on the planet should watch it, more than once.

    Alex MercerAlex Mercer3 dager siden
  • i would NEVER date a fat woman or a feminazi. prove me wrong!

    halburd1halburd14 dager siden
  • I would love to hear what David Goggins would say about this

    Iron Cross Training, LtdIron Cross Training, Ltd4 dager siden
  • My god, you have so many teeth

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  • 4:20 Incel Move

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  • If I know you, I begin at "You said".

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  • “You don’t trust he?” - why would I, I don’t know you try

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  • ‘I’m only trying to make conversation’ ‘We’re a team, it’s just teamwork’ ‘Could you just’ ‘You shouldn’t’

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  • All phrases used by narcissists.

    Billy AndrewBilly Andrew6 dager siden
  • I was expecting, “would you kindly...” Then again I love Bioshock

    Tristan DanielTristan Daniel6 dager siden
  • The worst one of all: "That's not political correct".

    William MielenzWilliam Mielenz6 dager siden
    • Yeah I hate how that’s used as a way to make people feel demonized for their own views. If anything, though, “that’s not politically correct” is a compliment because it shows someone is threatened by you being your own man and staying true to your beliefs. Stay strong, we’ll all get through this.

      Billy SingeBilly Singe12 timer siden
  • too much acting and we understand he has a white, good set of teeth. We 'got' that part...

    Doug H. in VADoug H. in VA6 dager siden
  • Love these tips.

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  • "I would never" is judgmental and those folks should be avoided.

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  • "Don't throw away..." is what's known as the sunk cost fallacy. Believing that you should not give something up just for the fact of how much time you put into it, when in reality there is a high probability of a better outcome.

    Anthony TaylorAnthony Taylor7 dager siden
  • Stranger: "I'm your friend."

    Patches MichellePatches Michelle7 dager siden
  • Just watching this so I can manipulate people.

    AminAmin7 dager siden
  • This guy said all these words trying to manipulate us into not being manipulated by other people using those words.

    LaughingMuteLaughingMute7 dager siden
  • I subbed you got bro code and even my mother would agree with you so yeah stay golden bro.

    Blazer AshbringerBlazer Ashbringer7 dager siden
  • Dude I always enjoy your videos!!!.

    Syrus PhaseSyrus Phase8 dager siden
  • Thank you im so tired of manipulation. I know im an intelligent and have been very strong but i seem to be easily manipulated by men in a romantic situation. I am aware of this but im not sure how to stop it or see it coming. So this is very helpful. Thank you so much

    Happy HoneyHappy Honey8 dager siden
  • This guy´s smile is so creepy...

    Erik Gruber AbolafioErik Gruber Abolafio8 dager siden
  • At the dog park a women said she wouldn't be seen dead in my car and I told her I owned it and she shut her mouth.

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  • Honorable mention goes to "I know how you feel". I hate this line so much...

    Kyle HauffKyle Hauff9 dager siden
  • But your literally manipulating them with ur response to those phrases

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  • Hello

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  • Honestly I’d rather not watch this... All this is going to do is make me mad and paranoid.

    Yaxta YeenduYaxta Yeendu12 dager siden
  • Thank you. Regards, Geoff. Reeks

    Geoffrey ReeksGeoffrey Reeks12 dager siden
  • This is coming from someone I used to know who has MANY personality disorders, she told another whackdoodle that she thought I was bi polar. She also pretended she was dying of TWO types of terminal cancer with zero symptoms over the yrs, but yes, I'm the sick one lol!

    TranquilityTranquility13 dager siden
  • "I would never..." "Well, I'm not you."

    You're fake and gayYou're fake and gay14 dager siden
  • Ahahaha i use all these on women they work to !!

    CheesyBigMac1CheesyBigMac115 dager siden
  • My dog only uses his eyes to manipulate me. Works every time.

    KR DiazKR Diaz16 dager siden
  • I like your videos because it makes me feel like my mind can be my own.

    Philip SmithPhilip Smith16 dager siden
  • Guys he’s manipulating you and scamming you too

    ReferenceSlutReferenceSlut16 dager siden
  • When someone emphatically says “absolutely”....run... 🤪

    KCC - Karen's Chronic CornerKCC - Karen's Chronic Corner18 dager siden
  • This guy reminds me of the the joker lmao

    Dopedreamz D.D.ADopedreamz D.D.A19 dager siden
  • This is why I never felt comfortable with the phrase "we stan," especially if its referring to something I have no vested interest in. It makes me feel pressured to like the same thing because "we" implies there's already an angry mob of stans that will fight you if you disagree.

    Bunny TailBunny Tail19 dager siden
  • or "trust me" don't trust them.

    Arya AriasArya Arias21 dag siden
  • I was lead to believe you are born with or without social ability. Which made me never actively seek out and learn skills. I was manipulated into a system of belief. Manipulating the mind is an extreme power.

    Chel-lalasVeganManiaChel-lalasVeganMania24 dager siden
  • That 4th phrase. I heard a lot.

    masterpysmasterpys25 dager siden
  • ♥️

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  • I have learned much more manipulative phrases from Scarlet Kennedy's book than entire vidoes of youtube. ong

    Andy MurrayAndy MurrayMåned siden
  • Yep what is your qualification because the internet is not a qualification

    kuya totoy Grangoskuya totoy GrangosMåned siden
  • Authentic, educational, funny, thanks for this great video!

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  • R: "A REAL number wouldn't do that!" i: "Well, I guess I'm imaginary then 🤔"

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  • that's awesome

    MarcelinaDiana_ BurkeMarcelinaDiana_ BurkeMåned siden
  • i wonder how this guy gonna get married

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  • #1 most effective is: "would you kindly?"

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  • Sort of like THIS list is doing? Yeah.

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  • truth

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  • lie

    gothsorrowsuffergothsorrowsufferMåned siden
  • It actually depends on the person saying it. Some people never wanted to manipulate anybody, they will just speak whats in their heart in all honestly without malice so they could just help or protect the person.

    Rey Francis DescartinRey Francis DescartinMåned siden
  • Liar

    Sub zero playzSub zero playzMåned siden
  • You’ve got so wide mouth that you can cosplay a Joker (that’s a compliment)

    Julia ZalewskaJulia ZalewskaMåned siden
  • How *not* to be manipulated: Embrace the free-thinker mentality!

    Rant GantRant GantMåned siden
  • yeah.. the "Don't throw away___" always gets me and I hate it.. That's why I'm not talking with people about my life anymore

    Lukas SattlerLukas SattlerMåned siden
  • What about "I'll be your best friend"?

    Ryoma OkanoRyoma Okano2 måneder siden
  • LOOOL My friend says to me "oh so you hate me then? you dont love me anymore?" every single day word for word

    Virtue.Virtue.2 måneder siden
    • "friend"

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  • This was really helpful

    Terry ThompsonTerry Thompson2 måneder siden
  • i just realized you wear the same t-shirt in every video.. I've been watching your videos for months LOL

    Ones BOnes B2 måneder siden
  • Thank you for your advice!

    Antwaans RevengeAntwaans Revenge2 måneder siden
  • People manipulate trough actions, through words less.

    Jenny WakemanJenny Wakeman2 måneder siden
  • I heard those phrases before, they are often use by a well-known manipulator, Scarlet kenedy!

    steffen arnoldssteffen arnolds2 måneder siden
    • @steffen arnolds i'm tired of that name, how can a manupulator have fans, instead of avoiding her! you guys are obsessed!!

      bonito monbonito mon2 måneder siden
    • @farmeil winn She even wrote a book about manipulation and it is filled with brave insights from a wise girl!

      steffen arnoldssteffen arnolds2 måneder siden
    • interesting, she seems an expert

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  • Please, do yourself a favor, become your own best friend! Be your self and LOVE YOUR SELF FIRST! Follow your Gut feelings ALWAYS ❣️🤗❣️💯

    Janice BrownJanice Brown2 måneder siden
  • “It’s a joke” / “It’s just a joke”

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  • This video is gold 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

    Malak MalakMalak Malak2 måneder siden
  • Also "you always" and "you never". Eg, "you never take my side", when you disagree with someone once. "you always act like this", when they don't agree with your actions.

    Jo TJo T3 måneder siden
  • Some of the best things to say to roast someone..... Nah No you Get wrecked Get noob Ur weird

    MaggieMaggie3 måneder siden
  • Pretty standard advice, not trying to be rude. It's just that I shudder to think of the poor souls too afraid to stand up for themselves that they fall into these pitfalls. I suppose this world doesn't always forge the strongest people.

    ThirdWheelinThirdWheelin3 måneder siden
  • I found that I did most of these naturally when I finally stopped having anxiety issues (genetic, a year of weed fixed it permanently somehow). Basically, I no longer hold value in things other people care about as much, so I became much more honest. It's opened a lot of doors for me.

    Icewind007Icewind0073 måneder siden
  • With all respect to this guy, he looks like his mouth was superimposed onto his face in post. I'm sorry, but I had to just put that there.

    MasterKlawMasterKlaw3 måneder siden
  • Your content is AWESOME. Thank you.

    El SayreEl Sayre3 måneder siden
  • When you realise you use all of these in your daily life 😳

    Lakshme VijayenLakshme Vijayen3 måneder siden
  • On number, don't throw your shot.

    Nick Talks FlicksNick Talks Flicks3 måneder siden
  • What about this guy isn’t likable because I am still trying to figure it 😍❤️

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