5 Common Phrases That Ruin First Impressions

25. mars. 2019
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The first impressions that you make often hinge on the smallest of things. It can be a gesticulation or a choice of words. Your first impressions snap into place in just seven seconds. These judgments are influenced by a number of factors. Choosing the right things to say and do will affect your relationship with the person you are meeting with in a big way.
In this video, I want to share 5 phrases I hear all the time that can destroy your charisma. I will also give you some things that you can say instead, so that you can continue to make amazing first impressions, and become your most confident, charismatic self in the moments that matter the most!

0:23 - Phrase #1: ”Sorry for taking your time”
1:45 - Phrase #2: “Fine”
3:03 - Phrase #3: “Hey…”
4:06 - Phrase #4: “Nice to see you”
5:07 - Phrase #5: “Can I buy you a drink/coffee?”
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  • No problem when I hear that I want to punch the person

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  • This guys like 15? Wise guru is he?

    Jay VolnerJay Volner3 dager siden
  • I am extraordinarily bad at recognizing people by face. When I was in sales I always made it a joke. I’d tell clients when they come back to see me I’m 100% not going to remember them, but as soon as they tell me their name I’d remember their life story. They thought it was funny and definitely helped the next time we saw each other.

    Sarah PryorSarah Pryor4 dager siden
  • I have NEVER thought of someone wanting to "buy" my time when they're offering to buy me a drink or lunch or anything. My first thought is this person is interested in you (or whoever) and wants to get to know more about you. But, you know, everybody's different. These tips aren't going to work for everybody as a lot of the things he says to say or do, had someone gone about it this way they would come off as incredibly phony to me and make me either suspicious of them or just flat out dismissive because they appear to be a psychopath who learned how mimic human behavior from a NOworld video. Wait...I'm sensing a pattern

    Graciela MontanoGraciela Montano4 dager siden
  • I always make horrible first impressions when say, a new student starts in school and I become one of the few people they trust the most by time.

    J0K3RNJ0K3RN5 dager siden
  • As a tradesman if I can't make an appointment that's all I tell them, and if I'm late I tell them I'm running late with no excuses no white lies people don't care why.

    Paul ActionPaul Action6 dager siden
  • Somehow, answering, "I'm excellent" or "I'm amazing" to the question, "How are you today?" sounds juvenile and egocentric. How about "I am doing well, thank you for asking."

    M2M27 dager siden
  • All of this assumes that whoever you are talking too is totally receptive, normal and sane I wish the world was like that too

    Oftin WongOftin Wong7 dager siden
  • thank u bro that video was dope

    Chris IshidaChris Ishida8 dager siden
  • Whoo social brainwashing FOH!!

    Neo SmithNeo Smith8 dager siden
  • These days I feel less solid and more squishy. Time for a walk.

    GamerPoetsGamerPoets8 dager siden
  • I just used the " you look familiar, have we met before" ...my wife wasn't amused.

    DXT61DXT619 dager siden
  • People should stop asking people they don't know "How are you/How are you doing?" It's such a bad question to strangers, they don't want to know the real answer they just want to say something without committing.

    Dominica GerardDominica Gerard9 dager siden
  • Love i t bro 🔥

    fifi kukinufifi kukinu9 dager siden
  • My go to when someone asks how I am is, "short and ugly, but doing the best I can with what I got."

    Stumpy1Stumpy110 dager siden
  • Okay guys I need to appear absolutely mad. I am quite good at it but I need some more inspiration.

    Chuck NorrisChuck Norris11 dager siden
  • "Sorry for the wait" = No "Thank you for waiting" = Yes

    You're fake and gayYou're fake and gay12 dager siden
  • 6:44 down&left

  • gotta say... I did the "sorry" thing for 20 years... and life started improving at work almost instantly when I managed to quit the habit.

    Chris KingChris King15 dager siden
  • What if the gold digging bar wench asks (or demands): "Hey, you should buy ME a drink"

    Pumpkin FacePumpkin Face16 dager siden
  • *I Hate the Question, HOW ARE YOU TODAY?????* *Many Times I say, My Hymroids are Giving me TrouBLe!!! Wanna Hear About it???*

    Justin MartyrJustin Martyr16 dager siden
  • Hello this is my first impression

    Harry MichaelHarry Michael16 dager siden
  • I saw what you just did.

    histakes12histakes1218 dager siden
  • I asked my father if we'd met before and now I'm homeless

    Youp_ DijkYoup_ Dijk20 dager siden
  • Me: “What up ho?” Beautiful woman passing by: “Omg, what a unique way to inquire about my well being. This guy is obviously a true gentleman. I must marry him immediately.” Trust me, this totally works! At least once every 9,751 times. In todays dating scene, those are some damned good odds.

    Kyle KKyle K21 dag siden
    • Rune M You’re right! I never even thought of that. It would be much more time efficient. I’m putting it into immediate practice!

      Kyle KKyle K17 dager siden
    • To be more efficient and reach 11457 women in the same amount of time yo ucould also go with "Sup ho" or even "sup'o".

      Rune MRune M17 dager siden
  • Don't say solid. You will come across as a try hard.

    web2ytweb2yt21 dag siden
  • Here in Philippines, this is useless. First impressions are built from other people's judgments.

    Alexandra GrassiAlexandra Grassi24 dager siden
  • I went in with my instagram username once and that was the fastest I ever got a follower

    yourangryuncleyourangryuncle25 dager siden
  • I would never say sorry for anything I’m not sorry for

    Bee Bee BeenzBee Bee Beenz25 dager siden
  • This video came up in my feed. I am curious about your background. What do you base your advice on? Any specific training or education other than life itself?

    Christine HChristine H26 dager siden
  • A cool response to an enquiry about how one feels is: "I am as well as can be expected in the circumstances." That indicates a line of conversation, such as, "To what circumstances are you referring?"

    Eric GroschEric Grosch27 dager siden
  • no 1 kinda smh

    olusegun adeleyeolusegun adeleye28 dager siden
  • Often the phrase "Can I buy you a cup of coffee" occurs in an environment where the coffee on offer is actually free, like in an office break room. There, the context is different, and the meaning of that phrase then becomes "Let's stop by the coffee station first, but I'd like to have a word with you."

    Jordan MollerJordan Moller29 dager siden
  • Just a small point I wanna bring up, but I personally don't really agree with the "just buy them a cup of coffee, don't ask" statement near the end. Some people aren't comfortable with getting monetary 'favours' like that from someone they don't know well, and it might even make them feel uneasy because now they feel like they need to return the favour or that they owe the person something. If you two have already decided to spend time together and you want to get them a drink while you're out together, just ask to make sure they're ok with it and don't push it if they say no!

    SyncKronysytiSyncKronysytiMåned siden
  • lol oh, for the love of god. seriously? and how old is this kid? lol just kidding, knock yourself out, kid :)

    carl hawkinscarl hawkinsMåned siden
  • Director: Hey, how are you doing? Me: Why? I'm now in senior management.

    Michael WallMichael WallMåned siden
  • I used to have a friend when asked how he was would respond. "I'm fair to middlen better been worse" Usually with a smile on his face.

    Guy HarrisGuy HarrisMåned siden
  • Let me add this... especially for the new generation... QUIT SAYING UH AND UM BEFORE EVERY GODDAMN SENTENCE. You sound like a moron with dribble on your chin. I utterly despise it. I own a restaurant and will not hire people who do this in interviews just because of the fact that if they have to UH and UM their way through a convo, I don't want to be around them all day. Know what you're saying. I agree with the rest of those on this list.

    Travis JonesTravis JonesMåned siden
  • It helps to use mental visuals to remember a persons name. For instance, a co workers name is Angel. Picture her with wings and a halo and it will be easy to remember. One of my co workers name is Ronald. I mistakenly called him Donald (which ticked him off) . I hated to use the visual of him in a Ronald McDonald outfit, but it helped me remember his name is Ronald, not Donald. Brittany, (imagine her singing Oops I did it again, wearning a schoolgirl outfit), Mark (a big splotch). Jim (a slim jim snack sausage with his face. I know it sounds absurd, but it works...and can be amusing.

    Wendy 1967Wendy 1967Måned siden
  • Boss: Welcome to this job interview, my name is "future boss". Nice to meet you. Me: I only have a few minutes!

    John DoeJohn DoeMåned siden
  • Prior to 2020...Hugs, handshakes & lack of personal hygiene Paranoia 2020 - 😨 Stay your distance, I don't want your Germs. Do you have 😷 CV???? Legend has it...Personal hygiene is still secondary

    A CA CMåned siden
  • I wear a mask and avoid all one-on-one contact and socialization so that, eight or nine months from now I can hear the survivors complain about their massive medical bills or members of their family that died. And that is my key to success.

    Andrew_OwensAndrew_OwensMåned siden
  • Hey how you doing? Succulent!

    Charlo RivardCharlo RivardMåned siden
  • This assumes you WANT to talk to someone. Otherwise you're going to get short answers.

    T MT MMåned siden
  • A lot of the times I am in those weird situations where a person comes to me and wants to have a conversation but we just dont really share the same goals and it's really we are quite different and live different lives. Classic introvert vs extrovert situation. I dont got out pretty much at all,it's not my thing and they only know about going out and other extrovert type activities. So yea sometimes we would have a common thing that happens like an event which results in a small chat but a lot of the times it's just an awkard silence after the initial approach of the person. I probably could somehow direct the conversation to whatever topic I am versed in,but I am just not really interested in talking since we are at work. Maybe I am just pushing people away idk.

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  • Me: Saw ths video Me again: click faster that the speed of light

    Kenneth IbunaKenneth IbunaMåned siden
  • The more I look at his face, the more I notice he has a reallllly big mouth

    BatoastaBatoastaMåned siden
  • How are you? I can't complain!... nobody will listen! The usual response I get is Yea, Know the feeling

    Denis AllwordenDenis AllwordenMåned siden
  • I’m a new SOLID fan of your channel and life forward tips! 🙌🏻⚡️💪🏻💥💯✌🏻

    TheWebStylistTheWebStylistMåned siden
  • How do I explain myself in a word other than fine? I don't really care about explaining how I feel at the moment. Usually meaning I'm fine. I'm not great, but I'm not bad either. Just fine.

    Carryn WeldeCarryn WeldeMåned siden
  • Hey, How 'bout that local sports team ?

    Ken QKen QMåned siden
  • 1.2 M people will not say fine no more

    Akankshya BaruaAkankshya BaruaMåned siden
  • Title: 5 phrases that ruins your first impression dude wtf your video is 8 minutes lobd

    VichiVichiMåned siden
  • This guy has the widest mouth I’ve ever seen.

    Alessandra FredrikssonAlessandra FredrikssonMåned siden
  • If everyone starts replying with "I'm amazing/fantastic/excellent", then a) those words lose their meaning; b) people think you're showing off; and c) some people you meet may be having a tough time with something and hearing someone say "I'm amazing" could cause them to feel a bit down. Saying "I'm fine" is neutral. If saying "Nice to see you" to everyone is being insincere, then it doesn't matter what you replace it with because you are still being insincere. Isn't it a bit cynical to think that everyone who wants to buy you a cup of coffee etc. is wanting something from you?

    Tim GomolkaTim GomolkaMåned siden
  • I always say I’m awsome, how about yourself.

    Jesica MercadoJesica MercadoMåned siden
  • Stop saying ..............'No Problem'. Replace with ................. 'My Pleasure' or 'Thank You'.

    elli003elli003Måned siden
  • Girl : hey enjoy your food Me: thank you , you too

    El PatronEl PatronMåned siden
  • When you're buying something for new people, how do u know if they gonna like it or not since you don't ask them first?

    chronomechronomeMåned siden
  • I like this channel but a lot of this stuff sounds an awful lot like the PUA mysterys rap

    kyle dufourkyle dufour2 måneder siden
  • -"sorry for taking your time...".."'higher is stature'-implies the other person is taller than the other. I think he meant 'higher in status'-implies one person has more importance than the other

    C StephensonC Stephenson2 måneder siden
  • Great advice. Fine and Nice are two words in the English language no one over the age of 10 should be using more than once a month. Besides being non-committal, this is an excellent indicator of a poor vocabulary from an insincere or insecure person.

    Wendy ZitzmanWendy Zitzman2 måneder siden
  • Hello How are you I am under the water pls help me Woehhhhhhhhhhhh *Instant ladykiller pickup line*

    Yxj LyYxj Ly2 måneder siden
  • How to make a great impression walking in a room: Say wassup b1tches!? 🤣

    Jay TeeJay Tee2 måneder siden
  • I have had a few people say, "hello friend." Which to me, they are lying, because you would use my name instead of friend. Why do you need to remind me that we are friends? .... LIARS lol!

    Maria RoseMaria Rose2 måneder siden
  • I regularly use "Hey" to purposely NOT start a conversation.

    Craig GoetschCraig Goetsch2 måneder siden
  • "How are you?" My standard response - "Same as always." And maybe add, "Bored out of my mind." or "Just waiting to die."

    Craig GoetschCraig Goetsch2 måneder siden
  • Just walk up to someone snap your fingers then say Eyyyyyyyyy

    Dung TranDung Tran2 måneder siden
  • George Carlin pops in my mind about the word "nice." "It's just a weak word" 🤣

    Covid 1984Covid 19842 måneder siden
  • Yo I'm David we must have met 😂

    AbsoluteRetardAbsoluteRetard2 måneder siden
  • I'm going to disagree on the "cup of coffee" thing. Having asked and been asked in that kind of situation, I don't want to ask someone to do something without at least indicating that I appreciate they're taking the time. Lunch is long and can be expensive. Coffee is limited both in terms of cost and time. They're going to do it or not do it because they want to or are willing to anyway; the coffee is simply a gesture. I'd rather have someone offer me a tasty beverage in exchange for picking my brain than offer nothing. If I'm lucky there might be cake or cookies.

    chinabuzzchinabuzz2 måneder siden
  • Just add something huh? Let me try. "Hey... um, what kind of Pokemon do you you see in your nightmares chasing you?"

    Alexander VastardisAlexander Vastardis2 måneder siden
  • What about the reverse of "nice to see you" when people you have met several times say "nice to meet you" giving away that they have no memory of you. My own cousin did it at a family party once! Super awkward.

    TofAnimationTofAnimation2 måneder siden
  • what the hell was that nike logo? 6:45

    Andre TurraAndre Turra2 måneder siden
  • okay I think I get it now, in order to get new people to like me I have to lie

    TheLooneyGhostTheLooneyGhost2 måneder siden
  • "the third one is HEY" Ad pops up "hey!"

    Bailey HillmanBailey Hillman2 måneder siden
  • I'm allergic to coffee. How do I respond charismaticaly if someone offers to buy me a cup of coffee that I otherwise would have accepted?

    Logically ChoshiLogically Choshi2 måneder siden
  • I have always found "how are you doing?" such a difficult greeting and conversation starter. I assume it is just a way of greeting people politely in US but for me as a Finnish guy that seems awkward. Your are not genuinely intrested about other's well being when asking how they are. And you are not supposed to be giving a retrospect of your day when greeted this way. Therefore answer many times is just something banal and default as fine or good. But you are right about that there would be good to have some variation to not to be alwas the same.

    Ruuvari123Ruuvari1232 måneder siden
  • Good advice but one contradiction. You said you don't drink coffee and then said to just buy you a coffee without asking.

    Paul BroPaul Bro2 måneder siden
  • The last point is explained in Elliot Aronson's book, "The Social Animal" where he explains how you can get people to like you by getting them to do something for you.

    HH2 måneder siden
  • "Long time no see" "How about you forgot you saw me"

    SanderSander2 måneder siden
  • I'm don't have the social skills for that

    BitchChillBitchChill2 måneder siden
  • When someone asks me how I'm doing I look at them in the eyes and in a dead pan voice I say super duper.

    jackrkilbyjackrkilby2 måneder siden
  • If it's the first tip you give to people, why is it second on your list here? Gotta leave, I'm busy.

    Blue FlukeBlue Fluke2 måneder siden
  • Living the dream, not mine but somebodies 😉

    NaiilsNaiils2 måneder siden
  • “Hey, uhhh- nice coat!”

    ConnerTheEsquireConnerTheEsquire2 måneder siden
  • When people say they're doing fantastic or amazing, I instantly think: blowhard. I like down to earth people.

    Bonnie LBonnie L2 måneder siden
  • "Wanna chat a bit over a cup of coffee?" "Well I don't drink coffee but they got an amazing Chateau Petrus from 1971." If you're going to try and buy my time I'm gonna make you spend more then $1.00 on a cup of coffee buddy, let's see how much you want to hang out with me!

    Johan BuelensJohan Buelens2 måneder siden
  • I say, "hey...does my finger smell weird to you, then proceed to put my finger under their nose. Can't figure out why I have no friends.

    Sandra HeatonSandra Heaton2 måneder siden
  • I've run into a couple of people in my professional life who respond with "fantastic" or "incredible" when greeted with the question "how are you?" My impression of those people immediately drops as the first thing that comes to mind is "fake" or "phony". In fact, it's irritating enough that I really don't want to engage with them further, because I don't know that I can trust anything that they say. It's such a tactical thing to say. It's just obvious that they are saying it because they saw a video like this or read some self-improvement book that told them to act that way because it makes them seem more impressive, but in the end it's really just more awkward and obviously contrived. When you act that way, anyone with some semblance of intelligence knows that you are simply regurgitating something you read in some book on how to "win friends and influence people" book.

    Heath WeberHeath Weber2 måneder siden
  • I absolutely hate heys lol it shows they're bored aaaand are also boring very likely. It shows no effort whatsoever and that vibe of keeping the conversation casual, 'cool' isn't attractive and that's another word I hate right there lol

    Patricia LópezPatricia López2 måneder siden
  • I thought for a second about why I DO use all these, but then I realized I am impatient with my coworkers out of spite. Quite literally turning them away from me purposely.

    Icewind007Icewind0072 måneder siden
  • 666 dislikes

    Razor_OreoRazor_Oreo2 måneder siden
  • I find timestamp very useful ...thank you!

    De WishlistDe Wishlist2 måneder siden
  • I love his black tshirt

    Mr Cat's WrestlingMr Cat's Wrestling2 måneder siden
  • ps autistic

    Andy whiteheadAndy whitehead2 måneder siden
  • when im asked how am i i smile at the person and say if i honestly answered that youd run away clutching your head screaming make him stop

    Andy whiteheadAndy whitehead2 måneder siden
  • this dude buys $5 coffees. expensive as hell.

    paul kabbyapaul kabbya2 måneder siden
  • My name is Yoshikage Kira. I'm 33 years old. My house is in the northeast section of Morioh, where all the villas are, and I am not married. I work as an employee for the Kame Yu department stores, and I get home every day by 8 PM at the latest. I don't smoke, but I occasionally drink. I'm in bed by 11 PM, and make sure I get eight hours of sleep, no matter what. After having a glass of warm milk and doing about twenty minutes of stretches before going to bed, I usually have no problems sleeping until morning. Just like a baby, I wake up without any fatigue or stress in the morning. I was told there were no issues at my last check-up. I'm trying to explain that I'm a person who wishes to live a very quiet life. I take care not to trouble myself with any enemies, like winning and losing, that would cause me to lose sleep at night. That is how I deal with society, and I know that is what brings me happiness. Although, if I were to fight I wouldn't lose to anyone.

    SprinklesSprinkles3 måneder siden