5 Mindsets That Boost Your Confidence and Self-Esteem

19. aug.. 2019
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With the exception of the big one, Avengers Endgame has almost no fight scenes. That’s because the core of the drama is the character’s internal struggles. Almost every Avenger starts out lacking in confidence and self-esteem, then they must go on their own journeys to reclaim those things.
In this video, we will look at 5 key mindsets that raise your self-esteem and confidence, as shown through each character’s journey.

0:42 - Mindset #1: Failure does not make you unworthy of happiness or love.
3:06 - Mindset #2: Offer yourself as much compassion as you would a dear friend.
4:42 - Mindset #3: Don’t deny responsibility for what you do now.
6:33 - Mindset #4: You need to learn a healthy, enlightened selfishness.
8:22 - Mindset #5: No matter what, you will be okay.
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  • "Be more selfish" so I clicked the DISLIKE button...I think that's very selfish

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  • I like the zoomed in idea - though this is often a result of anxiety rather than a cause of it - to focus on immediate threats - but a corrective measure - to rationally apply long term decision making and big picture thinking - can indeed help I believe Jeff Bezos highlighted "not sweating the small stuff" as one of the most important ingredients to success. What he likely doesn't understand is how that can be a product of anxiety and the ways in which anxiety can help short term performance but hinder meaningful progress - whilst it can create energy, it can create short term bias, perfectionism, and other harmful ways of thinking and functioning. There is likely more involved for why some people feel anxious and I think it's also worth understanding, managing and eventually overcoming that emotion too

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  • this is a wonderful video

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  • Whatever you did, you did because you had reason. Never regret.

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  • It was really good and useful

    Drake FrostDrake Frost2 måneder siden
  • Yes but movies aren't reality

    Herbologist LauraHerbologist Laura2 måneder siden
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    Ethan HambyEthan Hamby2 måneder siden
  • You know when the Endgame is gonna be a classic in 50 years time when you are able to teach motivation and self love from the story arc

    Billy WongBilly Wong2 måneder siden
  • Can’t see this cause I haven’t seen the endgame yet😢

    Linda ArvidssonLinda Arvidsson2 måneder siden
  • I'm still worthy is low-key the best part of the movie for me.

    Adam ScottAdam Scott2 måneder siden
  • Trust the lord Jesus Christ god for every single problem

    Jesus is king JohnsonJesus is king Johnson2 måneder siden
  • #2 is a GAME CHANGER. Thank you

    ALMosice210ALMosice2102 måneder siden
  • Tony’s lesson is to believe everything is gonna be Ok Also tony: dies My heart: broken into hundred thousad pieces

    Bilge AkalınBilge Akalın3 måneder siden
  • Lots of people are complaining in the comments about why he has chosen this movie to teach these lessons.I guess the movie being a global success and these days lots of people are crazy behind superheroes is the reason it is chosen. It may help to reach more audience and teenagers these days really need to learn these lessons from the movies that apart from the powers and appearance it is mentality that matters the most. It is completely my opinion from my social media encounters and I am not at all generalizing or implying that all teens are like that but found majority of people took this movie in a wrong way and some of the reasons were indeed true but again majority were on appearance of Thor and decision of Steve going back. This video addressed the positive thing that can be learnt from issues I stated above.

    Jan 02Jan 023 måneder siden
  • I mean cap jumped on a grenade everyone had already ran away from

    John TrageserJohn Trageser3 måneder siden
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    Тамерлан АзизовТамерлан Азизов3 måneder siden
  • When Tony and Howard are having the dad chat and Howard says the "my old man never saw a problem he couldnt solve with a belt" you realize that he actually did his best to be Tonys father, in the end to be the best father you can be first you have to avoid your fathers mistakes and youll probably be in a good road

    Comandante ThornComandante Thorn3 måneder siden
  • 1-falha não o torna indigno de felicidade ou amor. 2-

    Kauan PiconKauan Picon4 måneder siden
  • So what we are trying to address are distorted beliefs largely learned in childhood. The goal here is to modify your own self-image (self-esteem) to one that better reflects your true accomplishments and positive personality traits. I would restate as: #1 - Everyone makes mistakes; this doesn't give control of their lives to others. #2 - I am my own judge. #3 - I am responsible for my own actions. #4 - I don't know everything, and I don't have to. #5 - No one can hurt me without my permission. The above is taken from a base premise of communicating Assertively, in that you must reconcile your own self-worth before learning how conversation affects your audience.

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  • this may be the best you tube video ive ever seen , most valuable

    Bailey ContrerasBailey Contreras4 måneder siden
  • Self-esteem is the root of charisma. Higher self esteem means higher confidence. Higher confidence leads to charisma.

    ZazaiZazai5 måneder siden
  • You might as well use a cartoon for reference. These are actors!!!!!

    Kevin CannonKevin Cannon5 måneder siden
  • I felt attacked 5 times.... I have a lot of self work to do

    Yik Long TayYik Long Tay5 måneder siden
  • The mindset that one can wield Mjolnir is the best confidence and self-esteem booster.

    Tory LivingstonTory Livingston5 måneder siden
  • #5 sums up what i understand of Taoism. Really refreshing to be reminding ourselves of that, given where we are right now

    Kaylee MeyerKaylee Meyer5 måneder siden
  • Almost no fight scenes besides the big one? Not including the one-hit-things (so The Elder One vs. Hulk or Nebula vs. Quill): 1.: Avengers vs. Thanos in the beginning 2.: Gamora and Nebula fight for Thanos 3.: Hawkeye on his killing spree 4.: Cap vs. Cap 5. Hawkeye vs. Black Widow

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  • Thanks for this video C on C. I;'m at a low point in my life due to Failure and it really helps to know that I'm still worthy of love and happiness despite all of my mistakes.

    Hiello PlierHiello Plier7 måneder siden
  • Been holding back my tears ever since this video started. Thanks for this

    Kevin Jon OritKevin Jon Orit7 måneder siden
  • Is Thor a Pisces ?

    Checken NuggetChecken Nugget7 måneder siden
  • "...what's gonna happen this day, this week, or even this year..." My brain: 🎶 I'll be there for yoooouuu! 🎶

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  • Im a fan of your work. Thank you. "More often than not we don't think twice when poont it out the bad, yet. Often we stop ourselves from pointing out or praising others from fear we might be out of place." Ironic, I know. Thats why even if the author dont reads my thank you comment Ill make sure to still write it.. There You make sure to have yourself a beautiful day regardless, even if the sky syarts falling to pieces.

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  • The fact that "failure" is misspelled is probably intentional

    Adam SmithAdam Smith8 måneder siden
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  • This dude just used the Avengers to show us how to become better people. What a madman!

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    LoStar CoversLoStar Covers8 måneder siden
  • What you call "enlightened selfishness" is what I've always considered to be the difference between self-centered and selfish. With self-centered just meaning that you view your world first and foremost from your place in it, hence centered, whereas selfish is completely disregarding other people entirely.

    Draiocht TepesDraiocht Tepes8 måneder siden
  • 6:23 'Thank them (negative voices in the head) for doing their best to protect you from change. and let them know that you can handle it from here.' That sounds like a good solution, but how to convince oneself into believing these words?

    Leto85Leto859 måneder siden
  • Absolutely loved this video. It gave me some new perspectives on endgame and helped me mentally as well. Great job.

    Marcus AustinMarcus Austin9 måneder siden
  • This is undoubtedly one of your best work

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  • Man, I gotta say you've mined the Avengers series to great effect over so many videos but this might be my favorite of them

    Marco DavidMarco David9 måneder siden
  • thank you.

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  • The text in the thumbnail is slightly tilted and it's bugging me. Please correct it asap.

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  • This video hit home. I had not realized how much I needed to watch that.

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  • This video is amazing. I went through some major changes in my life and personality in the last year, and I think I've used most of the methods in the video, but it remindes me of how important it was to me, and how believing I can change changed me and my live even though everyone told me I couldn't

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  • Who you’re supposed to be doesn’t exist. Who you could have been, does and is waiting for you

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  • Tony's lesson: Believing everything will be ok. also tony: dies

    sunsetz23sunsetz2311 måneder siden
  • "I think i would just cut the wire" Does ironman always have the perfect response?

    Louin GreenLouin Green11 måneder siden
  • To me being selfish in a healthy way meant standing up to my emotionally abusive mother who kept using various inconsistent morals to shame me for not doing things exactly her way, even when it didn't make any sense. Thanks to Charisma University I finally saw she was bullying me and the rest of the family into submission as a control freak because she herself lacks basic self-confidence and therefore needs almost everything her way or she throws a tantrum. Now I have the confidence to say "NO" and stick to it and I feel so much better and more confident!

    Dave CullinsDave Cullins11 måneder siden
    • @Raquel Dobson You too!

      Dave CullinsDave Cullins10 måneder siden
    • Dave Cullins - can relate, well done you! Stay well!

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  • I am socially awkward, what do I do? Like I don't usually talk but wen I do I can hardly keep people's attention on me or to me 😔 I don't know how to explain it but it's like that

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  • I dont have to suffer to be a good person, wow. Only if it’s necessary

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  • I would share some lobster, but im shellfish.

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  • Powerful and meaningful video, definitely boosting your own mentality is more important than just social or dating tips

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  • Watching this video makes me realize how big of a mess I am

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  • I'm triggered the scene with black widow made me cry instantly

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  • Barely any fight scenes? Did we watch the same movie lol

    J BJ BÅr siden
  • “best friend brain” is just... literally breathtaking i was like “wow” great video as always

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  • People are using the avengers as an example way too much. Taking me out of the mind frame...

    David HartinDavid HartinÅr siden
  • Iron man's mindset is the last one I need to learn

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  • Wow... After this video I had to rethink my whole life from where I was then, to where I am now. Really puts a smile on my face! I'm saving this vid in my special playlists

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  • What an awesome vid, thank you :^)

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  • This video is beautiful, all I have to say

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  • Dont forget the understated lesson taught by Banner. By accepting the things we are most often ashamed/afraid of in ourselves (our id if you will). We learn from our shortcomings and grow exponentially because of it.

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  • It´s highly interesting how you analyze fiction in order to draw psychological real conclusions. You did so equally well on Game of Thrones. It shows both your competence and the one of the writers and actors.

    Dietmar SteinhausDietmar SteinhausÅr siden
  • You have you cover the way @stevo shows confidence!

    C. BradfordC. BradfordÅr siden
  • Very, very good video. Gave me goosebumps the realization that in you have to have faith that in the grand scheme of things everything will turn out fine.

    Dennis LopezDennis LopezÅr siden
  • With the best friend brain I actually often pretend like I'm making a youtube video talking to an audience that might be going through the same :-)

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  • The lesson on "Everything is going to be ok" is actually something Ive been integrating into my own life to help with my anger issues. The question to ask yourself of "How will this situation matter 5 years from now?" has helped a ton with keeping myself controlled where I can make a calm, logical decision on a dilemma.

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  • Hello, thank you for the very interesting content : my question (both for this video AND for the one about buidling self confidence) are your messages directed equaly to men and women ? Don't confident and strong women inspire insecurity and even fear to other people ? thank you (I come from a very conservative background and currently working in a men dominated field, and I can't count how many times I heard : 'a woman cannot be both beautifull and smart' , 'A women is not excpected to stand out for herself' etc ...)

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    • Women can be beautiful and smart. It's old conditioning of society that says otherwise which is on the change. A confident and strong women can only inspire insecurity and fear if the other person is insecure already. Perhaps they just haven't met many confident women so like any new situation are somewhat wary. Just be yourself and let others just be their-selves is simple authentic confidence advice I remember🙂

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  • And the all mighty soul stone that dastardly bastard the one plot hole Marvel and the Russo brothers try as they may try as they might they will never fill that plot hole that was caused when black widow and Clint were arguing over who got to sacrifice themselves to get tbs other one the soul stone and we all know black widow jumped to her death leaving Clint to wake up with it in his hand which is impossible because if anyone would remember what Red Scull said had to be done to get the stone he said that the person seaking the stone must give up the one thing that you love most to get it meaning you have to kill the one you love most love Widow suicide wasn't what Hawk Eye loved most and she clearly loved hawk eye more than herself so her death would not have worked per Red Skull and clearly he should.

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  • *sees the thumbnail* Nah I'm selfish enough thank you

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  • This is a phenomenal video. It's so easy to beat up on ourselves. But We ARE worthy of understanding, forgiveness, and love.

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  • Let deep introspection be the mirror to your soul - Baltasar Gracian

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  • Beautiful video❤️

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  • Authenticity and accountability 💯💯💯

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  • Starting at about 0:46 I think you have "Failure" spelled wrong. Did you do this on purpose to further make that point? Or... are you like me and forget that spellchecker sometimes does not correct words in all caps?

    Tim DolanTim DolanÅr siden
    • He just accepted his faliure in writing “failure”, proving his own point

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  • To me, (2014) Nebula's behavior seems to be that of a person traumatized from her childhood who can't let go of it.

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  • amazing, 🙌🙌🙌 Wow great video

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  • Nice vid

    Arthur WongArthur WongÅr siden
  • The way i came to the idea of 'everything will be okay' was after the series of worst days ive ever had, months of terrible things after terrible thing culminating to the worst day of my life. I got better and i chose this mindset; "What is the truly worst thing that could happen? You could die. By your own hand, or that of another or of circumstance. I choose to not die. And if I wont kill myself, then I can only move forward. If death if the worst thing that can happen, and I do not choose death, then i choose the other option- to live. If you live things can only get better." I hope that helps someone else.

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  • Don't you think that the Charisma University money back guarantee is a bit sneaky? Because, if the course doesn't work for you, you probably won't have the self-confidence to dare ask for your money back.

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  • I still don’t understand the Nebula part

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  • 2:30 *TO IMPACT*

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