5 Psychological Tricks Bullies Use And How To Stop Them

7. sep.. 2020
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Amazon’s The Boys is full of personalities that are fun to watch but would be terrible to encounter in real life.

Superpowers aside, we’ve all encountered this type: tough guy bully who tries to push you around, make you uncomfortable, or get you to agree to something you don’t really want. So that’s why in this video we’ll cover 6 psychological tricks bullies use to control you and what you can do to avoid or stop those them in their tracks.
NB! Since we’re mainly using Billy Butcher and Homelander as examples of our tough guys, there will be light spoilers through season 1 of the Boys.

0:00 - Intro.
0:38 - #1: Mismatching friendly gestures with domineering physicality.
1:39 - #2: Forcing you to make decisions in a highly emotional state.
3:39 - #3: Listen for the insult.
5:21 - #4: Demands with personal threats attached.
7:01 - #5: Threaten you with their own harm or sadness.
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  • Thanks to the spoilers, I have now finally decided to watch the show.

    Mariano BustosMariano BustosDag siden
  • I got bullied in school, until i started throwing fists

    CraigCraig2 dager siden
  • How about threaten them? Get them into an isolated area, put blade up their throat and remind them what will happen if they don't stop?

    Andy KhAndy Kh2 dager siden
  • Your Channel IS gold

    czimano17czimano174 dager siden
  • C’mon, Butcher is cool🔥

    nur1dnur1d6 dager siden
  • People watching this to learn how to combat bullies Me watching this to learn how to be a more effective bully

    Liam ShedLiam Shed6 dager siden
  • Did someone say carry a big gun and speak softly. A W

    Janice MurphyJanice Murphy7 dager siden
  • I'm not going to check out your recommended video until I've slept on it 😜

    onecoolcat 247onecoolcat 2477 dager siden
  • my friend is a bully, im watching this to understand her lol

    Nafisa HeartNafisa Heart8 dager siden
  • i don't like my bullies they always wears masks and act differently around me, and they always making me a victim

    Zacharion TabZacharion Tab8 dager siden
  • This video also teaches how to bully 😏😎

    styen dimpustyen dimpu13 dager siden
  • My go to response to an insult, "Do you think that's okay to say to someone?" Yes, this starts a very different conversation. But I'm almost always ready to have it. And that conversation is a dominance reversal if there ever was one. My empathy and sincerity might make me a friend out of that initial bully.

    Kye RaffertyKye Rafferty16 dager siden
  • "Where I come from that is really disrespectful"? Ummm, yeah that's kinda the point of them acting like a twat. They'll probably just respond with "you're not worthy of respect" or something if you say that

    Hank HillHank Hill18 dager siden
  • But what if the scarcity is real? Should i always decline and actual scarce oportunity?

    Matheus SchutzMatheus Schutz19 dager siden
  • Appreciate how you showed both Billy and Homelander as bullies. Really gets to the heart of the show’s irony

    Shanon SnyderShanon Snyder19 dager siden
  • Victim bullying is another good one. "I'm a poor woman and you raised your voice, thats abuse! Now I get your job"

    Holy PikemanHoly Pikeman20 dager siden
  • Hum, so I'm a bully in a psychological way The fact is I love cracking insult with joke or in a sarcastic way, also I think its a very good trick to strengten the relationship in the long-term, allowing everybody to be direct without remorse or fear to be judged. But, yeah, anyway, good vid'!

    khalis deroubaixkhalis deroubaix20 dager siden
  • 6:23 That is one way, but not the only way. ORGANIZE.

    Lou ZurrLou Zurr21 dag siden
  • My boss did this to me

    Aamir KhanAamir Khan24 dager siden
  • Do Frank Underwood !!!!!

    Faris __Faris __24 dager siden
  • Where I come from, some of the tips in this video just gonna get you bullied some more

    9525joe9525joe25 dager siden
  • Hi, can you please do a video on Tekashi 69 and how to be charming when people want to hate you (something like that ). His interviews are very interesting.

    Rocking RondaRocking Ronda26 dager siden
  • If someone tries to give you that "I am the boss" type of handshake, you grap their hand even tighter. If he (or she) is stronger than you, grap their shoulder and SHAKE them while you say hello. And if you get the chance, lean in and tell them that they need to learn how to shake hands.

    NDK0NDK028 dager siden
  • No contacts

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  • 4:04 Oops, missed a bleep there.

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  • A samurai is expected to make decisions within the space of 7 breaths. If you need a night to sleep on it, you are wishy washy and don't know yourself.

    curtis mcurtis mMåned siden
  • Good advices but tip #3. Telling a bully to stop since it is not polite won't really work, right?

    Armin XvsArmin XvsMåned siden
  • I was never bullied in school, but for some reason as an adult, a former colleague and friend of mine thought i would make a perfect target for him and his overweight neckbeard buddies, so i kicked him out of my friend group. Mocking me because i go to the gym, am not fat and use deodorant? Seriously? Something went really, really wrong with those guys.

    Remco Schedel—the SKULLRemco Schedel—the SKULLMåned siden
  • I have this one dude i play with on console and he keeps saying “Wait who?.....cares haha” and everyone starts laughing. I play it cool and say “you care, shut up loser” .Any other counter comebacks?

    Josiah BJosiah BMåned siden
  • *does these things to my best friends* "Maybe I am the Bad Guy"

    MayMayMåned siden
    • “Are we the baddies?”

      Robert CantspellRobert Cantspell3 dager siden
  • I hate it when my bully threatens me with his heat vision.

    Anon YmousAnon YmousMåned siden
  • Shouldn't you ignore what they say for #3? They're obviously trying to get a reaction out of you. If you give them nothing they'll lose interest.

    MurkMurkMåned siden
  • Everything is about control. Bullying is just a way to get control.

    steviekeassteviekeasMåned siden
  • didnt think id be getting charisma examples from kano

    ChooseeazyChooseeazyMåned siden
  • 3:25 or "sorry, i am not the only person who has a vote/say on this" (gotta ask my significant other/parents/pastor/friend/teacher/sensei/other)

    Numantino312Numantino312Måned siden
  • Was specifically looking into 'the boys' as a case study. Glad you did a video specifically on it.

    Victor MuravievVictor MuravievMåned siden
  • "Where I come from, that is really disrespectful. Don't ever call me that again" and then wait for them to apologise??? That is just awful advice, just terrible. You had me until that, did that come from the mormons play book or did you think of that one?

    FTSFTSMåned siden
  • 00:38 I thought it was Eden Hazard😂💔

    Abdullah AftabAbdullah AftabMåned siden
  • Hi charlie, please make a video on Agent Coulson of Agents of SHIELD. He is charismatic af.

    CosmosryCosmosryMåned siden
  • BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA Professional victim training

    S GambleS GambleMåned siden

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  • "They may threaten you with their own harm." *Give me your lunch money or I'll beat myself up!*

    He Who Sits Upon Froggy ChairHe Who Sits Upon Froggy ChairMåned siden
  • This is how some awkward people come off when they're trying to be charismatic.

    Amando AbreuAmando AbreuMåned siden
  • I was robbed by bullies yesterday. My tactic was to let them to me as much harm as they can. It's more reasons for the police to work on my case. I love my bicycle. Apart from dirty close that the only thing I've lost.

    Blender DumbassBlender DumbassMåned siden
  • All I see is: Haley Joel Osment Nicolas Cage Simon Pegg Why isn't it a movie? Why I should sit through such a long series to watch it? I hate it.

    Blender DumbassBlender DumbassMåned siden
  • I always just got in fist fights. But this is good advice also lol

    Norrin RaddNorrin RaddMåned siden
  • This advice doesn't not translate to social dynamics and the primal elements of the Human tribe. This should be "How to deal with passive-aggressive people who try to gaslight you". But aggressive bullying perpetrated by an aggressive personality, possibly one that suffers from a form Psychopathy or ASPD?...... "Hey that's mean don't say that to me you, where I come from we call people like you meanies" *everyone rolls their eyes perceiving weakness as the bully smiles* "Are you telling me what to do? You don't like that huh? Well here's round two. I look forward to your follow up PSA"

    P.D. SP.D. SMåned siden
  • if we taught your stuff at high school, we would get less shootings. its easy, logical, and keeps everyone level. great work.

    P McFaddenP McFaddenMåned siden
  • i got a secret trick my self , kick them in the balls and be done with it :)=

    Rick SanchezRick SanchezMåned siden
  • Okay 👍👍

    Paivi ProjectPaivi ProjectMåned siden
  • Bully: Insults you You: Where I come from, that's really disrespectful. Don't ever call me that again. Bully: Repeats the insult or says another You: ?

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  • Just here to learn how to bully better xD Jk jk jk

    PredawnDiscPredawnDiscMåned siden
  • I always just call out there behavior: Don’t threaten me Don’t insult me Don’t try to dominate me Don’t try to manipulate me They either back off or accuse me of over reacting. Either way I always follow up by walking away and ignoring them

    Roland GRoland GMåned siden
  • Please do an analysis on succession 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

    Eitan GonzálezEitan GonzálezMåned siden
  • So what about when you're being physically bullied?

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    Tanuki GamingTanuki GamingMåned siden
  • Just properly punch their throat really REALLY hard.

    Rome Dela RosaRome Dela RosaMåned siden
  • hi @Charisma On Command short question: where is that term "double jab method" coming from? googling it reveals no connection to psychology what-so-ever oO

    Sci EntiaSci EntiaMåned siden
    • I think it comes from boxing where you first pull an easy to avoid jab (aka punch) with your weaker arm (left if you are a rightie) followed by a strong jab with your lead hand (in case of a rightie the right arm). Sometimes it is referred to as a 1-2 punch. You try to dodge the first one and then the second hits right home. Gunny Hartman uses it when he is insulting Private Paula in Full Metal Jacket

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  • This channel seems great for actors... and psychopaths

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  • From my experiences in school, the best way to deal with a bully is to confront them when they're on their own. I think most people bully to gain approval from their other peers, and once those peers are removed they tend to be a lot less bold. On the school bus, some guy used to throw stuff at me so one day I got off the bus with him at his stop in the middle of the countryside. I then proceeded to shove him into the hedge repeatedly until he got the message, before I walked the several miles home. He never so much as looked me in the eyes again.

    Johnny 2 hatsJohnny 2 hatsMåned siden
  • 4:53 you think the best way to respond to a bullies insult is with that?? now you just upped the stakes and hes going to call you on your bluff; then what? he is a bully and relies on his physical prowess, you'll have to out wit him by attacking im back psychologically.

    FutureLaughFutureLaughMåned siden
  • To be fair, these are aDuLt bully solutions. People hating on this are referring to school bullies. They are dealt with differently. If you can, beat them up, or ridicule them for picking on someone weaker. Otherwise, you'd better make nice with bigger people who will defend you.

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  • What’s ‘The Boyd’?

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  • I think this is all great advice! I was aware of all of these techniques but I really liked your defusing techniques.

    SemiotichazeySemiotichazeyMåned siden
  • At one point of the vedio i found myself telling no to the wall. 🤷‍♀️

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  • The boys are awesome

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  • Basically learn to create/bring up boundaries with someone, respectfully call the person out on their behavior, and learn to walk away from someone that's toxic.

    AethelwulfAethelwulfMåned siden
  • These videos make me feel so confident but in reality I'm anxious af when talking to anyone.

    VampressVampressMåned siden
  • There's only one language real bullies understand and that's violence.

    The TruthThe TruthMåned siden
  • That moment when the video about not being emotionally bullied by sales, emotionally bullies you by sales.

    Brandon CobbBrandon CobbMåned siden
  • Karl Urban is so much fun to watch on this show.

    Paul DoughertyPaul DoughertyMåned siden
  • Can you make a video on how to be more like Homelander next? I'm considering a high-paying position at a big bank and still need to check a few character traits.

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  • I wish I knew this when I was in elementary

    Ninz MabzNinz MabzMåned siden
  • thank you, now i know how to counter

    Gary WildgooseGary WildgooseMåned siden
  • It's really weird that you used The Boys in this video. I've been meaning to watch it for a long time and just binged both seasons a couple days ago. I went on NOworld after watching it and saw this video. It's like it was meant for me :)

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  • Every single one of these techniques was used by the COVID hoaxers.

    Bob SagetBob SagetMåned siden
  • 4:53 that's literally the dumbest thing iv ever heard 😂😂 where I come from if you said that you'd probably get laughed at then punched in the face.

    Jaden SalmonteJaden SalmonteMåned siden
  • Funny. I actually think Steve Rogers is a huge bully.

    Kenshin HimuraKenshin HimuraMåned siden
  • thanks

  • Hey! How do you observe these things? Do you read books relating to psychological??

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  • I cant access the link to the university, please help

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  • I want to translate your videos in my language . People of my country need this stuff

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  • I like your videos ,but i need help . Because when i stuck in a situation where i want to employment your chrisma tips ,i forget ,what to do . So what i do ,is keep quite and lose the chrisma . Make a video how to minimize knowledge action gap ? Plzzzzzzzzzzz

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  • U is a moron

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  • Half truths.

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  • worst english accent EVER award goes to butcher :D

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  • Also known as: 5 psychological tricks bullies use and how to get punched in the face

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  • Make a video about Chewbacca defence

  • AR-556 should be enough to send bullies into running like chickens

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  • Francis Underwood please?

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  • 2:31 What happened to that kid from The Sixth Sense ?? Life, that's what happened people !!

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