7 Common Habits That Make People Lose Respect For You

2. des.. 2019
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We've done several videos on this channel on how you can command respect through very subtle behavioral shifts, but there's a flip side to this. You can lose respect through very small behaviors, and you are probably doing several of these today.

In this video I will be talking about 7 common behaviors that I see all the time, that are causing you to lose respect, and what you can do instead so that you stop.


0:22 - #1: When the first thing you do is sharing your achievements.
1:38 - #2: Diverting your attention.
2:51 - #3: How you handle being interrupted.
4:01 - #4: Not following through on your words.
5:05 - #5: Instantly changing your energy levels based on who you're talking to.
6:34 - #6: Selling to your friends and family.
7:58 - #7: Lapses in honesty & integrity.


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  • I feel like I'm just absorbing content through osmosis....

    quinn boonequinn boone9 dager siden
  • he's so pretty, I can't handle it

    mikail rogersmikail rogers20 dager siden
  • I disagree with what you said about people with no follow through. We just have dreams and want someone who's willing to entertain the idea to it's logical end or even encourage them to develop the idea

    thesharkboy87thesharkboy8721 dag siden
  • I don't fully agree on number 6. What if that's the only reason i'm on social media.

    Lilly LoveLilly Love22 dager siden
  • HA! Jokes on you, they can’t los something they never had!

    Alaina AskedAlaina AskedMåned siden
  • Not respecting others or your own needs and feelings, their capability to decide for themselves or not to decide for one self and not valuating one's own or others time

    Hannah SauerHannah SauerMåned siden
  • I watched this video earlier this week as background noise while getting ready for work. Earlier today I was in a group talking and unconsciously... whenever I was interrupted I would stop, wait, and then continue what I was saying. This is such a major change for me because I used to feel so bad about myself whenever I’d let people just cut me off and go completely silent. So just wanted to say thanks for these vids.

    Gay ChaseGay ChaseMåned siden
  • I lost respect for a friend when he put all of his 259lbs on a vending machine, resulting in the front panel opening up. Initially he took all the coins in the bin, but ‘thought better’ and only took about 1/2 of the coins, maybe $50. I lost respect for my friend; 2 prominent reasons: 1) first and foremost he stole 2) but if he really was compelled to steal , he should have taken all the coins instead of being hypocritical, like as if leaving some coins would make the theft less of a sin

    Rex II ForSureRex II ForSureMåned siden
  • I usually revive a dying conversation with "Do you play Minecraft?"

    SovietBrigadierSovietBrigadier2 måneder siden
  • I don't respect you because you look like a soy boy.

  • The Audible sales pitch at the end really made me lose respect for him. He broke his own rule about not trying to sell crap to friends and family, and we're all his friends here. Aren't we...?

    Frank SellersFrank Sellers2 måneder siden
  • Don't monetize your social network few min later. This video is brought to you by.....

    Cfora DayCfora Day3 måneder siden
  • Can't be annoying about your achievements if you don't have any.

    Jackson McAvoyJackson McAvoy3 måneder siden
  • I like how the layout of your videos is an expression of the sense of integrity that you preach. What I mean is that I actually listen to your ad inserts, because I truly believe that you are trying to help your viewers out by telling us about these things. The fact that you place your ad inserts at the end of your content, rather then the start like every other youtuber I've ever seen, makes me absolutely more willing to hear you out. You really take the risk to "earn" my attention before you tell me I should go buy something., and this makes me put more stock into everything that you say. The fact that you advertise other people's content (books in this case), rather then your own, on your own platform, makes me compelled to pay attention to every word you say. I mean, what a solid guy! Man, this channel is such a gem. I tell people about it at our animal-rights activist events, and I use these techniques when conversing with the public.

    Why Aren't You Vegan?Why Aren't You Vegan?3 måneder siden
  • Great video!

    Matt LeFait MusicMatt LeFait Music3 måneder siden
  • This guy looks like a male version of Cameron Diaz!

    Tom SpeerTom Speer3 måneder siden
  • I'm listening at 0,75 pace.

    Super HeroSuper Hero3 måneder siden
  • That sixth one reminds me of this old classmate I tried to connect with every now and then on Facebook. In literally every reply post to me he would end with asking what my religion is, like he was ready to launch into a conversion sermon at any moment. I thought it cheapened our old acquaintance with each other.

    orelas1orelas13 måneder siden
  • He’s so cute🥺

    Mia AngelicaMia Angelica3 måneder siden
  • so good!

    Lara LorentzLara Lorentz3 måneder siden
  • One of the types of interruptions that don’t bother me at all is when I’m telling a story and someone is like “whoa, whoa, whoa, really?(insert question about deeper context relating to the story)” that doesn’t bother me I love answering the questions. I’m also one of those people who will interrupt a story to ask about the deeper context of certain things.

    Suing for IntelligenceSuing for Intelligence4 måneder siden
  • 6:34 mlm lmaooo

    JashaJasha4 måneder siden
  • gotta be honest for a guy that talks about "charisna" i lost interest in the video really fast even with useful information.

    LP OLPMLP OLPM4 måneder siden
  • My step dad would also come into mine and my sister’s room and share these marketable ideas he had all the time. It was honestly so exhausting because he goes on about how successful it can be to never pursue it because it’s just a fancy idea that he wants someone to make for him to profit off of...

    lonely leslonely les4 måneder siden
  • where are you, you are the power house of this chanell

    Diego VallejoDiego Vallejo5 måneder siden
  • Comment on Finish your sentences strongly. A lot of women talk softly and tend to mumble. Any Shumer and Rebel Wilson both do that in their movies.

    Rachelle CoxRachelle Cox5 måneder siden
  • A friend on Facebook started flooding my feed with her “journey” using these crystal light type of drink mixes, and how we need to buy them from her, and become a rep like her, and how awesome it is. “There’s one for everyone! Weight loss, sleep aid, natural energy boost, and more!” Anyone on Facebook etc like that, as you mentioned, instantly gets hidden from my timeline. (Not unfriended though)

    MattMan420MattMan4205 måneder siden
  • 8, not replacing the toilet roll when you were the last to finish it

    OxyEliteOxyElite5 måneder siden
  • Did you insert a Kirby Allison video whilst saying "shoehorn"

    Steven ZhuSteven Zhu5 måneder siden
  • tbh i think this guy is a tool but this is a phenomenal video with great advice.

    Jon MermelsteinJon Mermelstein6 måneder siden
  • Jerking off in front of your colleagues at a business meeting.

    Matthew GrechMatthew Grech6 måneder siden
  • Sycophantic is the word for #5

    Zv KaZv Ka6 måneder siden
  • Hate to say this but... I am little bothered with him swaying his hands like that.

    Sycophantic WitnessSycophantic Witness6 måneder siden
  • Number 6 - Le-Vel Thrive I’m looking at you...😒

    Chirpa PatelChirpa Patel6 måneder siden
  • Being a simp

    Strange AnimationsStrange Animations6 måneder siden
  • So true¡

    IldaIlda6 måneder siden
  • nailedd it. got all seven.

    sarikatimmisarikatimmi6 måneder siden
  • Point 2 i don't agree much with your suggestion , or better the initial part of your suggestion. Someone interrupting is rude agreed, but ignoring him/her is as rude. Anyway the people engaged in the conversation will feel the intruder presence anyway, and they will lose concentration and they will end the conversation little after. Plus, and tnis is really unpleasant in my opinion the person who ignores the intruder look like he wants to play the school teacher that gives a little lesson... 😝 My suggestion is just turn quickly towards the intruder and tell him /her to wait a minute. Nobody will feel embarrassed and a minute might means 5 who cares...

    Palm TreePalm Tree6 måneder siden
  • Unfortunately a lot of your advice don't help with someone whos hard of hearing. Im tired like all the time and being high energy level with everyone (your 5th point) is just not possible. I need to compromise

    RenenliljeRenenlilje6 måneder siden
  • I don't actually believe anything says. OK! he is absolutely not a real person, so forget about it!

    Tan STan S6 måneder siden
  • 8: going out when in quarantine

    LittleRLittleR6 måneder siden
  • Thank you so much. You’ve made my days. Respect, man.

    Philip NoonanPhilip Noonan6 måneder siden
  • This guy looks a lot like Robin Van Persie

    Aayush SrivastavaAayush Srivastava6 måneder siden
  • Step 1: take a bunch of cocaine Step 2: make yt channel Step 3: ??? Step 4: cash in

    turtle_foodturtle_food7 måneder siden
  • is this guy jack frost

    Anxiety MAnxiety M7 måneder siden
  • I agree with number 6 whole heartedly

    Nick CoutureNick Couture7 måneder siden
  • Am I the only one that thinks he looks like the Elongated Man from The Flash?

    Gabriela M.Gabriela M.7 måneder siden
  • Just pass a GTA San Andreas mission to earn respect

    Liam KiteLiam Kite7 måneder siden
  • But what about talking about what you do? My memory isn't the strongest so I end up just retelling different things I learned and what I did that day, or plan to do. I don't think I'm gloating, but I usually only remember the bigger this I did. Is that ok?

    Quagsire McgeeQuagsire Mcgee7 måneder siden
  • I think he would make a good joker 🃏

    Adriana PerezzAdriana Perezz7 måneder siden

    murdoch chanmurdoch chan7 måneder siden
  • In Asia, exchanging business cards is always the first thing you do when meeting someone.

    earthdog 58earthdog 587 måneder siden
  • One thing I figured out about six years ago that helped me immensely is my perspective on lying. I used to view lying as something I was doing against another person. Then about six years ago it hit me - 99.9% of the time lying does absolutely nothing to the person you're lying to; it just makes them lose respect for you. Even if they don't know you're not telling the truth, it brings on an air of desperation. The best way to go is to adopt the attitude that you don't owe anyone a made-up story.

    BushidoBushido7 måneder siden
  • Like how you put the time stamps under the title. Now i can take a quick pic and think on it later. 👍👍

    rodriqccrodriqcc7 måneder siden
  • I bet he's super ticklish 😁

    Dual FoxDual Fox7 måneder siden
  • 8. Pretending to still go on with the main topic of the video even though it's already a sponsorship part. Instantly causes me to lose a huge chunk of respect to a given content creator.

    PiterixosPiterixos7 måneder siden
  • $

    stevenstrumpf7stevenstrumpf77 måneder siden
  • #6 is so true. It makes me loose so much respect for the people who do it

    Kieran CzyzniejewskiKieran Czyzniejewski7 måneder siden
  • Subtitle plis I new learning english bro

    Burak ErginBurak Ergin7 måneder siden
  • i love ur channel!!

    Diana DiamondDiana Diamond8 måneder siden
  • 1- Hello internet people, you don't know me but I once completed a 1000 piece puzzle ... OF POPCORNS. They all looked soo similar. I know right? Craaazy.

    IvanIvan8 måneder siden
  • Is it just me or does this guy look like Ralph Dibny?

    Huset- Rocksmith CDLC and BassHuset- Rocksmith CDLC and Bass8 måneder siden
  • I often fail to follow through with things I tell my boss... it's weird to me because most of my life, and in my personal life, I generally follow through. I used to always follow through. I know I loose respect with him, but I also seem to oddly gain respect from him too... He never gives me a chance to shine, and when I've shined he's never really rewarded me in any way I find compelling. I generally feel like "why the F did I bother?". He doesn't care, I don't care... why care? It's bothered me, especially considering how I used to be, so recently I've decided F him, I care about me and who I am. Just gunna work on myself. I think the further I fall with him, and then I bounce back, the more he respects me... Kind of like I have to show I'm struggling with my work... hell, I've spent about two months on a project that would literally take me less than 1 week if I cared to do it. He's not happy, but I throw him a bone once a week. Each week he's more and more excited... like I've struggled to do this insanely hard task that I find insanely easy... I literally do about two hours of work each week... Yeah, I know... sounds like a sweet gig to a lot of people... it's prison surrounded by enemies, just doing my time till I can get out...

    Mike ThompsonMike Thompson8 måneder siden
  • Not recognizing when you mess up and make excuses or getting mad yourself with the other people when you know that what you did was wrong. Instant respect loss.

    Flor GonzálezFlor González8 måneder siden
  • This made me remember a lot of "friends" that I really don´t miss at all.

    Legendas MonarquicasLegendas Monarquicas8 måneder siden
  • #6 is a huge pet peeve of mine. When I see a "friend" on Facebook doing this, it makes me want to steer clear of any conversation with them.

    USM3CUSM3C8 måneder siden
  • add Portuguese subtitles to videos, please

    Jorginho ggJorginho gg8 måneder siden
  • This handsome man's face is like a computer algorithm of charismatic attributes cranked up.

    Freelance GeneralistFreelance Generalist8 måneder siden
  • 5/ I am really puzzled about this one. I fully agree on the effect but I tend to think it genuine and very difficult to engage in boring or small talk.

    skanvakskanvak8 måneder siden
  • His pauses and looking away from the camera when telling the "personal experience" stories make me think they might be made-up.

    Linden HileLinden Hile8 måneder siden
  • I would use my friends and family only to criticize my product :) They are usually brutally honest

    Santi CruzSanti Cruz8 måneder siden
  • Is there any tips on reviving a reputation? Or how to gain respect after posting crappy things on FaceBook and being a failure in everything you intended?

    Lord VaderLord Vader9 måneder siden

    Luke WeyantLuke Weyant9 måneder siden
    • Zion Zix because it is a strong message that needs to be in all caps. Very important, therefor; all caps.

      Luke WeyantLuke Weyant21 dag siden
    • Why did you type that in all caps?

      Zion ZixZion Zix21 dag siden
  • But doesn’t an interruption represent a certain level of disrespect already though? :/ that’s always been a difficult part of conversation for me personally. There are several people I know who speak and no one dares interrupt. Yet people interrupt me quite often. I’m not sure if the flow of my speech is crappy or I’m too quiet or what...?

    Victoria SpiesVictoria Spies9 måneder siden
  • omg no. 6 was me with Amway network marketing. people never avoided me with such enthusiasm

    MrETHAN1218MrETHAN12189 måneder siden
  • main thing is we should teach kids to respect others

    Ash The DukeAsh The Duke9 måneder siden
  • haha MLM ! Gotta love those recruiters.

    Rix HernandezRix Hernandez9 måneder siden
  • "Selling to your friends and family" Proceeds to talk about audible

    KarolcreepersKarolcreepers9 måneder siden
  • Im trying to watch the video but my mom is very loud can you add cc?

    2020Gabriel Fitzgerald2020Gabriel Fitzgerald9 måneder siden
  • Lol my uncle sells stuff to his family members and friends. It's ok though, it's home brewed spirits ;)

    Damjan RadovanovićDamjan Radovanović9 måneder siden
  • The fact that this guy looks so similar to Joe from 'You' gives me da creeps

    BSA 悟BSA 悟9 måneder siden
  • His smile is bigger than my will to live

    UA's Ultimate DespairUA's Ultimate Despair9 måneder siden
  • I never thought about #5. Not sure if I’ve ever done that but definitely gave me something to think about. Thank you.

    Ally KattAlly Katt9 måneder siden
  • Please, do the video about Jack Sparrow. I wonder how is he so charismatic personality? I think he really is and i am sure no one can do it better than you. Thanks🙏

    Asat IsmatAsat Ismat9 måneder siden
  • I've experienced (and seen at other times) an even more charismatic way of handling interjections (re: 2:22). When I'd interjected, the speaker didn't look away from the person being spoken to, but instead he reached his hand over and warmly held onto my shoulder to keep me in place. I found it so cool! It was like wordlessly saying to me, "I do hear you. I do like you. Don't go anywhere because I'll respond to you in just a sec'."

    Shaun RambaranShaun Rambaran9 måneder siden
  • I think this guy is a psychopath

    Ben MaghsoodiBen Maghsoodi9 måneder siden
  • You would make a good Joker.👌

    Nobody YesNobody Yes9 måneder siden
  • When you say do not sell things to friends and family then you proceed selling things to your viewers, this ia how you lise respect for your youtube channel.

    Marius GurauMarius Gurau10 måneder siden
  • Me watching this channel: "So.. What makes this dude so confident?" *Clicks this video* Me: "Ohhh he's attractive that's why."

    MrHeyfuckoffMrHeyfuckoff10 måneder siden
  • Remember folks, self-deprecating humor is better than self-defecating humor.

    lunaticgeniuslunaticgenius10 måneder siden
  • Did you do podcast?

    Project VigilProject Vigil10 måneder siden
  • This literally popped up after I saw a video of Obama handling hecklers in a speech where he commanded the ultimate respect by not kicking them out and schooling them.

    Rob's WorldRob's World10 måneder siden
  • Stop being toxic will help alot.

    ART MYART MY10 måneder siden
  • Great content bro, keep it up! Love from London, England.

    Faris RaiFaris Rai10 måneder siden
  • 4:08 This is my life one of my really good friends wants me to get in on these business idea/ get rich quick schemes sooo bad that he'll call me with an idea and when I tell him to do some research on it he'll say that's what I called you for and when you don't want to do it with them they get all mad and when you ask them about it later to see if they did it they blame you for the reason they didn't pursue it!

    Jonah wareJonah ware10 måneder siden
  • i.e. "7 Ways My Friends Annoyed Me To The Point Where We Stopped Being Friends"

    Awesum BearAwesum Bear10 måneder siden
  • wow so lucky i can't possibly do the first thing because i haven't any achievements in my life

    TнeEℓℓy0OTнeEℓℓy0O10 måneder siden
  • 1:45-1:50 Danny De Vito So anyway, I continued shooting

    James From workJames From work10 måneder siden
  • In Japan they do the business cards first tho. Depends on culture

    Loud MimeLoud Mime10 måneder siden
  • I know a guy who is constantly telling us all the things that he is going to do with this life and all the ways that he is going to change for the better. Everyone in our friend circle laughs at him about this behind his back. 😂

    Margaret ReeferMargaret Reefer10 måneder siden