7 Common Phrases That Show You Lack Confidence

12. nov.. 2018
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Sometimes we all say things, unfortunately, that can make other people judge us negatively.
This can really impact our social, business, and familial life.
It can truly be puzzling, especially when we’re unaware of what we’re doing wrong.
Today we’re going to shine some light on how we communicate, so we can clear the clutter that’s blocking our confidence!
0:15 - Phrase #1: “Just”
0:51 - Phrase #2: “I was wondering”
1:13 - Phrase #3: “Is this guy bothering you?”
1:44 - Phrase #4: “Uh… Um… Like…”
2:09 - Phrase #5: “I’m sorry (but)”
2:40 - Phrase #6: “You probably don’t care (but)”
3:02 - Phrase #7: “My (...) is making me”
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  • This was really weird

    BimelBundleBimelBundle2 måneder siden
  • What does He says at 1:39? Lyrics doesn't work and I can't understand this sentence. "Instead compliment..."

    Alicja StraszewskaAlicja Straszewska3 måneder siden
  • Really like the bg music!

    Katharina vd BerkmortelKatharina vd Berkmortel3 måneder siden
  • Thank you. This is going to help massivly!

    VPandaVPanda4 måneder siden
  • Why are they are pregnant

    mairo onowonimairo onowoni11 måneder siden
  • liked because of the jake paul clip

    Andrew S.Andrew S.11 måneder siden
  • Canadians have no confidence because we are always saying sorry

    iwearredtiesiwearredties11 måneder siden
  • Ummm, I'm sorry and you probably don't care, but my mind is making me write this comment ... I was just wondering if that bothers you?

    kath. h.kath. h.11 måneder siden
  • Why do all the girls in this video look pregnant?

    FriendlyFireFriendlyFire11 måneder siden
  • My friends recently noticed how less often I use the word "sorry" when I'm drunk. It all makes sense now

    That Guy BobThat Guy Bob11 måneder siden
  • It’s JUST 12 dollars a month . -minimizing at it’s finest :)

    the most beautiful person in the worldthe most beautiful person in the world11 måneder siden
    • Andres Villena exactly ! It’s like a teacher telling you what not to do & then 10 minutes later you see them doing it haha

      the most beautiful person in the worldthe most beautiful person in the world11 måneder siden
    • the most beautiful person in the world the best way of minimizing

      Ian A. VillenaIan A. Villena11 måneder siden
  • Just can also be used for manipulation as well

    KoolieBKoolieB11 måneder siden
  • People should realise that when people put others down they lack confidence instead they enable them by laughing. If you were confident you wouldn’t need to put others down and you wouldn’t laugh at assholes being assholes but that’s not the norm. If you react to it, oh I was just joking. It’s not easy

    oldskoolordieoldskoolordie11 måneder siden
  • That means all Japanese people lack confidence😂

    _denzoned__denzoned_11 måneder siden
  • Young people including myself use the word ‘like’ too much. I like really want it to like stop😜

    MrSuperFly87MrSuperFly8711 måneder siden
  • 00:16 "The first word to be careful with is JUST. " 03:47 "If you want to unlock all the different meditation that simple habit has, it's JUST $12 a month.

    walkingphilosopherwalkingphilosopher11 måneder siden
  • Who the fook says 'Is this guy bothering you' ? In this day and age..

    GeraldGerald11 måneder siden
    • Who the fook is that guy?

      AdyAdy11 måneder siden
  • The strangest animations by far haha. 😂

    Digital Millennium MediaDigital Millennium Media11 måneder siden
  • *Just the tip*

    SimonasSimonas11 måneder siden
  • hey cinci

    10cody710cody711 måneder siden
  • 1:11 nice

    Mike AliMike Ali11 måneder siden
  • THANK YOU for this video, it confirmed what I'd always suspected about myself

    ratsaladratsalad11 måneder siden
  • Just 12 dollars a month wtf thats more than my crunchy roll membership

    nobodycaresTTVnobodycaresTTVÅr siden
  • Ok but what if your boss is forcing you watch Bridget Jones in Cincinnati?

    jimon8998jimon8998År siden
  • These animations with character in the fetal position with tears made me chuckle. Side note, good video.

    Andre BaxterAndre BaxterÅr siden
  • That Jake Paul bit hurt 😂

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  • Hadn't thought about the "just" one, but now I can see how it's overly deferential and minimizing. Also, you'll find that dumping the "ums" "ahs" and "likes" will actually clarify your thinking. That noise is static playing over the music.

    Matt BonnevilleMatt BonnevilleÅr siden
  • Both your graphics and words suggest confidence in the art of interacting with a female. Now, that makes this video redundant. A woman will pick up on lack of confidence by your pose or the way you look at her, long before she hears you speak.

    Nagy LevyNagy LevyÅr siden
  • Sample Habit app is for the most part no longer free. Big disappointment

    oljenka88oljenka88År siden
  • What about saying "honestly" all the time

    IntensiVIntensiVÅr siden
  • From last 2-3 years, I searched all the possible content there was and read all the books to read because I wanted to learn how this works in real world not only this but I kept on practicing all the craft I've had learnt in real world and kept on doing experimentation. I am no saying that I have become a master but I have become better than most of the guys in my collage.

    Masroor AhmadMasroor AhmadÅr siden
  • This was useful! My personal one is 'I was just wondering..' I literally say that all the time, especially in emails. Thanks Charlie

    Edward BashamEdward BashamÅr siden
    • Same bro. "I just wanted to see if..." or "I was just wondering whether you..." It's like I'm trying to soften the blow of asking for something directly so they don't get upset or think I'm demanding. Ridiculous, it's time to grow some balls lol

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  • 'Just' $12 per month? That's just too expensive.

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  • “Just” doesn’t seem like a real word anymore

    Justin KickerJustin KickerÅr siden
  • Thank god someone called out Jake Paul for hiatuses of the word like

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  • Love your videos. Thanks for helping everyone. :)

    Nic McconchieNic McconchieÅr siden
  • I just wanted to come here to see what this video is about

    M TaylorM TaylorÅr siden
  • 3:27 Recap

    Norman HNorman HÅr siden
  • That moment when you realize you do almost all of these things...

    molly18191molly18191År siden
  • I really like this channel. THere are a lot of wonderful recommendation I found)) Anyway I supose we need to take into account people mentality. Most these avoidings is not appropriate for Japan, for example)) Normal confidence for us could be the utmost rudeness for them. And you should tell "UH" and "UMM" really often in Japanese (we had additional lesson lerning that, lol )))

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  • This music is so interesting because it sounds completely unrelated to the content of the video.

    James AllbeeJames AllbeeÅr siden
  • I hate the, "I'm sorry, but.." sentence. Or the, "I know you don't want to hear this but,...."

    Lioness BeautyLioness BeautyÅr siden
  • lol wtf is this music

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    kit stephenskit stephensÅr siden
  • "My mom is making me"

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    • "My mom made me"

      ObserverObserver8 måneder siden
  • Oh man I’m terrible about “I was wondering.”

    KittySnickerKittySnickerÅr siden
  • I really like the music

    Akutabe A.Akutabe A.År siden
  • The whole pause while you speak thing....If you pause, people jump in immediately and start talking. I've noticed this happens 90% of the time. I have even found myself talking faster with this type of person so I can actually say what I need to before they start blabbing with their own input, which is obviously always more important. I also find myself getting interrupted a lot. More and more as I get older, especially by 20 somethings.

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  • sorry but i genuinely cannot stop saying sorry its in my canadian blood i cant help it

    NataliaNataliaÅr siden
  • Surely do a charisma analysis on Harvey specter from suits. The case makes itself

    Tate ETate EÅr siden
  • who else laughed at jake paul lol

    Betsy SaputoBetsy SaputoÅr siden
  • At one point, my friend's younger brother was super girl crazy, and every day, he would hang out with a bunch of girls, so one day, when he was talking to a girl, I went up to him and said, "Aww, Ajay, are you trying to get a new girlfriend?" and it was super funny seeing him just standing there with a red face. A few weeks later, one of my friends who was also girl crazy, but at a much higher level, was talking to a girl, so I said, "Aww, Travis, are you trying to get another girlfriend?", but it backfired because he said, "Ben, why do you have to make everything weird?"

    NeatherBen221NeatherBen221År siden
  • I think my ability to have a conversation just dies near good looking ladies. I'm fine with literally everyone else. I feel more confident in a career interview than when im having small talk with girls. I'm just so awkward and useless :D I dont know what to do lol. I'm a 27 year old beast that turns into a sheep when in the presence of a lovely friend. A shame to be sure!

    SlowbroSlowbroÅr siden
  • 2:06 OMG I DIED HERE 😂😂👏

    Jemma CJemma CÅr siden
  • English is my third language, so I guess I kinda don't use those phrases at all [SELF CONFIDENCE INTENSIFIES] *FEELING EXTREMELY CONFIDENT*

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  • Keep going

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  • Temporarily

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  • Huh, I understand everything now

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  • 2:06 call out lmao!!

    letsgetluckyletsgetluckyÅr siden
  • My boss is scary, I find it hard to not be indirect when emailing and their responses are always curt without even a greeting or sign off, just straight to the point in one sentence

    Lava YukiLava YukiÅr siden
  • One thing I'd like to mention about filler words is that I've seen many conversations where, when someone does leave a brief silence, whoever is listening will immediately start talking, interrupting what the former person was saying. I think people intrinsically use filler words to indicate they still have more to say but need to parse thoughts. I agree that these fillers shouldn't be used (people should be respectful and listen for an actual terminus of the thought), but that these fillers may be the only way to finish your sentence.

    Ellie LogieEllie LogieÅr siden
  • kurzgesagt called, they want their art style back

    mange88mange88År siden
  • First step toward confidence: dont sign up for the paid service advertised in this video. BOOOM O>o

    Screw The NetScrew The NetÅr siden
  • Never say sorry. Simply say "oops"🙄

    Randi SzöküldRandi SzöküldÅr siden
  • I do ALL of these very consistantly. Gonna be a tough habit to get out of

    Braden SavageBraden SavageÅr siden
  • Add subtitle to videos please

    Ulvi SafariUlvi SafariÅr siden
  • You explain very well why these phrases often show lacking confidence.

    Buddy BoerkoelBuddy BoerkoelÅr siden
  • “I don’t know you and I don’t care to know you.”

    Madness1845Madness1845År siden
  • Basically don't use the word *WAS*

    Mushy KushMushy KushÅr siden
  • This is not the Infographic Show

    MagenerTechMagenerTechÅr siden
  • 0:58 always ask questions in simple and direct terms - it puts the other on the defensive. Their answer very well could include a "just" 2:33 The 'I'm sorry' puts one, immediately, in a position of weakness and submission. You admit defeat before you begin. Stronger personalities then have the opportunity to hijack the situation and force your attention inward upon your own emotions - makes you damage your own ego. Insidious. 2:52 This is also a subconscious way of artificially generating sympathy in order to exploit others' empathy before you state what your intention is. It also serves to admonish personal feelings of guilt, embarrassment, or fear. 3:14 If one were indeed being forced to do something, they would probably do as little as possible to accomplish it. Don't trust the work of someone who is coerced: it is frequently incomplete, lazy, and superficial. If I am being forced I must not care a damn / I'll do anything to make the coercion stop...this is why torture doesn't work.

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  • 0:53

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  • Obama cough cough, Elon musk

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  • Obama cough cough, Elon musk

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  • I would also add the phrase "I think"

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  • Well apparently when I don’t do these things and be confident people call me rude ???

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  • If your job involves fixing things (whether that be cars or computers), there's a minefield of phrases that imply lack of confidence. "I've made X change, it should work now". Should work? You either fixed it you didn't. "I've made X, Y, and Z changes and WD40d the flux capacitor to allow it to A, B, and C". They don't care bud. It just comes across as you trying to claim the fix was really complicated, and that if it goes wrong again, that's why. Tell them you fixed it, and anything else they need to be aware of.

    Ed OnslowEd OnslowÅr siden
  • its just 12 dollars a month or IT IS 12 DOLLARS A MONTH

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  • Here after beerbiceps

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  • Every single one of these points is completely subjective.

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  • I think these can still happen, buy it depends on how you act before and after its said.

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  • Cincinnati gang

    Bigger KahunaBigger KahunaÅr siden
  • They’re just words it has nothing to do with confidence fallowing this videos advice makes you a robot also fake

    GalacticNavy UnitedGalacticNavy UnitedÅr siden
  • Love the animation!

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  • why is confidence even important

    Daniel LaCosseDaniel LaCosseÅr siden
  • Hey do you feel anxious about every day language and feel unconfident when talking to people? Here's 10 tiny details to fixate on because you're not acceptable if you're not confident!

    Jack BouchierJack BouchierÅr siden
  • 2:50 Feeling unconfident in what you want to say? Just be more confident! Problem solved!

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  • I've subscribed. Your videos that I've watched so far are good and I hope it can help me with my life in the future.

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  • Sorry, not sorry

    Hector NonayurbusinessHector NonayurbusinessÅr siden
  • *my wife is making me a sandwich*

    Succulent RavioliSucculent RavioliÅr siden
  • Just make yourself independent and show everyone you dont need them. They will flock to you

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  • Very good animation 👍

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  • i literally am disgusted when people do these things, cut all these habits out when i was maybe 17.

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  • 0:58 Artist was having fun 😂

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  • 2:12 someone isnt canadian

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  • I do lack confidence tho

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  • Just remember, too much confidence is dangerous. Examine your behaviour from time to time and make sure it doesn't cross the line to over-confidence or arrogance.

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  • I'm so full of confidence I dont even speak to others

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  • I’m sorry, but I was just wondering, like uhm, why my recommended is making me watch this, like uhm, you probably don’t care anyways but, I just thought that this guy might be bothering you.

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  • I used to say "sorry" way too much, both in writing and in person. The best tip I ever got on this was to swap "sorry" with "thank you", flipping my apology for my behavior into appreciation of the other person's behavior. "Thank you for waiting", "thank you for listening" and thank you for reading my comment.

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