7 Red Flags In Dating You Should Never Ignore

25. mai. 2020
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90 Day Fiance videos have been making the rounds on NOworld recently, and wow, there are some amazingly toxic relationships in that show.
Unfortunately it can be hard to recognize when your own relationship is headed towards trouble until it's too late, so today we're going to cover 7 red flags that are early signs of a toxic relationship.

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0:48 - #1: Prioritizing being attractive over being honest.
1:50 - #2: Makes it a headache to not give them what they want.
3:46 - #3: Their actions don't match their words.
4:56 - #4: Your friends and family don't like your relationship.
6:15 - #5: Toxic people will try to distance you from other people.
7:44 - #6: We see our significant other as we want them to be.
9:15 - #7: Your relationship is a roller coaster with extreme highs and lows.
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  • I like how this dude didn't want to buy 20 Dollar Flowers for a 1 Dollar Woman

    KenjiKenjiDag siden
  • These people are awful human beings 🤮🤮🤮🤮

    ZaraBee28ZaraBee282 dager siden
  • while I side-eye gold diggers, I respect that level of bold self-confidence. idk.

    fata morganafata morgana2 dager siden
  • Ahahaa at 3:22 she is straight up crying for a shag 🤣 that’s a new tactic if I’ve ever seen one

    Himi JendrixHimi Jendrix3 dager siden
  • @1:03 This guy Ed looks HORRIBLE. Now granted we can't do anything with the looks we are born with.....but we CAN CONTROL how in shape we are. It just takes work. This guy Ed looks like he doesn't give a crap about being an OBEAST FAT SLOB. SMH

    Richard HarrisRichard Harris3 dager siden
  • I really appreciate this video. The number 3 about saying what they think I want to hear is an issue I've encountered way too much and it's a massive Red Flag because when face to face when they're trying to impress you it's obvious that they're miserabile doing what you want and it could've been avoided if they were honest from the start. Sadly I only recently learned how to avoid this Red Flag and here's I what I do, 1. Sometimes you have to trick them into telling the truth. Say for example you love women that wear heels or dresses and these days there's a lot of women that hate and/or refuse to do those things(especially in the USA where I live, at least for a man). Rather than telling them what you like ask a question that makes them admit they hate doing those things and if they try to change their answer just say "I believe the first answer is always the correct answer." and leave them because you'll never be happy with them hating something simple like that. 2. Understand women have a comfort zone. I don't give a damn what any woman says, if they tell you about the type of men they dated you should notice a pattern like for example women that have been with abusive men, jail birds, drug addicts and rotten to the core bad boys. A lot of women that were with men like these claim they want someone different, but different isn't their comfort zone because these women tend to always return to the SAME. If you don't fit the type of man they're used to being with long term then at best you're either being used or maybe you're a one night stand to them. Never expect these women to stick around. I like women that are already different because I tend to be different so I can't take a lady serious that claim they're looking for different because those women are the ones that tend to lie to me the most about wanting to do the things I like.

    Life TaughtLife Taught4 dager siden
  • long time online is bad .

    Mr BardelMr Bardel5 dager siden
  • Why you get all these women that they get from you know overseas somewhere come here and the act and dress like s**** and can you not tell from the way they're dressed and we're acting there nothing but total gold diggers I realize it's hard to find a person and the ones that you going to find the fastest is the gold diggers especially when you telling me have money can't you get that yet that's why you end up with nothing or being miserable walk away from these women big mistake guys come on

    Barbara LoneroBarbara Lonero5 dager siden
  • My favorite is when she’s texting someone and says “oh he’s just a friend “

    Big JohnsonBig Johnson6 dager siden
  • Know thyself....relationships are highly overrated

    Oftin WongOftin Wong6 dager siden
  • just when I thought we couldn't sink any lower, here we have these shows

    gReGsKi GmAiLgReGsKi GmAiL7 dager siden
  • Red flag no 1. I got to be at work in x hrs, my nipples can't be bruised. Rf2 how much money do you make. Rf3? No important.

    Jesse TateJesse Tate10 dager siden
  • You're not looking for the red flags in women.. women ARE the red flags.

    Aaron SweeneyAaron Sweeney11 dager siden
  • Highly recommended!! I was in a toxic relationship for long time. My ex applied all 7 things that you mentioned in the video. Amazing video!

    Michael De SalviaMichael De Salvia11 dager siden
  • I think all men's motivation for doing most things in a relationship are to avoid headaches.

    Brian SamphsBrian Samphs13 dager siden
  • @6:48mins . looing like xvideos blonde section

    Ernest LondeErnest Londe13 dager siden
  • It's amazing that the last girl that I was going out with checked all of these boxes.

    Wagner NogueiraWagner Nogueira13 dager siden
  • I actually agree with the dude who doesn’t want her to have ‘girls nights out’. I knew this was a bad idea before I became an Uber driver. Now I can’t tell you how many women on girls nights are going home with a random guy who isn’t their SO

    Logan FocoLogan Foco15 dager siden
  • The girls night thing is a real concern. Not controlling

    Nick SteveNick Steve15 dager siden
  • I'm pretty sure these shows are all scripted.

    Ton618Ton61815 dager siden
  • Never trust anyone that picks up their drink and sips a tiny bit then puts it down

    Missy the StaffyMissy the Staffy16 dager siden
  • Why all those women have so ugly lips?

    Oleh510Oleh51016 dager siden
  • Love dis

    Social GuideSocial Guide17 dager siden
  • "Door Test"

    pavXXpavXX17 dager siden
  • With the flowers thing, I have to agree. Men these need to learn to be romantic with flowers.

    wacky jackywacky jacky17 dager siden
  • 30 year age gap is not a problem if you are in great shape like Sylvester Stallone!

    HW2800HW280020 dager siden
  • 90 day fiance is only good for 89. Use it then bye bye. Then just get another.

    Mr. GabinitMr. Gabinit21 dag siden
  • Put out or get out someone poured cement in her vagina should be worthless if she wasn't giving head life is transactional if you want money you will satisfy me sexually or you were out the f****** door f*** you skeezers

    Ryan ReaganRyan Reagan21 dag siden
  • I suspected my husband always texting a lady on his phone , We’ve been married for 18 years, we’ve both been happy together until recently when he switched side and I found out he has been cheating .I explained my story to a colleague at work then she introduced me to this genuine hacker, Darkwebprohacker who gave me access to his phone , I had complete access to his phone right on my own device and I could see all his activities for the past 2years and also have access to new notifications, his text messages, Facebook messages,location, call logs, and I found out my husband was also flirting on dating sites..I love my husband a lot and I still don’t understand why he betrayed me, I have been a good hardworking wife and never for once cheated on him. I tracked him down and found out he was always going to sleep in another woman’s house with me thinking my husband is always at work for night shift. You can contact this great hacker who helped me found out the truth about my husband at darkwebprohack(at)gmail com or Whatsapp +17076225057 or text and call them directly on the same number.They helped me get access into his phone without even touching his phone.I have enough evidence against my husband and I am thinking of Filing for divorce.I want advice if I should give him another chance or let go ?We have 2 kids together it's a painful feeling but I believe things happen in life it comes as it goes, as it says what doesn't kills makes you stronger.

    Joyce RouseJoyce Rouse22 dager siden
  • I NEXT any girl who wants a girls' night out or a weekend trip with the girls. A woman like that is on the prowl. She is welcome to go, but she will no longer be welcome in my life when she returns.

    john03063john0306322 dager siden
    • I suspected my husband always texting a lady on his phone , We’ve been married for 18 years, we’ve both been happy together until recently when he switched side and I found out he has been cheating .I explained my story to a colleague at work then she introduced me to this genuine hacker, Darkwebprohacker who gave me access to his phone , I had complete access to his phone right on my own device and I could see all his activities for the past 2years and also have access to new notifications, his text messages, Facebook messages,location, call logs, and I found out my husband was also flirting on dating sites..I love my husband a lot and I still don’t understand why he betrayed me, I have been a good hardworking wife and never for once cheated on him. I tracked him down and found out he was always going to sleep in another woman’s house with me thinking my husband is always at work for night shift. You can contact this great hacker who helped me found out the truth about my husband at darkwebprohack(at)gmail com or Whatsapp +17076225057 or text and call them directly on the same number.They helped me get access into his phone without even touching his phone.I have enough evidence against my husband and I am thinking of Filing for divorce.I want advice if I should give him another chance or let go ?We have 2 kids together it's a painful feeling but I believe things happen in life it comes as it goes, as it says what doesn't kills makes you stronger.

      Joyce RouseJoyce Rouse22 dager siden
  • Lol that first dude, I woulda beat that b*tch a$$ 😂😂😂😂 Edit: Jesus man are people this desperate to be with someone that treats them like this yikes

    TVBUUTVBUU23 dager siden
  • The difference between four legged cattle and two legged cattle is that as much as each eat, sleep, fight everything, breed, leave excrement, and tear up stuff, is that at least four legged cattle are useful as a food source. At least they have purpose in life. So do you really want to be part of the herd? Facepalm 🤦‍♂️

    Kenneth WhitworthKenneth Whitworth24 dager siden
  • If you find a quiet gentle soul, keep them.

    Kitdor BlahKitdor Blah24 dager siden
  • These dudes are simps. Damn.

    TheWinterShadowTheWinterShadow24 dager siden
  • Why did you not address age gaps? At the beginning you're like we're not gonna discuss obvious red flags like a 30 year age difference. Sorry but why? Most men in relationships date younger women much much younger women in fact it is very very common and you decide not to talk about it cause "its obvious red flags" to you and I maybe but clearly not to the majority. Should've talked about that topic

    Risingofthephoenixx xRisingofthephoenixx x25 dager siden
  • This “professional analysis” and instructions of what to see as a red flag is a red flag...for humanity. No one is perfect ever has been or ever will be. When you allow some supposedly educated hack to dictate how you should live your life or tell what and what not to look for in your significant other then your just being fake and untrue to yourself. Some people are happy in a relationship that others wouldn’t be happy in because everyone is different. Don’t let anyone get you to think you shouldn’t when you it’s what you truly want or call something bad when it’s something you like. Some women don’t mind a bossy guy just like some guys don’t mind living with an bossy women or whatever. To each their own...you be you...screw these clinicians who think a degree makes them know better than everyone else

    RJ TellesRJ Telles25 dager siden
  • Why if a woman even thinks she gets slightly offended she has the right to slap/beat/throw drink ? If a woman burns a mans house,keys his car and takes all his money he doesn't even have the right to TELL her he's gonna slap her - EQUAL RIGHTS !!!!

    AntipapirusAntipapirus26 dager siden
  • Hi, can you please do a video on Tekashi 69 and how to be charming when people want to hate you (something like that ). His interviews are very interesting.

    Rocking RondaRocking Ronda26 dager siden
  • Even women you should avoid are those who use you & pretend to say that i love you & are not showing the proof of that love they only love what,s in your pocket those are red flags to so guys find ways & means to give them a taste of their own medicine cause nobody wants toxic people around them.

    Chirstian BennChirstian Benn26 dager siden
  • 1st Take: "my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier." Yours sincerely, Sheryl Sandberg, chief operating officer of Facebook 2nd Take: What most simps, feminist fe/males, white-knights, betas and conservative guys fail to realize: bad boys provide excitement, novelty, unpredictability and fun (fear, roller-coaster drama) to a new level. In other words, stability and commitment (no longer) won't cut it for today's 🦄. Why is that? Before she was your girlfriend, wife or lover, she already had been "run through" so many guys. And each time she slept with someone (both wo/men), she lost a part of her soul. In other words, she is no longer able to have emotional attachment in a healthy or committed way. Isaiah 3:12 Childish leaders oppress my people, and women rule over them. O my people, your leaders mislead you; they send you down the wrong road *Anatomy of Female Power* by Chinweizu Ibekwe *Silent Weapons for Quiet Wars: An Introductory Programing Manual* by Anonymous

    B GB G27 dager siden
  • I’d slap so many of the women

    TanakinSkywalkerTanakinSkywalker27 dager siden
  • What's wrong with all these women's lips??? Do they have seafood allergies, or been punched in the mouth and got fat lips? Injecting crap in their lips makes them all look ugly! I much prefer natural women, no collagen fillers, no tatts, no piercings, and slim! Just like God created them!

    Fitness with DavidFitness with David27 dager siden
  • Bait and switch. The thumbnail had a picture of Huge Mongous .

    Ron GoslingRon Gosling28 dager siden
  • ı fell in love with the idea of my girlfriend befriended her after and we were friends for 6 months and thank god she took her time before accepting my proposal to go out. we went to summer school together to france as friends and im so glad we werent dating back then. its been 1 year and 3 months and ı cant be happier

    AquilaAquila29 dager siden
  • 5:42 girl is cute

    Verne FitsVerne FitsMåned siden
  • @49 why else would she date you , get off the gas !

    Joseph ValentineJoseph ValentineMåned siden
  • @4:44 It's because of very low self-esteem. @5:27 Rancor!!! Quick Luke! Use the bone!!!! @9:55 Yeah! Stop making your partner your #1 priority in life.

    Macio LukoMacio LukoMåned siden
  • #8. Any chick with ANY tattoo... not even the smallest and most obscure. It is a window to their soul. A tattoo says who and what they are.

    Maxwell SpeedwellMaxwell SpeedwellMåned siden
  • every relationship in this video is a dumpy guy with a hot chick. pathetic examples.

    Sean HeegerSean HeegerMåned siden
  • The girl at 5:50 who wants to get married at 18 to a 27 yr old. We know whats coming, baby trap, divorce, take 50% from him, get child support then live free for the next 18 years xD

    Oni-Fans Ghost HoonterOni-Fans Ghost HoonterMåned siden
  • Fist bumps to the kings in this video who didnt simp

    Oni-Fans Ghost HoonterOni-Fans Ghost HoonterMåned siden
  • A big red flag is when she starts vomiting while we are kissing.

    Alan StevensAlan StevensMåned siden
  • The only honest tears a woman sheds are when she’s by herself.

    Bodhi SattvaBodhi SattvaMåned siden
  • 2:30 I'm out 🤣 where's my flowers.... oh there on the plane 🤣🤣

    Jeffrey Van Den AbeelJeffrey Van Den AbeelMåned siden
  • You MUST know this about me: I was born in Seattle in 1973, where I grew up. Japanese-American, too. And, I think that everything, I repeat EVERYTHING, is about LOOKS. If somebody LOOKS nice, there is no way that they can be a cold-blooded killer. The same goes for CATS, as I am a cat lover: If a cat is cute, female, and has a "cute soft meow," there is NO way that she can be an attack cat. I once had a girl tell me, "I'm going to have to choose between you, and Bill." I asked her, "Who do you think is better looking, me or Bill?" She said, "Well, honestly, Bill." I said, "Then you should be with Bill!! Bill is better looking than me! Therefore, you SHOULD choose Bill over me!!" Your thoughts?

    abysmalatrociousabysmalatrociousMåned siden
  • 3:25 I was born in Seattle, where I grew up. Seattle Seahawks fan. I am dating a girl from Vancouver BC, who is a die-hard Seahawks fan. When I told her that I wasn't going to give her my Seahawks playoff tickets (back in 2014), she "sniffled, as if to simulate crying." Is that a form of manipulation? She also said that "If I stopped providing her with Seahawks tickets, she would stop being my girlfriend."

    abysmalatrociousabysmalatrociousMåned siden
  • Darcy to pretty for tom

    Lilly VLilly VMåned siden
  • Jennifer straight bi0tch

    Lilly VLilly VMåned siden
  • $20 cheap

    Lilly VLilly VMåned siden
  • "I didn't tell her sooner, because I didn't wanna lose her" BARZ

    Thierry ArnaudThierry ArnaudMåned siden
    • Dumbest quote EVER!!!

      Enlightened Interstellar Being from the FutureEnlightened Interstellar Being from the Future19 dager siden
  • Thanks man, this shiz is gonna help me when I get a girlfriend IF I get a girlfriend

    GODAssasinGODAssasinMåned siden
  • It does seem weird to me that the dude is texting girls. Even if they’re just friends, that’s something a person who’s looking for a relationship does.

    Elijah PewElijah PewMåned siden
  • ....bringing flowers to the airport, I brought my car so we're not walking home, though if you carry on about the flowers you'll be finding some other way to "get home".

    Daniel MarshallDaniel MarshallMåned siden
  • I would’ve slapped the F*** out of the girl who threw the drink in my face

    Bonastre TarletonBonastre TarletonMåned siden
  • I mean if you're planning to get married you shouldn't answer texts from other women you're not related to

    Josh EberhardtJosh EberhardtMåned siden
  • Good thing I don’t watch that show.

    JCmtw BizJCmtw BizMåned siden
  • It seems More and more men are done with the risk of marriage and scandalous woman. “Put time in to your craft instead of chasing woman” - best Red Pill advice.

    JMcmstr08JMcmstr08Måned siden
  • This is an absolutely amazing video it shows you their true colors first of all you throw any drink at me for any reason you can be sure your going to jail cause once you do that it proves you think its all about you...

    Chazz RamChazz RamMåned siden
  • The number one red flag I've found is if someone aggressively tries to rush things in the relationship.

    Zack WoodsZack WoodsMåned siden
  • They're CONCERNED, because, well.. I told them You are not into GIRLS NIGHT.....!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    Doug HdezDoug HdezMåned siden
  • The girls were all operated

    Canela/CinnCanela/CinnMåned siden
  • I'm so aware of crying so damn easily. I warned my boyfriend about it, that I am scared of manipulating him if I cry during a minor argument or something similar, so he won't give in to the behaviour. I don't want to cry, it just happens

    PastelTessaPastelTessaMåned siden
  • I'm so glad my guy Asuelu isn't in this video.

    PaulsiclesPaulsiclesMåned siden
  • More red flags than a communist parade of red flags

    Totally AwemazingTotally AwemazingMåned siden
  • 5:26 . . This I refer to as the shining red flag. That scream is like something from a horror movie turned reality 😱😱😱 *BE VERY CONCERNED!*

    Totally AwemazingTotally AwemazingMåned siden
  • Using that TV show as examples shows how ridiculous this channel's advice is.

    The Forgotten NationalistThe Forgotten NationalistMåned siden
  • 90 day fiancée shows the worst possible relationships on purpose though

    LuisLuisMåned siden
  • Number 4 is debatable. Family and friends can sometimes lead your relationship astray bcuz family and friends can be HATERS

    IAEMKAIIAEMKAIMåned siden
  • How is an age gap a red flag? There are plenty of solid couples with a big age gap. Sarah Paulson and her wife are a bit over 30 years and they’re seemingly happily married for a while now. It definitely can be toxic if they’re just preying on your youthful ignorance and/or looks like no neck was lol, but most of the couples I see or meet with huge age gaps have been disgustingly perfect and happy 🤔

    Kenna HopeKenna HopeMåned siden
  • I've been lied to mostly they have someone and dont want to say anything, never asked any thing in fact I bought gifts for thoughs and never asked for anything in return, I cry becuse I'm betrayed to those are jerks I dont like crying infront of people, I shouldn't be afraid tell someone I love them but I didnt want to lose him and when I tell him and it dosent matter. becuse hes gone. But he never said it Ethier. I never told him who not to text or go through his phone not interested. All yes thier it is lies like he wants a realshionship hurting people holding hands. Talking to you for hours, and even go so far as touching. Then nothing. Mmm thiers another one he listened to many people said about me. I have lack of confidence . I fell in love after I met who he was. We never fought. Mmm 🤔I guess he was toxic.

    no Time to say hello goodbye.no Time to say hello goodbye.Måned siden
  • I came for big ed

    •Eva ••Eva •Måned siden
  • Red flag, can’t be real, gives herself duck lips via injections.

    Noman GreybeardNoman GreybeardMåned siden
  • The great thing about this show is teaching us all what not to do!

    RP1 TenRP1 TenMåned siden
  • I can’t tell the difference between Feminism and MGTOW. Same people wearing different clothes.

    Mahesh BhenchodMahesh BhenchodMåned siden
  • Didn't know it's a whole science ! Need to find time to study it

    Rami GRami GMåned siden
  • Bad example at 6:55. He WAS cheating on her the entire time they were together. She was 100% right.

    C. WatsonC. WatsonMåned siden
  • I just got out of a 1 year relationship a few months ago and I can't believe how many things on here were SPOT ON!!! I think for me the seeing people how you want them to be not as they are is huge for me. And the staying with someone cuz i don't think I'll find someone as beautiful or loving so I put up with BS that I never shud. I was in my addiction the latter half of the relationship so I carried all this guilt and made excuses for her. The one about putting on an act. WOW!! Exactly right!! As soon as her and I were done she became the nastiest, most vindictive, manipulating, ugliest person I'd ever been with. The ironic thing is in the 1st 6 months I thought she was the most beautiful woman I'd ever been with in my life and that's not that easy. There's a romanian saying my grandpa told me about love and it translates to: when ur in love with someone, they can do no wrong. But when you feel out of love with someone, they can do no right. And man, that is the absolute TRUTH.

    Romanian SwoleJerRomanian SwoleJerMåned siden
  • first, second and third point checked i’m so glad i ended my friendship with someone a few days ago

    DomDomMåned siden
  • Nailed it. Lack of self-esteem and confidence is caused by an abusive childhood or a toxic upbringing. It's something you heal from, not something you grow into.

    MagykJamesMagykJamesMåned siden
  • Many who find themselves stuck in a toxic relationship have likely tried so hard to avoid a monotonous one because they mistake the eventfulness as "passion" because to them love should be more of an action movie than a documentary. However, the most sustainable relationships operate like a documentary. Sure it can be a bit slow and boring but it won't leave you in a life that is constantly self-destructing.

    Matt SMatt SMåned siden
  • 7:20 JOHN CENAAA

    lucas felipelucas felipeMåned siden
  • Hehe. Hit every single one with my ex. God damn it...

    David FerlemannDavid FerlemannMåned siden
  • I don't understand what gives them so much confidence?

    ubuntuberubuntuberMåned siden
  • 6:50 is common. Most people still seem to believe that men and women can't be friends. A common assumption is that it's always going to end up romantic. I don't agree with that but it's probably the majority opinion in most countries.

    Oliver FordOliver FordMåned siden
  • *cringe* it's been 25 years and I still remember telling my boyfriend to give me a better prom-posal. He dumped me instead. And rightfully so. Pretty sure I'll never let myself live that one down.

    Rachel RasmussenRachel RasmussenMåned siden
  • Great work👋🏻🇨🇭🤦🏼‍♀️

    Lady Star ArtLady Star ArtMåned siden
  • This should be called: how to spot narcisistics, phycopaths and sociopaths. Also I'm kinda glad I had a toxic parent that I had to cut off from my life because it made me a pro at spotting toxic people that have to be avoided or cut out from my life. 🤔

    Elizabeth RoaElizabeth RoaMåned siden
  • How do I show my girlfriend this video to give her the opportunity to change unwanted or bad behaviour or do I just leave .

    Lance UppercutLance UppercutMåned siden
  • as i watch this video i reflected back to myself.....i unconciously, not intending to be, i am a toxic person at a relationship

    Hirza Ahmad MutahariHirza Ahmad MutahariMåned siden
  • hah what about girls night. the guy was like you want to go i want to goto. I think girls night with alcohol and drinks is a red flag. what other ppl think?

    hondaiienvy1hondaiienvy1Måned siden
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