7 Things Your Body Language Says About You

2. sep.. 2019
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You probably know that your body language says a lot about you, but what you might not know is what it’s saying all the time.
That’s why in this video, I thought it might be fun to cover 7 things that your body language at some point is telling other people, so that you can come across as more confident and likeable.

0:23 - Sign #1: Scanning the room: You come across as boring
1:32 - Sign #2: Not letting people interrupt: Singles you out as a leader
2:59 - Sign #3: Leaning against something: You are the centre point
4:06 - Sign #4: Having your hands in your pockets: Signals nervousness
4:29 - Sign #5: Using precise and open gestures: You seem more confident
5:15 - Sign #6: Hanging your head: It makes the problem seem worse
6:27 - Sign #7: The eyebrow flash: Communicates friendliness
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  • The problem I have is that I am legally blind, therefore I have to scan a room to maintain spatial awareness. How do I use these strategies when I don’t notice a lot?

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  • One problem. I dont use gestures while talking. I just cant move hands when talking.

    Boris PosavecBoris Posavec3 måneder siden
  • Former FBI body language profiler Joe Navarro said hands in pockets with thumbs out is actually a move of confidence, whereas thumbs in pockets is nervous/shameful 🤷

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  • 4:32 😂😂😂 *Nice*

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  • I always hear how you should not put hands in your pockets when in a conversation because you need to express your feelings with hands and so on. But I neever ever heard someone talking about what to do with them if you receive a speech or someone is talking about their problem for minutes straight. What to do with your hands then?

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  • Wow this is great info that anyone can use. Great job man

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  • *_4:14_**_ Well I am untrustworthy... Well, at least I am not somebody you should rely on all the time_*

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  • man when i saw the title , i was like cmon it's for loosers , must be some obvious stuff that everyone knows, but i would regret a lot if i didn't here first step is my always mistake i like to scan around and maybe that's why i dont really get along with others .. thank you.

    Radik NarangRadik Narang4 måneder siden
  • So while I never put my hands in my trouser pockets, I have a tendency to like putting my hands in my hoodie pockets. Is that bad?

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  • On the upside, putting your hands in your pockets often gets rid of unwanted attention when your somewhere you probably shouldn't be.

    HenstarHenstar6 måneder siden
  • That V neck though

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  • Lmao! I do the flash all day, I don't know where I picked it up, but I do it a lot...

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    MrAliquamMrAliquam7 måneder siden
  • Hands in your pockets really isn't always bad, IMO. Unless that's all you do with your hands in the middle of conversation, then yeah, it's bad.

    D HD H7 måneder siden
  • 3:58 confirmed Italian

    Darth hronglDarth hrongl7 måneder siden
  • Very mature. Beyond your years in common sense.

    Richard WinneRichard Winne8 måneder siden
  • Charisma isn't something you can learn. You've either got it or out don't. If you try to learn it it's just gonna come off as fake. It's easy to spot especially for women. So I don't really understand why people think they can just read a book or watch a video and all of a sudden have the charismatic qualities that someone can only be born with. plus idk why anyone would take advise as to how to be charismatic from this guy he has the charisma of a pet rock.

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  • Hand gesture, Trump Style.

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  • So I shouldnt take my pants off in public while looking for my missing keys in the pocket? Thanks

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  • Enjoyed when you talked about hand gestures and the importance of them. You do gestures in all of your and it is really helpful and it’s makes the video more engaging. Brilliant video.

    BSH VasqohBSH Vasqoh9 måneder siden
  • An easy and effective fix for having your hands in your pocket: Put your hands in your pockets, but leave your thumbs out and keep your fingers straight (instead of curled in). This simple change will actually make you come across as more confident! You’ll see the difference if you go in front of the mirror and look at yourself putting your hands completely in your pocket, and then making the change above.

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  • What do you do with your hands when you aren't talking? Never quite sure where to put them when just standing around and not gesticulating.

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  • I’d have to disagree on the not letting others “interrupt”/join in the conversation. Obviously, it depends on the situation, but with friends, it comes off very rude. Hands in pockets is the same way. In the southern states, it’s a very cowboy thing and becomes a habit (I tend to have just the thumb in the pocket or all but the thumb. Hands crossed comes off way worse, since you give off the feeling that you don’t feel safe when inside.

    Lil Bird MuseLil Bird Muse9 måneder siden
  • My hands are always in my pockets unless im talking to someone. It’s cold out here and wearing gloves is kind annoying that you need to remove them to shake hands and are not really appropriate inside. Same with crossing hands. I’ve met very few people who cross hands and act defensive, most of the time it’s just cold or comfortable.

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  • One does not simply make precise gestures.

    Nuke CanadaNuke Canada10 måneder siden
  • Having Hyperhidrosis (extremly sweaty hands) makes body language very awkward, because the only thing you focus on is trying to hide your hands and all that uncontrollable sweat. Having a conversation with people I've never met before is very strange and uncomfortable xD It is very interesting thou, what you can do with body language. :D

    MaKMaK10 måneder siden
  • Lmaooo it’s not that deep. Who are you living for? Why do you think you have to communicate anything to anyone? Let go of that world... jeez. You will live an anxious life if you care about that irrelevant stuff... I already know what kind of replies I’m gonna get 🤦🏻‍♂️

    Jean SantosJean Santos10 måneder siden
  • There is a way to confidently put your hands in your pocket loser.

    Narly wavesNarly waves10 måneder siden
  • Lies about hands in pocket. I steal this from guys bc it looks like you're completely fine with yiur independence and comfortable by yourself.

    Narly wavesNarly waves10 måneder siden
  • I’ve been trying to learn to not talk with my hands, it drives my wife crazy and I thought that hand talking was just for politicians, lol

    Shaggy LShaggy L10 måneder siden
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  • You give good advice. I always like making new people feel welcome. I don't do this to be seen as the leader, but it is a good side effect.

    hobsdigree2hobsdigree210 måneder siden
  • Ok but why shouldn’t I check my pants pockets

    Daniel ShockeyDaniel Shockey10 måneder siden
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    Seraphina PriorSeraphina Prior10 måneder siden
  • Interesting but I've outgrown the potential need for this stuff.

    J JJ J10 måneder siden
  • 6:10 DONT DONT DO IT Dont touch someone you barely know. It makes you look like a person who doesn't respect personal borders. You may reach for the soulder, but dont touch it. Dont, k?

    selfishbirchselfishbirch10 måneder siden
  • So getting a hand job is a no no?

    Bad DogBad Dog10 måneder siden
  • #2, the biggest thing is that no matter if I'm either talking or waiting to talk I get ignored. So idk what to do about that part.

    Lyokowarrior1228Lyokowarrior122810 måneder siden
  • All my body language skills are on point, but my conversational skills are very bad

    MilanMilan11 måneder siden
  • I really wish I could have all the conversations back that I made mistakes in

    Zack NZack N11 måneder siden

    Mike WatsonMike Watson11 måneder siden
  • With the shame advice, I realized I've always smiled and said sorry. And nobody takes it seriously. But it's not because I knew it but it's my mindset - I don't take many things seriously. Charisma doesn't build mindset. Mindsets build charisma.

    sakthi sdsakthi sd11 måneder siden
  • Number 5: Become Italian

    TheSnoozeFoxTheSnoozeFox11 måneder siden
  • don't put your hands in your pockets liam ghallager: ....

    purp1epurp1e11 måneder siden
  • We respect people that we dont care about and people that we think superior of us .

    smiling at gravesmiling at grave11 måneder siden
  • * makes a precise gesture * ... *mamma mia*

    ChukapiX StraNgeRChukapiX StraNgeR11 måneder siden
  • Many errors here, sorry. Youspeakeverythingonasingleline insted of: You speak, (coma)everything, (coma)on a single line.(point) Also, crossing your arms is a clear sign of closeness and defensive posture. I could go on and on...

    Franz Josef Mueller-AlbanFranz Josef Mueller-Alban11 måneder siden
  • What do you do with your hands when you are in a group conversation and you are not talking at the moment? Assume you are not holding anything, your hands are completely free.

    Lewis RodriguezLewis Rodriguez11 måneder siden
  • lol 😁 Dude too much gestures also kills the gestures... your hands are moving so much in this video that i'm beginning to feel seasick 🤣

    MadmikeMadmike11 måneder siden
  • I actually use the eyebrow one purposefully. I sell ventilation systems which most new houses need one due to insulation so I end up going to new construction sites. When I walk up to a contractor I've never met I walk up and do the eyebrows when I say hey in "Hey man, how the heck have you been?!" and do the Putin handshake (hovering above normal handshake height, starting a few feet away and divebomb their hand like a hawk on a rabbit) Then I have a normal conversation, and they introduce me to other people and everyone else assumes that we've known eachother for years. It's fantastic. If they ask me about it, I tell them the truth; that it's a sales tactic designed to put them at ease so they don't feel like I'm there to sell. In my experience, 4/5 laugh and say either "Well it worked!" or "Does that really work?!" I've got a couple of people to tell me it's sleazy, to which I sincerely apologize say I hope it doesn't affect their opinion of me, and next time I see them- I can be genuinely happy and they can remember me. [For the eyebrows, the timing has to be just right. In the speed of a rather fast heartbeat or the ba dum in "ba dum tss", eyebrows and then smile.]

    TechnorexTechnorex11 måneder siden
  • HEEEYYY hahahahah

    Esteban DuránEsteban Durán11 måneder siden
  • How tf do all of your teeth fit into your smile

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  • This is what should be taught in the school

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    • Anonymous I doubt such a ridged structure teach this effectively and how would they grade it?

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  • 5:36 call me by your name;)

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  • I don't like people that are quick to 'brush over' their own mistakes. If someone gestures a little, hanging their head for a second, it tells me that they are sorry. On the contrary, people that tend to be overly positive after the did something wrong, give me the impression they didn't really understand what it is they did wrong. They make me feel like I'm talking to a bomb ticking, just waiting to repeat the same mistake. It is somehow 'reassuring' to see that a mistake someone else made 'stung' a little and will stick for a little while. We all make mistakes, and I think it's important to acknowledge them.

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  • What you don't want to be the leader though, this all seems like advice for people that enjoy being the center of attention

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  • never be sorry? got it.

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  • You know i watch alot of educational channels like kurzgesagt and vsauce, but this is one of the few channels that actually has really practical uses. Your stuff are some of my favourite videos and that have helped me personally alot. So thanks

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  • ADD gets you viewed poorly by low IQ norms. CHECK (Benito Mussolini large hand motions vs. Adolf Hitler [Schicklgruber or Goos-flesh] small tight hand motions.

    Julian ReidJulian ReidÅr siden
    • gooseflesh

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    • gooseflesh

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  • 4:33 illuminati

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  • I do not find anything wrong with people putting their hands in pockets. If I do it, I really didn't mean anything by it even subconsciously to express an off vibe. This is out of my box. Obviously not whilst talking to potential interest, I love them to use some gestures. I am going to agree that pockets are comfortable and warm enough to get my attention to the reality if my thoughts are lost, else I could imagine more. It eases out things for yourself so you might feel confident than before. I am not sure about everyone's opinion, I take it this way and it's extremely helpful in certain situations without knowing. I feel like I took control of myself but in a less effective way but quite helpful. That small help is what I needed at that moment to trigger another thought to make it up to a smarter one. There are various counter-self-help debates I have which I try to analyze and make the best out of it. Cheers!

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  • You move your hands in such a friggin bizarre pattern that doesn't sensically follow what you're saying that its a complete distraction.

    FullSpecsFullSpecsÅr siden
  • Well, the body language on the thumb nail says I'm not wearing my pants right now.

    Markus ChildersMarkus ChildersÅr siden
  • Im a girl and when i walk or stand with my hands in my pockets i do it cause i feel comfortable and calm. Not cause im nervous or anything negative... maybe its different for guys

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  • If someone ignores me when I'm interrupting them...then I will no longer respect that person. A "lack of manners" is no big deal, ignorance is.

    JohnDaWhale3JohnDaWhale3År siden
    • @JohnDaWhale3 depends what you're interrupting for

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    • @Mustard Bastard It's important to interrupt though...ignoring is just avoiding the issue.

      JohnDaWhale3JohnDaWhale3År siden
    • @JohnDaWhale3 and so is interrupting

      Mustard BastardMustard BastardÅr siden
    • @Mustard Bastard Ignoring is a NEGATIVE action...

      JohnDaWhale3JohnDaWhale3År siden
    • @JohnDaWhale3 as is ignoring

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  • omg stop making that face lol

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  • 👊

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