8 TERRIBLE Dating Mistakes Movies Push You To Make

2. mars. 2020
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Almost all of our expectations about love and relationships have been set by Hollywood.
The problem is that these movies are putting absurd ideas into your mind about what love really looks like, which can lead to some boneheaded decision making, maybe even ruining what could have been a great relationship.
So in this video we’ll look at 8 ways Hollywood ruins your relationships.

0:32 - #1: Movies train us to substitute emotional intensity for emotional quality.
2:09 - #2: The perfect person will magically take interest because they see the real you deep inside.
3:20 - #3: Love at first sight
4:13 - #4: Love, in Hollywood, is proven by ignoring explicit rejection.
5:43 - #5: Giving large unrequested gifts as a way to make amends.
7:14 - #6: Pursuing someone who is currently in a relationship is romantic and not at all doomed to failure.
8:12 - #7: Suffering, dependence and self sacrifice are all treated as indicators of love.
9:22 - #8: A romantic relationship is the solution to the problem of life.
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  • Question: Can your course teach you how to accomplish the opposite? Say for example, you're in a situation where you don't want people to gravitate towards you and you just wanna go do your own thing.

    Joseph BedwellJoseph Bedwell4 dager siden
  • ppl think that movies represent life and present u with scientific knowdlege about life but... no honey

    LUXX TATYLUXX TATY5 dager siden
  • this worldd omg then ... theyll go to youtube to see a love tarot reading for their sign to see whats going on

    LUXX TATYLUXX TATY5 dager siden
  • 09:21 what movie does Rashilda Jones play also Ryan put me in so much drama

    Gamze KoruGamze Koru8 dager siden
  • Drama is bad ... that doesnt mean you should be boring and that way lose the affection of your partner etc

    Marus GorenMarus Goren8 dager siden
  • No 50 shades of gray is how to indoctrinate people aka brain washing look it up he goes through all 8 steps like when he gave her a muffin he said eat she refused and he left with no warning making her feel bad making her question her decision/self then he makes her eat from a specific list only whear what he wants and alienates her from friends and family it's a how to video on how to indoctrinate girls so in short no 50 shades of grey is a movie about abuse not love

    DR.Acula AndersonDR.Acula Anderson9 dager siden
  • Somebody’s been watching Coach Corey Wayne 👌🏾

    The Life Of SimbaThe Life Of Simba12 dager siden
  • You were significantly more polite than After Hours was about just how toxic romcoms have been/are.

    Anon YmousAnon Ymous22 dager siden
  • It's crazy, I literally believed all of those points

    Silvia Di MartinoSilvia Di Martino24 dager siden
  • 1. Most women actually love emotional rollercoaster... 2. True but only for men. 3. Women decide almost at first sight... 4. In real life no, unfortunately doesn't mean no (if you're handsome) 5. True. 6. Man in relationship is way more attractive to other women. 7. Look 1. 8. True, never tell a woman she's your world. If you do relationship is over.

    nSanenSane25 dager siden
  • very good analysis of one basic problem

    Human Lives Matter!Human Lives Matter!29 dager siden
  • Romantic films and comedies is the way men become blue pilled and manipulated to pedastalise women. And eventually fail in relationships.

    Argento 777Argento 777Måned siden
  • Good point...stalking is promoted in 99% of love movies. Yet at the same time we are being told that it is wrong and harassment. Why is that so? And why do the feminazis not jump on those movies? Is it because the stalker is usually a Chad?

    Long JohnsonLong JohnsonMåned siden
  • I find that disney princess movies brainwash little girls. Only a small few like Frozen and Mulan don't really, and Pixar ones like The Incredibles show a realistic relationship. I think the suffering thing is used to create drama and tension, which makes movies entertaining.

    Lava YukiLava YukiMåned siden
  • 3:15 just like me

    Verne FitsVerne FitsMåned siden
  • Mila Kunis 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥

    VoiceOfTheSoulVoiceOfTheSoulMåned siden
  • movies try to program you to be a simp

    TVBUUTVBUUMåned siden
  • Some side characters can help lmao

    GODAssasinGODAssasinMåned siden
  • No introvert magically transforms into an extravert, never take advice from someone who's incentivized to say what you want to hear... This is about one of the guys who commented and about the guy who made the video, you should ask this guy who made this video if he has a successful and long lasting relationship which he just can't have because of his age and therefore you shouldn't take advice from someone like him. For real relationship advice ask your grandma and grandpa if they have been together for 30 or 40 years, they always know what's best for you relation wise.

    Ricardo PendersRicardo PendersMåned siden
  • I believe Noah already had the house built before seeing Allie again and then she sees him in a picture while getting ready for her wedding. Allie see Noah first. Not the other way around.

    Joe TrouttJoe TrouttMåned siden
  • Hollywood is simp machine

    Mr. HelperMr. HelperMåned siden
  • God almighty .this brings back things i'd rather 4get smh

    Ahmed fuseini alhassanAhmed fuseini alhassanMåned siden
  • In other words Hollywood practice witchcraft.

    JJ Diesel Cowboy MonkJJ Diesel Cowboy MonkMåned siden
  • “Girls love guys that are stable, realistic, & take good care of themselves ....... that’s why all she watches are movies with serial killers, and prison inmates”

    Zareef TashfiqueZareef TashfiqueMåned siden
  • These 8 things are what women want... from a desirable man

    E115E115Måned siden
  • The ending of La La Land is like a black pearl in an ocean filled with poison that is Hollywood.

    Merciful TorturerMerciful TorturerMåned siden
  • Way off the mark. There is nothing more pathetic than someone who is so secure and has such self confidence that they loudly proclaim how grand it is to be alone and friendless.

    Rich BarronRich BarronMåned siden
  • These was supper deep these is exactly what happened to me my life flashed in between the video

    Sergio MendezSergio MendezMåned siden
  • yo, im just saying, we aint got time for these hoes in 2020. Get money son!

    Chiko TemboChiko TemboMåned siden
  • It isnt stalking if you are a 7 or higher

    kagebunshinnnkagebunshinnnMåned siden
  • And girls who expect this are also destroying dating. Must be 6,0 or more fit body and good job and loyalty. Guys want under 200lbs, loyalty, and good housewife, then they claim too high of standards.

    The elephant In the roomThe elephant In the roomMåned siden
  • Aww man this reminded me of honest trailer Lol

    Orrin RikerOrrin RikerMåned siden
  • Okay, I get what you are saying, but you need to acknowledge the use of symbolism and archetypes in storytelling. You might as well be seriously admonishing people to not fight wizards with swords, because walking around stabbing people is really anti-social and criminal. You complain about the dramatic license but don't acknowledge the greater truths that these stories tell. Especially the female heroes journeys of taming the beast. Give women (and people) a little more credit that they can tell the difference between the beast that is the shadow half of the human Psyche that must be tamed and incorporated, and some creep abusing them. The Notebook, on the other hand...I literally have no clue why anyone likes that.

    Rachel RasmussenRachel RasmussenMåned siden
  • 273 people still believe in fairytales and how the perfect person will swoop them off their feet.....and will probably still be single in their 50s

    Git GudGit GudMåned siden
  • Rick grimes

    Zein AlbasamZein AlbasamMåned siden
  • Romeo and Juliet wasn’t about love, it was about two teenagers in “lust” not “love”.

    PFYT88PFYT88Måned siden
  • Revolutionary Road is the only romance movie close to reality

    Milan PenkMilan PenkMåned siden
  • Hollywood love seems incredibly shallow.

    Kiri SeraphKiri Seraph2 måneder siden
  • Ah so good. Thank you for making that.

    jbecsablejbecsable2 måneder siden
  • Thank god you didnt put a scene of When Harry met Sally as an example

    Ivan Sanchez PenzovIvan Sanchez Penzov2 måneder siden
  • Charlie, I love you, your advice changed my life, but Romeo was 18, Juliet was the 13 year old.

    Ruben DurrandRuben Durrand2 måneder siden
  • Twilight = Twink + Gaslight

    Steven GSteven G2 måneder siden
  • This is one of the best videos I’ve seen in a long time🙌🏼 thank you

    Sbentsen27Sbentsen272 måneder siden
  • I just find it funny how he makes the point that our romatic partner can't complete us,that we need to be more confident and few seconds later goes to plug his shity $597.00 programme on how to become more confident.Basicly saying love cant help us but his grosly overpricesed course can.

    Ognjen PlamenacOgnjen Plamenac2 måneder siden
  • ro·man·ti·cize verb gerund or present participle: romanticizing deal with or describe in an idealized or unrealistic fashion; make (something) seem better or more appealing than it really is.

    PyrelaPyrela2 måneder siden
  • I forgot how terrible all those movies were. Hollywood needs to die in a fire.

    joe allenjoe allen2 måneder siden
  • Agreed.

    Gary SmithGary Smith2 måneder siden
  • Thank you. I actually feel like love has to be hard.

    David DavidsDavid Davids2 måneder siden
  • This video should be shown in primary schools 👏🏼👏🏾👏🏿

    PaulaPaula2 måneder siden
  • Yes. But, Groundhog’s day was a special circumstance.

    SJDSJD2 måneder siden
  • Love at first sight is 100% real. Sorry, you are wrong about that. My wife and I where love at first sight and we have celebrated our 10th anniversary last November. The feeling you get is far beyond surface level attraction. It's a recognition. It's a feeling of "hey, there you are. Finally". When it happens to you it is absolutely undeniable and impossible to ignore.

    Destra LDestra L2 måneder siden
  • Fantasies are only maintainable by highly intellectual thrill loving understanding partners.

    SansaraSansara2 måneder siden
  • Whenever I see a stalker standing outside with flowers: Turn off the TV. You have watch to much hollywood

    Morgan JonassonMorgan Jonasson2 måneder siden
  • Top tip; actors are emotional prostitutes and shallow, fake people. Never listen to them and never look to them for good examples.

    John SmithJohn Smith2 måneder siden
  • It would be nice to flash the movie titles at the bottom of the frame.

    George TsitsianiGeorge Tsitsiani2 måneder siden

    banana snapperbanana snapper2 måneder siden
  • Meredith Grey in Greys Anatomy put it quite good when fighting with Derek shortly before his character died: "I can live without you. But I don't want to" - in the end, she decided to be with him, not because she can't deal otherwise, but because she deems him worthy. Of course the whole tv-show is not a guide to a happy ending, but that scene was good.

    MsBetsyTMsBetsyT2 måneder siden
  • It would have been instructive if this video had commented on how Hollywood promotes violence against men as an element of romantic drama .

    DQ SkymagneDQ Skymagne2 måneder siden
  • I almost forgot something much important, perseverence leads to greater/happy ending. Man and woman in their love life, need to persevere challenges that comes in their romance journey.... Lastly, SENSE OF BALANCE is truly needed to stabilise the relationship. Man and woman need to be fair with each other and be MINDFUL of each other's authentic desires and when that happens, they both achieve a sense of balance leading to a happy love life....

    Edwin MuchiriEdwin Muchiri2 måneder siden
  • From my own view, women are so obsessed with romantic movies, series, or stories from social media thinking that such "magical" experiences will be the same for them. WRONG!!!! COMPLETE BS!!!!! Those actors and actresses do such roles in the filming scenes for money and promotion purposes not to teach us that that's how love supposed to be..... When it comes to love, it's all about how both man and woman have mutual understanding with each other and how both will be able to overcome challenges together no matter how big they are. Love truly works when man and woman participate together and be simple with each other, authentically....

    Edwin MuchiriEdwin Muchiri2 måneder siden
  • Oh, but this goes WAAAAY beyond mere charisma. This is about the future, and the terror that she could be a waste of a significant portion of your life

    QuartuvLarryQuartuvLarry2 måneder siden
  • Don't remove Stuttgart boy.

  • I sit through the ActBlue ads just so they have to pay up.

    john magilljohn magill2 måneder siden
  • AMAZING, pure wisdom!!! Thanks for this logical analyse of such illogical behaviors and feelings. Many people will feel not as lost and clueless anymore in relationships. Great, great job Charlie and Ben! I vote for this episode as your best material, because no one summarized 'love' like this before and it's so essential!

    Joanna KomJoanna Kom2 måneder siden
  • Hollywood is feeding us ridiculous ideas about love??!?? Huh. Who woulda' thought? They are just so realistic about everything else.

    bleu waterbleu water2 måneder siden
  • I came here expecting to learn something, and all I've actually learned is that somebody out there actually needed to hear that these examples are unacceptable.

    TJ STJ S2 måneder siden
  • Y'all can tell all you want, we, the people, just nod and go on with falling in "love" with toxic people - because we are already the 3-rd generation, raised by single mothers in toxic environments and modern way of life thrive on forcing this whole toxic bipolar hedonistic, obsessive nature even further.

    WAYWARD SONWAYWARD SON2 måneder siden
  • Movies are a good psycho filter though. If a woman e.g. loves "Notebook" she's to avoid like a plague, as a potential mate.

    WAYWARD SONWAYWARD SON2 måneder siden
  • Thanks for the great tips!! Just letting you know that while I was going back to copy down each of the points, you wrote 'Giving large unrequested gits as the way as the way to make amends' for number 5 5:57

    Adonis NgAdonis Ng2 måneder siden
  • hi guys, i dont know if u have made a video about/with reference to the movie "P.s. I love you". after ive seen this video it popped up in my mind that it might be cool to analyse a movie that is concidered to be a romantic movie for women only.... have a nice one :)

    oMusic93oMusic932 måneder siden
  • Love is sacrifice, if you're not willing to make them; then you're not in love.

    Steven StirlingSteven Stirling2 måneder siden
  • I'd poke a point about self-sacrifice as being an unhealthy expression of love. This is patently untrue. Love is sacrifice, be it time, money, or even one's health. While sacrifice that does not receive sacrifice in return is unrequited love and would be an indicator of an unhealthy relationship, Christ Himself said that the greatest expression of love is to lay down your life in place of another. Even the part that you mention in a Knight's Tale, the point of the girl demanding that the guy repeatedly lose was to prove that he truly valued her over his own pride or wealth or even well-being, that he valued her as a person and not some object or trophy. Let's also remember the context. This was in a time when high-born women really often were objectified and treated as assets and bargaining chips for politics.

    Scott MartinScott Martin2 måneder siden
  • "No one is going to pick you if you are morose or uninteresting." - pretty much covers it - Hollywood has been the cause of much heartache when reality meets pre-conditioned expectations... And yeah, just try Noah's approach of not taking no for an answer and relentlessly pursue somebody who is vehemently rejecting you and see where that gets you... I guarantee it'll be a restraining order and not a date 😜

    Robert CroninRobert Cronin3 måneder siden
  • Wish I'd watched this when I was 15!

    Judith van DijkhuizenJudith van Dijkhuizen3 måneder siden
    • Definitely, my friend..definitely 🙁

      Robert CroninRobert Cronin3 måneder siden
  • you yanks are listining to this lad pml show me his girls before he had money

    colin john gilbertcolin john gilbert3 måneder siden
  • Yes... Self love is key... Don't need a girl... Until I get old enough to be the girls dad and have to swallow the black pill that dating a girl in her 20's gets harder and harder.

    Jaesung Edward LeeJaesung Edward Lee3 måneder siden
  • I rarely, if ever do anything with videos after watching them. I believe this video is something really wonderful and wish I had this as I was growing up. Being such an influential kid, I was trying to mimic the kind of love in movies and couldn't understand why it wasn't working. I'm glad that people growing up today can see videos like this and not go through the same unnecessary pain I did throughout my love life. Movies might try to mimic the feeling of life, but movies are not real life. I hope future generations will learn to realize that. You guys do wonderful work. I'm glad that you can shed some light on subjects like this and even give good examples with the various movies. Keep it up! I'll be rooting for you!

    PV DoggPV Dogg3 måneder siden
  • Definitely the most confusing video I have ever seen

    AdrianAdrian3 måneder siden
  • Kind of surprised you didn't reference Great Gatsby in this -- it hits several of these notes :)

    Cocktails & ConsolesCocktails & Consoles3 måneder siden
  • Don't take dating advice from any movie or tv show, their all the same rudimentary garbage of some simp pining over one woman or another. The most popular shows such as "How I Met Your Mother" is just ten seasons of Ted simping for Robin, "The Big Bang Theory" is twelve seasons of Leonard simping for Penny. I could write a thousand more, but suffice it to say if a woman doesn't want you MOVE THE F**K ON! There is always another woman around the corner who may say yes.

    michalynemichalyne3 måneder siden
  • Romantic movies are overrated . Most of them are creepy , if you ignore the romance .

    So what I was sayingSo what I was saying3 måneder siden
  • Pretty Woman made me think for years that you can turn a hoe into a house wife.

    Tony SnellTony Snell3 måneder siden
  • *Sees Romantic film* *Yells out "YALL NEED JESUS!"

    IamPabloIamPablo3 måneder siden

    mia melonmia melon3 måneder siden
  • nobody is into me, why am i watching anywa-... oh yeah, i can help others with this... i forgot

    gxmikvidgxmikvid3 måneder siden
  • 2:19 So ill never find my Rin or Hinata?

    I Am GrootI Am Groot3 måneder siden
  • I was with this girl who been watching too many Disney movies, it was wired af.

    Theodor SonforsTheodor Sonfors3 måneder siden
  • One of the greatest movies against this "hollywood romance" notion is 500 Days of Summer.

    RobRob3 måneder siden
  • The IQ of this dude and how he breaks down and comprehends subjects is unreal.

    Waleed AamirWaleed Aamir3 måneder siden
  • Self Love, self love, self love... That's all I hear in today's day in age and what's become of it? More Divorces today than in any point in history. Is this really the best advice, or are people buying into it just because it's the "NEW" word on the street and gives them a false sense of God like pride? "I don't need anything, I don't need anyone"... Movies don't always (hardly ever) give the best representation of Love's image, but the sewage that this guy is spouting off, is definitely not ANY representation of Love itself. Be smart people, don't listen to everything you hear.

    John OverbeyJohn Overbey3 måneder siden
  • Why isn't respecting women on this list?

    YaBoiShootyYaBoiShooty3 måneder siden
  • I could've used this video 35 years ago.

    jabrwokjabrwok3 måneder siden
  • Never heard of any of those movies. Maybe their mainly for girl audiences.

    Xavier XXavier X3 måneder siden
  • What am I looking for in a woman. Im looking for a woman that falls in love with me and we decide to commit suicide when our family's won't allow it!

    Dustin BarlowDustin Barlow3 måneder siden
  • this video is underrated. everyone should see this, so people think about it. it for sure would help most of the people. it did help me alot realizing this points, even if i knew the most of them, it's really good to remind myself. thank you.

    MiradesMirades3 måneder siden
  • Sometimes I wonder what about love comes natural and what I've learned from books and movies

    Emily WrightEmily Wright3 måneder siden
  • all hoes want drama, all whores want love✌✌👌

    Sky LukeSky Luke3 måneder siden
  • I've done the boombox thing and it worked. Not cuz of the movie though.

    SAY UNCLE!!!SAY UNCLE!!!3 måneder siden
  • this some great advice too bad ill never need it lol

    spario7spario73 måneder siden
  • There is a common misunderstanding about love and relationships. First of all, there are different types of how somebody love and want to be loved. There is the romantic love, which is seen in the movies, then the manic possesive love which is also seen in the movies and most of the time shown as a part of the romantic love. "You are the ONE" "You complete me" "Without you im nothing" "I cant live without you anymore" "If you dont love me, then life dont have a meaning anymore" Romantic Love is more having this magnetic feeling between two persons. You are drawn to each other by chemistry and a deep emotional connection, but you wouldnt sacrifice your personality or personal goals for this person. In other words it is great to have this person in your life, but not important for you wellbeing overall. Doesnt sound so romantic afterall....and definately not the content for hollywood movies. There are also other love types like: friendship, pragmatic (goal oriented like having kids) and altruistic. Another common misunderstanding about love and relationships is that you have to work on your relationships. Usually people which job depends of "the working on a relationship" dont get tired of telling this. Usually the day you have to work on your relationship is the day you should end it. I had friendships for example, where i get the feeling i have to work on it. For example they were complaining i didnt called them earlier or i dont did that or that. I ended this (for both) unforfilling friendships telling them, that we dont have common values/goals etc. Pretty much the same way im thinking about relationships between women and men these days.

    Carsten StreichCarsten Streich3 måneder siden