How To Command Respect Without Being A Jerk

17. juni. 2019
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You’re going to come across some conversational bullies in the course of your life. Generally, people try to shut them down with insults and aggression, and some others prefer to walk away from these interactions to avoid that kind of negativity.
But there is a third, potentially more effective way to deal with these toxic people. Russell Brand, for instance, tries to take control of the conversation instead of shutting it down. This allows him to stand up for himself without coming across like a jerk. His interview with three hosts at the MSNBC morning show is a perfect example of the main strategies that you can use to dominate any bully in any conversation.

0:55 - Practice #1: Continue speaking until the end of your sentence.
1:55 - Practice #2: Treat each member of a group as an individual.
2:51 - Practice #3: Emphasize similarities with other members.
10:01 - Practice #4: Learn to detach your ego from personal attacks.
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    • I have loved Russell Brand since the first time I saw him. I think he is a wonderful person, and people who dont like him , the problem is probably with looks like he has done a FANTASTIC job.

      Holly HouseHolly House5 måneder siden
    • I missed Brand’s interview on MSNBC, he was treated horribly by the hosts, they judged him to be an ignorant movie star, when in fact he is absolutely a genius, who spends his time on the greater good and had a moral compass.

      Honey TestaHoney Testa10 måneder siden
    • @izzynelo No, he hasn't.

      GrimReaperNegiGrimReaperNegi11 måneder siden
    • @GrimReaperNegi Has he covered Yang yet?

      izzyneloizzynelo11 måneder siden
    • @Aaron Shah Has he came out with an Andrew Yang video yet?? I went through all the videos after this one quickly and couldn't find Yang in any of them!

      izzyneloizzynelo11 måneder siden
  • they are all social games to begin with and should be dismissed

    Jason RobertsJason RobertsDag siden
  • Why they invited him?? 3 adults acting like children🙄🙄🙄

    To KyoTo Kyo6 dager siden
  • MSNBC is a horrible network. Russel either joined them deliberately knowing what would happen or made a mistake, I'm not sure which.

    GerryGerry6 dager siden
  • Russel is a bad example to talk about respect.

    Alexandre BrardAlexandre Brard8 dager siden
  • This is good analysis. Thank you for your work

    TheTruthWillSetYou FreeTheTruthWillSetYou Free8 dager siden
  • why do all three of those guys look vaguely like steven crowder 6:42

    TrentTrent8 dager siden
  • I love this! Thanks for posting. I love how he handles criticism... I needed to see this. He's very graceful.

    Tabitha SuntheimerTabitha Suntheimer9 dager siden
  • "don't use the word "smart" with me"

    SpaceMonkey BoiSpaceMonkey Boi15 dager siden
  • I am very confident but when someone is being rude I just find a way to shut them off but I feel like a jerk

    HunterPSNHunterPSN17 dager siden
  • The entire interviewing staff at MSNBC has small d*ck energy. :-) I've always loved Russel, he's empathetic, genuine, intelligent, respectful, and he doesn't let people walk all over him. I love how he first tried to correct the rude interviewers without embarrassing them, but when they keep bullying, he directly calls them out for their bad manners

    Candis SCandis S23 dager siden
  • Do these actors do this intentionally or is it all sub conscious???

    Andrew CAndrew C23 dager siden
  • Why am I watching this? I look like a psycho so people just don't fek with me....

    Steven TiggeSteven Tigge27 dager siden
  • coool

    Mayank ShankarMayank Shankar29 dager siden
  • do marylin manson

    Sam PageSam PageMåned siden
  • Mezner was here.. △³²△

    Mezner 03Mezner 03Måned siden
  • I wish I could be more like this, I'm too sensitive. And when someone says something that hurts me I don't know what to do and then hours later I think of what I could've said.

    Nadeshka HolmesNadeshka HolmesMåned siden
  • I've never been a big fan of Russell, but damn he's smart and knew exactly what he was doing. You can see the male host looking around for help as Russell is speaking directly to him.

    PeakPeakMåned siden
  • These Morning Joe people are truly and wholly dreadful.... Much respect to the Russell

    Paul BertrandPaul BertrandMåned siden
  • he’s got very nice hair i w a n t i t

    Ruby XIIIRuby XIIIMåned siden
  • Did Russel teach u all this or did u teach Russel?

    Mike351025Mike351025Måned siden
  • Not a fan of “the messiah complex” but this man handled everything so well the interviewers were jerks

    layciaaalayciaaaMåned siden
  • anyone else here have an "Ego Death"?

    Johann SiggelkowJohann SiggelkowMåned siden
  • I just came across your channel. As a raging introvert, who lacks self confidence (when I'm not behind a screen), this was incredibly helpful. I've subscribed, and will definitely be making your channel a habit in my self growth regimen. Thank you for the great content, keep up the great work!

    Melissa GrimesMelissa GrimesMåned siden
  • Ink

    Dean WaltersDean WaltersMåned siden
  • can happen when you're not social from the start

    DerJägerhaltDerJägerhaltMåned siden
  • +1 charisma +1 intelligence Thanks

  • With this quarentine I almost forgot how was being in a group of people was

    Izayoi HigurashiIzayoi HigurashiMåned siden
  • Am I a master of speech or an introvert Por que no los dos 🤷🏻‍♂️

    Stephen jStephen jMåned siden
  • Take control of the conversation, continue to the end of the sentence when you are speaking. Use the name of all persons in the room, take your time to glance every person in the room, honest complements.

    Angel SupraAngel SupraMåned siden
  • When a friend of mine interrupts me or vice versa, we'd realize what we did and wait for the other to finish. Then we'd talk at the same time again until both of us goes, ""You first."" ""No you first."" Those were good times.

    NeopoleonNeopoleonMåned siden
  • Why were those interviewers so rude to him? Is there any particular story to this?

    MarcinMarcinMåned siden
  • "I believe that people are very very intelligent but a lot of times the information gets manipulated." Man, if that ain't some immense wisdom I don't know what is. Most arguments I see are people who have completely different viewpoints on the subject they argue about to the degree that if you looked at the heart of their beliefs, they're honestly not even having the same conversation together.

    Blackfang08Blackfang08Måned siden
  • Joffrey Baratheon (Lannister) didn't see this video

    FilozFilozMåned siden
  • 7:49 I have to say that wasn't sneaky but spooky.

    Linda ParnellLinda ParnellMåned siden
  • The silence and stare works perfectly in classrooms too.

    S AhmedS Ahmed2 måneder siden
  • I watched this and I am most likely not going to use these skills

    Antonio HoAntonio Ho2 måneder siden
  • Speech 100

    Daniel LynchDaniel Lynch2 måneder siden
  • These people became a tutorial, you interviewers are nothing else but a tutorial.

    SightxSightx2 måneder siden
  • 3:17 is she trying to seduce the lady she's talking to? lol

    Just The HighlightsJust The Highlights2 måneder siden
  • me: great! some conversation tips! now im going to be great at social stuff! also me: *Slugs don't have teeth. Instead, they have organ called radula composed of thousand miniature protrusions that facilitate grinding of food. Slug has two pairs of retractable tentacles on top of the head (they can be shortened). Light-sensitive eye spots are located on top of the long tentacles.*

    Right hand ManRight hand Man2 måneder siden
  • *How to expand your brand using clickbait titles and pictures of idols while talking about the same qualities again and again*

    h3nRyqLh3nRyqL2 måneder siden
  • 8:51

    miriam adelmiriam adel2 måneder siden
  • I have so much trouble in arguments because I always yield to other people when they begin to talk, it's just instinctive to me because I feel like I'm being rude otherwise. I've got a really big thing coming up in my life that I need to be at the top of my charisma game for because it'll heavily affect me and I just gotta say I'm so glad that this channel exists.

    Hudson BakkeHudson Bakke2 måneder siden
  • Most useful video of my week. Both for the Russell and your analysis! 👏👏👏

    Wendy ZitzmanWendy Zitzman2 måneder siden
  • "Who is Willie?!" 😭😂😂😂

    Gabrielle LGabrielle L2 måneder siden
  • Or you know, people can stop being so rude!

    AndysGeneralAndysGeneral2 måneder siden
  • it's crazy that people can figure out how to be so good at social interactions without having to watch youtube videos and tutorials 😔

    clextechsclextechs2 måneder siden
  • 10:57

    yves loayves loa2 måneder siden
  • 9:06

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  • 3:35

    yves loayves loa2 måneder siden
  • andrew yang plz

    ilikecrabsilikecrabs2 måneder siden
  • Russels favorite performance medium is stand up? That's literally the one hes worst at.

    jg pliskinjg pliskin2 måneder siden
  • Why was this in bugzy Malones playlist 😂

    Dean CampionDean Campion2 måneder siden
  • Who is this Russel guy ?

    ZainZain2 måneder siden
  • "As you can see Russell did everything I just mentioned" no, you mentioned everything he did

    slipperys0apslipperys0ap2 måneder siden
  • Someone really needs to see this

    Carl Xidjie DocallosCarl Xidjie Docallos2 måneder siden
  • Really helpful as i get cut off alot in my life.

    KirkeGamingKirkeGaming2 måneder siden
  • Russel Brand is Chadzilla

    Eric ScottEric Scott3 måneder siden
  • I don't think I'm gonna remember all this lol. If I do try one of these things I know I'm gonna screw it up

    Owen Last name.Owen Last name.3 måneder siden
  • ego detachment is the key to so many things.. 🕉

    sem texsem tex3 måneder siden
  • Another tactic to note is (light-heartedly/facetiously) telling someone what they can do, in this case telling Brian what he CAN wear (i.e., whatever he wants). This works in the positive and is well-concealed through a volume of dialogue, but it's a subtle suggestion that the speaker holds the power.

    Storm RhodeStorm Rhode3 måneder siden
  • How to summon Satan with this one hand signal exclusive on youtube . Honestly why is this recommended to me am I that cringe now?

    sadra nezamsadra nezam3 måneder siden
  • 3:56 This three-step thing _actually_ works when dealing with a jerk. Of course, you need the right stuff to pull it off, but if you do, it'll have the intended effect. While practicing it many times on various people, the only time it doesn't work is when I blew it. Do it often enough, and you'll find yourself doing it without thinking about it. Additionally, it's worth mentioning that Russell Brand is a god among men.

    Olmstead RunyonOlmstead Runyon3 måneder siden
  • Rather than trying to change a conversation, you could simply respond to hate with love as it says in the bible. (There is a reference of this in James 1:19)

    Quintin WaninkQuintin Wanink3 måneder siden
  • I can’t believe they called him Willie

    Tim MartinTim Martin3 måneder siden
  • #1. It’s called being a steamroller lmao

    Lydia PickronLydia Pickron3 måneder siden
  • what is this robots ?

    IgnasZIgnasZ3 måneder siden
  • damn, Willie is a good talker

    Mythki11erMythki11er3 måneder siden
  • I need help understanding this, because from my point of view it seems like russell brand was a massive jerk throughout that whole interview. Facing away from people when they are talking directly to you, cutting them off mid question and ignoring them, swiveling in your chair like a child just because the attention is not on you, it all seems majorly passive agressive and disrespectful towards the hosts. This is how I would read his cues personally, I would think he is being patronising towards me, maybe someone can help me understand different?

    REDDIT Lover69REDDIT Lover693 måneder siden
  • I have been one to dismiss Brand as a rich playboy character who speaks eloquently and dresses overtly for attention, but not much else. This video gives me a brand new perspective of him. I was lost in the optics and didn't always listen. The way he deftly maneuvers through conversations is fascinating and no doubt explains his success. I walk away from this wanted to learn more about him, how he gained these talents and hopefully apply these techniques in my everyday exchanges.

    Jack DavidsonJack Davidson3 måneder siden
    • Jack Davidson Hi Jack, I agree. I didn’t take much notice of him until recently, but having watched him being interviewed on NOworld, I also have changed my opinion on him. I may not agree with everything he says, however I do find him funny, engaging and very eloquent. I have never met him and I can understand if people look at his appearance and decide they don’t like him. That’s ok. I have been struck by his honesty in interviews reflecting on his past and mistakes he has made. Despite comment to the contrary on this thread I don’t think he is arrogant at all, but he has the confidence to back his ideas if confronted.

      patrick childspatrick childs3 måneder siden
  • You’ll notice that if you watch anybody try to best a comedian (that’s not another comedian) it usually falls flat on its face... they are literally word smiths that have to deal with EXTREME criticism from whole crowds. They are forged by that. It’s a losing effort. If you don’t believe me. Look at altercations with Jerry Seinfeld, Bill Burr, Eric Andre, John Stewart, Stephen Colbert, Russell here... and a lot of people naively attribute it to them being comedians, so people don’t take them seriously. However I challenge you to watch them. They are always in the driving seat

    Steven HagemanSteven Hageman3 måneder siden
  • 3 v 1

    RunnerGif YTRunnerGif YT3 måneder siden
  • So disrespectful! 😡😡😡

    Lia Rivera YipLia Rivera Yip3 måneder siden
  • "Who is Willy" Brandt? A former Chancellor of West Germany.

    JudgeJulieLitJudgeJulieLit3 måneder siden
  • russell brand is an absolute wanker please dont copy him

    j bj b3 måneder siden
  • Actual tips and not clickbait that rambles on? Is this even allowed on NOworld

    kevin guzmankevin guzman3 måneder siden
  • the internet has too much of a fixation on 'domination'

    Eric DravenEric Draven3 måneder siden
  • 9:41 well karen do that and its annoying (even though people dont, and they are the ones shouting/aggressive), they cut you off if you want to speak out and whatever small detail you say will trigger them or make an excuse to just not let you speak

    SplegheggSpleghegg3 måneder siden
  • Instructions not clear - was told to get cancer online.

    MerkeMerke3 måneder siden
  • I love RDJ just walking right on out of that interview.

    Dominique Does LifeDominique Does Life3 måneder siden
  • Instructions Unclear: Got my teeth kicked in for talking over the bully.

    VylerVyler3 måneder siden
  • I realized having a deep acceptance for myself. Was getting Friendzoned a couple of times and it always stole pieces of my ego. I got to knew the first girl I failed mid thru but I valued her stronger than my missing persued value of myself a year ago. I know that because I didnt prepare to decline her Friendzone offer. It was just this feeling and a couple of weeks ago I realized why: I then kinda knew that I was just going to stick around to regain my own persued value and always had lost interest when she started regaining. So childish. Not saying girls create self acceptance! Self acceptance comes from your inner self. Always be true to you Cheers Edit: I'm 20

    Satoaki E.Satoaki E.3 måneder siden
  • I strongly disagree with promoting such attitude in conversations. I bet there are many young people watching this video and automatically adopt this attitude even when the situation does not require it. Sometimes when you're interrupted it does not mean that you're bullied, it can also be a signal that you took too much time for example. Not looking in the eye is also extremely inappropriate, also complementing people without any reason is cheesy. I think commanding respect in a conversation boils down to mastering three key points: ethos, pathos, and logos.

    Marouen Ben GuebilaMarouen Ben Guebila3 måneder siden
  • There is so much aggression in some people's personality , the been talked over and get disrespected and not herd stick to the truth be honest and own it . Kindness gos a long way a vetue I stick to,. over toxic peoples So I stay away from them it works move forward I'm around beautifull people great vibes

    Bobby-Jo ThomsonBobby-Jo Thomson3 måneder siden
  • is he doing this while thinking about it or is it built into the way he talks ?

    Thomas PankiewiczThomas Pankiewicz3 måneder siden
  • I love your channel!

    Cheree DelcoureCheree Delcoure3 måneder siden
  • I like how Russell Brand is somehow the poster boy for a likable person

    ChipmunkAsylumChipmunkAsylum3 måneder siden
  • What I do is twist it to make them look like the bad guy at the same time I keep it comical so there’s no hard feelings

    WebbyWebby3 måneder siden
  • 👁👀👁👀 *this seems to work lol*

    NOAH VRSNOAH VRS3 måneder siden
  • Even thinking about doing this makes me feel mentally exhausted

    kimberly wachsmankimberly wachsman3 måneder siden
  • Russell Brand is a genius.

    ShikataGaNai100ShikataGaNai1003 måneder siden
  • Hmmmm... personality as brand.

    PMPPMP3 måneder siden
  • How to be fake 101

  • Do Andrew Yang

    BubbalubagusBubbalubagus3 måneder siden
  • Great video Thank you :)

    NaztalgicNaztalgic3 måneder siden
  • Russell Brand is clearly a genius. He must have an IQ of 160. I don't think he gets enough credit for that.

    MediaSubliminalMediaSubliminal3 måneder siden
  • "how to detatch your ego from any kind of personal attack, is a deeper sense of self acceptance", i mean also thinking so little of yourself that self deprecation is just second nature works. can't hurt my ego if i don't have one...

    TheMatthew001TheMatthew0013 måneder siden
  • only thing i cant stand from him is when hes brought into a serious talk and all he can do is spew nonsensical word salad out of his mouth. Just puts piles of big words together and add in geopolitical every time. Geopolitical has to be his favorite word, he uses it when it does not even belong. If he is going to be added to these conversations make him slow down. talk to the point, and stop hiding what hes saying behind a never ending spew of big words.

    Blake MerrithewBlake Merrithew3 måneder siden
  • Please someone tell me who was the movie in the beginning of the video...

    Дани ВълчевДани Вълчев3 måneder siden