How To Dissolve Social Fear And Connect With Anyone

14. sep.. 2020
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Today is a very exciting day, because someone who I consider to be one of the most charismatic people in the world, Russell Brand, just made a video on how to be charismatic!
It's going to be very interesting to see if we have commonalities in how we see charisma :-)

0:00 - Intro.
0:56 - #1: Be present in the moment.
1:58 - #2: Not everyone will like you, no matter what.
2:39 - #3: Don't expect anything from the interaction.
4:33 - #4: Use purposeful misinterpretation.
4:58 - #5: Take advantage of the "yes, and…" technique.
5:59 - #6: Don't skip the fundamental principles.
6:43 - #7: Don't just treat the symptom, address the core problem.
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  • Do you have top 10 good books to read about working on conversation skills

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  • Does it make you boring to not expect anything from anyone?? I'm confused :S

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  • bro! you really rock what you share is so masterful!! In gratitude!!

    Loto VazquezLoto Vazquez13 dager siden
  • Russel is confused as hell he didn’t know what he wants, this is why he Laches on to people (socially) awkwardly trying to figure if he is like them. Fake it till you make it mentally pretty much

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  • Dissolve fear by removing the expectation of getting something from the interaction... Best advice ever!!

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  • Russel is a Hindu and follow Adveta Veanta, the ancient India philosophy of non-duality. It helps him stay present and see beyond the illusion (called 'maya')

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  • He is a Krishna devotee

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  • The fat spiderman!

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  • you look like nwet scamander.

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  • I've noticed when I'm completely present and not in my head is when I say the best jokes and I express myself most easily. But it's definitely not easy to get to be present all the time.

    Rayn PriceRayn Price19 dager siden
  • "A new Earth" changed my life. I love how in step your journalism is. Please keep doing what you are doing. --and I agree, some of Eckhart Tolle's messages are cringe-worthy, but the man has some solid things to say, and I think we could actually have a "New Earth" if we all listened a little more closely. Our ego's are what destroy our "charisma" unlikely as that may sound. The book paints a beautiful picture of what I believe you [and Russel Brand] are talking about. Listen, absorb, take someone in for who they are, and not what they can do for you. This is how the world should be, love, acceptance, less unnecessary complexity. Hats off.

    KevinKevin20 dager siden
  • Russell: show how to connect with people. Also Russell: Send a divorce text to his wife while she's on stage performing.

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  • Hi, can you please do a video on Tekashi 69 and how to be charming when people want to hate you (something like that ). His interviews are very interesting.

    Rocking RondaRocking Ronda23 dager siden
  • Tf kinda gymnastics you talking about

    Davin ChaffinDavin Chaffin24 dager siden
  • I don't think there is anything charismatic about Russel Brand, never liked him in any movie and when I've heard him speak he's totally moronic. Next video thanks.

    Lee FairclothLee Faircloth26 dager siden
  • i recommend The Power of Now to literally everyone i meet

    bridget Berrybridget Berry27 dager siden
  • Read both books. Especially “a new world” changed my life.

    Enes KayacanEnes Kayacan28 dager siden
  • the blush point you made. that's what i want to work with. I have social anxiety. thanks for pointing it out. I or people like me would be glad if you focus on that specific topic, as to how to not get nervous or blush during interaction. it's really... hard to control myself, more like it became a reflex of mine. again, it could be because of my social anxiety.

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    • I feel the same while texting someone too. so you see how that's a big issue of mine.

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  • Ha ha ha this is very informative, my fellow human male. I will give this information on homo sapien on homo sapien interaction to my mothershi- friends.

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  • People’s energy is called their Aura - at least that’s what it’s called in Sweden! I have a dear friend who just spreads calm, collected, cozy energy... and I love everything about it! 🥰

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  • You look like you're related to that red-haired actor with freckles all over his face

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  • I think the more important note is when he says charisma is different for everyone. Russell’s charisma is not that easy for just anyone to behold. I’ve known people like Russell, extremely witty, off the cuff people. I’m into astrology, I know not everyone is, but this is a very Gemini thing in my experience. No matter how much I could try, I just don’t have that spontaneous wit. My brain processes conversations and exchanges in a different way. However, people have always called me charming. What it boils down to for me, is that I’m friendly, present, genuinely caring, playful, and naturally quirky. For me, I can’t even hide my offbeat personality if I try. But as you’ve covered in other videos, trying to hide that is the worst thing you can do. If you embrace it, it becomes your superpower.

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  • My biggest issue is cutting people off because I'm afraid if I don't I'll never get a chance to speak bc I don't have anyone's respect.

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  • ~Being present in the moment~ This is literally the skill that you cultivate thought mindfulness meditation. Can't recommend this enough, it has helped so much with my social anxiety, I just let go of all the thoughts and emotions that would normally distract me when interacting with other people, making me more present. It's amazing.

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  • Be yourself is the worst life advice.

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  • Good To See You With Chad!!!

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  • I love hes accent accent

  • Just sending a shout to all those that are here trying to better themselves, we will make it, we will be charismatic

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  • Why give your commentary or agree and disagree if you are trying to learn something from someone. First listen.

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  • So quarantine just ended and I personally completely forgot how to even talk to people this guy's videos are life saving

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  • Please can you do a video on "The Man from U.N.C.L.E."

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  • Toll-e.... not tollayyy

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  • Great video! Would love to see one on the likability of Mr. Rogers! :)

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  • Any videos on how to be a more confident speaker/ not stumble over words when talking out loud

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  • I'd love it if you guys do one on Charles Barkley. He is very likable, yet is outspoken at the same time.

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  • picture of fat spiderman? anyone? only me?

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  • Nikola Tesla's Last Known Living Assistant's Recorded Statement: "If you have read my book, The Wall of Light, you will know the first part is the life story of Tesla. This story was written by Tesla himself and you will note in this story that Tesla gives full credit to God for his ability to discover some amazing new ideas in the Bible. As I have mentioned before the microwave comes from the fourth chapter of Revelations. In many places in his work Tesla mentions the fact that he was inspired by Bible study to conceive his amazing ideas. His idea of the alternating current comes from the book of Matthew. In other words from the Trinity. Tesla explains that his microwave, for instance, is not what many others think it is. It is not a wave, it is a dimension. The actual dimension of the beam. Tesla clearly states that his microwave is a beam which grows smaller. But he states that it's diameter is smaller than the hair of your head."

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  • Can you break down Chadwick Boseman/Black Panther charisma? R.I.P. Wakanda forever

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  • Do one about Lionel Messi!

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  • Wonderful to see you and hear from you again. Blessings and light. Thank you!

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  • whats up with your hear man

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  • Great points. If any of you ever want to read a great mindfulness book that is not cluttered with pseudoscience, I highly recommend former Google Engineer Chade-Meng Tang's Joy on Demand.

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  • The spirituality isn't one I subscribe to personally, but I've found amazing results from simply visualizing it in singing: imagining streams of energy flowing through the body, somehow opened up areas that gave way for better sound. Regardless of it being bs or not, I think the idea of it still helps.

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  • I really like your videos. I love observing interesting People and i like your analysis of their behavior. Would you do a video with Suranne Jones? What do you think about that?

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  • Jesus is going to appear in the sky very soon. Love his appearing. Repent and bring your sins to the light. His appearing is the the great and terrible day of the Lord (Joel 2:31). For the wages of sin is death; but the gift (i.e. deliverance from sin) of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord (Romans 6:23). For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved (Romans 10:13). {11} For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men, {12} Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world; {13} Looking for that blessed hope, and the glorious appearing of the great God and our Saviour Jesus Christ; (Titus 2:11-13).

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  • Why do I find those beatty eyes disturbing and hard to look at?

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  • You don't seem to separate the definition of "Be Yourself" and "Be Present". Russell isn't saying on that point to be yourself. He is saying to focus on what is around you and not to get trapped with inner monologue inside your head.

    Tommy LaniganTommy LaniganMåned siden
  • This video is bomb ! Very important and useful information. Thank you ! :)

    BrigitteBrigitteMåned siden
  • I think your timestamps need zeros in front to work e.g. 00:00

    Pure GlidePure GlideMåned siden
  • there is no such thing as free from fears and anxiety in a totally insane society obsessed with goals and achievements. What others seem to have that you don't is just a higher level of skill at "fake it until you make it". Looking from the outside some might look as though they master it but only they know how much noise is going on in their minds.

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  • Make Jason Statham breakdown

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  • let me go find/copy/paste a top comment from one of your old videos and pretend it's mine.

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  • You should do charisma breakdown of "Karan Johar"

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  • Zen teaches no calculations at all, but in these videos all we are doing is calculating. How can one be present in the moment then??

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  • I like these kinds of reaction videos! More of that 😁

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  • Book called charisma myth Also tells about 3Ps power, presence and...

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  • @charismaoncommand try doing a video on Patrick Jane from the mentalist

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  • The fact that Russell Brand isn’t an Orthodox Christian is astounding to me

    Caleb MagnusonCaleb MagnusonMåned siden
    • Why is that? I'm from a orthodox country so I don't see why you say that

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  • I see, he is promoting Being And Time, hardly know Heidigger.

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  • So glad you're showing some love to Eckhart Tolle; his stuff was legit life-changing for me. Tolle's style of "spirituality" is less mystical and more a method of logical thinking that primes you to handle whatever life throws at you. Reading The Power of Now pretty much cured me of my clinical depression and anxiety, and A New Earth was great for helping me let go of things like bad habits and addictions. I saw a fantastic video recently where Russell Brand interviews Tolle that's really worth a search.

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  • Great video!

    KD MoonchildKD MoonchildMåned siden
  • Actually I think if I met russel brand in RL, I would perceive him as very creepy. In my opinion, he kinda gives manipulating vibes

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    • Actually russell has really weird vibes for me... Like their sorta creepy and manipulative and too overwhelming yet so addicting.(I'm a girl btwlol)

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    • I feel you, but that may just be his tv person

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  • Good things don't come to those who wait. Good things come to those who pursue the goals and dreams they believe in. -The Shades

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  • Hi Charlie, since you are on the concept of spirituality and already made a breakdown of Sadhguru and russell .....please do one for *Sri Sri Ravishankar* He is an indian Guru and gave me a profound experience in life

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  • What if you did a sort of darker thing like how cult leaders attract their following so we can make sure we can see a charlatan when we meet one? That'd be really interesting from your perspective. Like a David Koresh or something.

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  • nothing to lose mindset. Try it out

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  • The Bible always comes in clutch for me

    OffroadArmbarOffroadArmbarMåned siden
  • Even the shape of his mouth is charismatic. I should get my mouth shaped like that

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  • I saw Russel Brand live doing a talk at the Cambridge Union - I've never seen someone be able to hold an audience's attention as well as him. Definition of charisma!

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  • He meditates a great deal, which is the practice of being present.

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  • Great video!

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  • Could you maybe do a video on how to remember names and faces? It’s something I really struggle with before I get to know people well and I always feel like I’m coming across as rude.

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  • wow, i think i have just realized that you look like Eddie Redmayne

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  • Great video.thank you

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  • Mindfulness through meditation is one way to cultivate presence

    Fergus PitcherFergus PitcherMåned siden
  • Dang I missed this guy

    AlbertoAlbertoMåned siden
  • is kind of contradiction to run a charisma channel and to also listen to jake paul's podcast since the guy is a massive a-hole with everyone :/

    Priscilla HeegerPriscilla HeegerMåned siden
    • just a thought, really like your videos charlie :)

      Priscilla HeegerPriscilla HeegerMåned siden
  • Hey Charlie. Since you are doing reaction videos, would you consider doing one on James Corden's response to Bill Maher talking about fat-shaming? I feel Corden manages to address Bill like a friend in a respectful way about why what Bill said was wrong, but also manages to hold him to a higher standard, and is honestly a good reminder for me on how to stand up for what's right in a peaceful loving way.

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  • mmmm double skippable ads

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    • tysm btw xD

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  • Bro you sound like Light Yagami lowkey.

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  • can you predict the next election again?

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  • Can you please make more charisma videos about the US election this year with Joe Biden and Donald Trump? The one's you made from the 2016 election were so interesting!

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  • Wait, it's ALL Russell Brand?

    ChrisChrisMåned siden
  • I'm curious to what you think of mirror neurons, with regards to your belief of an individual's energy!

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  • Best video in awhile

    Caleb ThompsonCaleb ThompsonMåned siden
  • They make you cringe with the SUICIDES???? What?

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  • i'm glad you changed the title, but a little bit too late, it was way too clickbaity

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  • I love book recommendations from this channel

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  • I know from other people who have had addictions that viewing everyone one in terms of what you can get from them is common, so it is good that he is actively challenging some of his old behaviour. While the scandal that saw him banished from much of TV and film was wildly over blown in the press at the time it does show Russell thinking about what he can get out of an interaction and nothing about the effect he would have on anyone else. Personally I'm one of those who find him too narcistic to be likeable and his smug pomposity unbearable in some interviews.

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  • No social fear whatsoever just a pure sigma male.

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  • my opinion is just dont try to be special

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    • lol

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  • Could you give advice on how to lie convincingly? My crewmates think I sabotaged the ship (I did but they don't need to know that).

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  • There needs do be a Regis Philbin episode

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    • Sorry for your loss.

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    • Here before 10 likes

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  • Can you talk about Anna Kendrick's charisma?

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  • How do I explain to my friends that this is my type?

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  • Please do Marc Rebillet next

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  • Great video and great content in general. Thanks for all your hard work, i appreciate it and you :-)

    Jack ReaperJack ReaperMåned siden
  • Lol yeah just be yourself - I’m a boring logical guy. Lol I hate the advice just be yourself

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  • i think if you are blushing and while talking your mind goes blank then there is a chance that you are a nice person not good not confident nice, i strongly recommend to search for Dr Aziz and see if you relate to what he says

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    • I love Dr. Aziz, thanks for sharing that resource with us!

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