How To Flirt Without Being Creepy

26. aug.. 2019
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No one teaches you how to flirt, which is a shame, because it means that sometimes, even with the best of intentions, you can come across as creepy. In fact, it’s more common than you might think. If you like someone you do NOT want that to be the case.
In this video, you’re going to learn 4 common ways that you might be creeping your flirt out without even realizing it. You will also learn what you can do to adjust so that you come across as cool, confident and suave.

0:22 - Adjustment #1: Use the goldilocks rule when making eye contact.
1:14 - Adjustment #2: Combine sincere compliments with a joke.
2:07 - Adjustment #3: Your touch should not be too light or heavy.
3:05 - Adjustment #4: Don’t make them feel trapped.
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  • The animator needs to calm down. Reminds me of the special effects guy from monster bug wars. We get it my guy! No need to go to such extremes cause it can end up being UNeducational and distracting.

    AcidDomeAcidDome3 måneder siden
  • hahaha that animation though

    Proudly KenyanProudly Kenyan3 måneder siden
  • 2:47my siri is on danish and has voice recognition, and every time i get to this point, siri turns on for some reason

    Gabriel boydGabriel boyd4 måneder siden
  • It's a sad truth that women hold the power in these situations (90% of the time). Girls have way more options than men when it comes to securing a partner on a night out - and I never want to be just "another guy" queuing for that "hot" girl at the bar so I forever stay away from even trying to flirt. I daren't even make eye contact in case she quickly darts her eyes away from that "weirdo" trying to get her attention. I'm just not that guy. Is there a way to change my mindset here?

    SuperMisterKorySuperMisterKory4 måneder siden
    • @Divine Yeah, I've tried online dating too and even that's a chore. Don't get me wrong, it's still worked well for me once or twice in the past but I still feel it's very similar (if not exactly the same) as trying to chat someone up at a bar. Maybe even worse? Girls will still get bombarded with messages off guys queueing up to be at the front of the line to talk to them; and I've found that if the girl ever does message back then it's usually blunt and difficult to get a conversation unless they're actually interested in YOU. Not to mention that's IF you get a message back - SO many girls I've found simply ignore you. Which is straight up irritating. My dad even once told me you'll message bunch of girls and only maybe one or two will actually reply. It's just the way it is. Plus, getting to choose what pics you put up, everyone puts up their best pictures from their best angles and it's rarely an accurate portrayal of reality, so I find that side of it somewhat deceiving also. As you can see, I've had my fair share of failures and missed shots without being needy or a try-hard. Not to mention the heartbreak from certain girls in the past as well - honestly, I just can't be arsed with it any more. Hahah. Rather than try in all of these different social ways (bars, networking, etc.), I honestly think the best way to meet someone is to just go on with your daily life and not necessarily "pursue" looking for someone. Don't force or fake a personality and don't force yourself into someone's life either. The right person will come along naturally, they'll like you for you and it's easier to ask them out for a date if you see them and converse frequently enough. Like you say, it could be a friend of a friend, someone you see in a class you take, maybe even a work mate (within reason), either way I personally think chasing someone isn't worth the hassle. Maybe when I was a teenager and I didn't know any better, but now I'm slowly approaching 30 I think the right girl will eventually come along at the right time - and I'm not impatient enough to let that happen whenever it does. Sorry for the essay, I've evidently got a lot to say on this topic haha.

      SuperMisterKorySuperMisterKory2 måneder siden
    • We already have solutions for this queuing issue with online dating. I personally think the quality of partner at both bars and online dating is god awful. You're best looking for someone through an alumni network, through a friends friend or just straight up shooting your shot on Insta. Getting partners on nights out has gotten so bad that people literally relate to it with a negative preconceived notion, i.e. "Nothing good can come of this".

      DivineDivine2 måneder siden
  • Wtf are these animations

    Jaden DoddJaden Dodd5 måneder siden
  • Littlefinger needs to watch this

    Captain XiiooongCaptain Xiiooong6 måneder siden
  • 1:55 CoC know's what's up.

    John DoeJohn Doe6 måneder siden
  • Lol I’m here because I’m actually dating a guy that was super creepy when we 1st met. He was just staring at me hard core across the bar and being serious. He didn’t even smile back when I tried to smile at him (thought he was a bit creepy but also cute) I’m glad I was able to tell him in a joking way and he felt so bad he said he never realized he was being creepy. Lol. But idk I get a little weirded out by it still since he can get pretty serious and gets this scary look on his face 😬

    Miriam DavisMiriam Davis6 måneder siden
  • So no wall is better than a real wall

    Jeremy TheimerJeremy Theimer8 måneder siden
  • 03:11 I can confirm, it’s oddly annoying and creepy when someone who’s taller blocks me like that

    manaar منارmanaar منار8 måneder siden
  • some of this are straight out common sense, but when the nerve is struck and the tension is up I do it anyway. somehow.

    metalperslfxmetalperslfx8 måneder siden
  • loool look at dem huge titties

    hangukhiphophangukhiphop9 måneder siden
  • This is hilarious

    Take the red pillTake the red pill9 måneder siden
  • lol these animations are hilarious

    SlyyvieSlyyvie9 måneder siden
  • I know this art of flirting no big deal and I end up with a happy blocking by the girl

    Abhay BishtAbhay Bisht9 måneder siden
  • flirting needs to become extinct. just use your words and learn how to take rejection if you're that concerned with having a sexual partner. we're not in the wild.

    Some PersonSome Person9 måneder siden
  • Look dude, the object is to make her give you signals or signs that she is open to you talking to her. Or, how about making her pursue you.... it can happen, I have seen it.

    Marcus WittMarcus Witt9 måneder siden
  • 2:10 when i see a dog

    DD10 måneder siden
  • The part about the club reminded me of a funny situation that I had. I was pretty drunk and at the club with friends. My friend had a glow stick necklace, and dropped it. I picked it up and put it around this random girl. She turns around and I grab her hand and we started dancing. I let her go and turn around to my friends. My cousin said he knew I was messed up because she was tapping me trying to get my attention the whole night, but I kept ignoring her. It was also funny because I didn’t recall much of that night and realized afterwards. Long story short use a glow stick necklace to pick up girls at the club.

    Haitham YassenHaitham Yassen10 måneder siden
  • What about for women?

    SausagesSausages10 måneder siden
  • Honestly if someone just stares at me for even a few seconds and smiles I get creeped out-

    7 Rings7 Rings11 måneder siden
  • Feat. Kurzgesagt?

    Ian AlejandroIan Alejandro11 måneder siden
  • Your dad

    DGDG11 måneder siden
  • this whole animation is discomforting

    HonkBolHonkBol11 måneder siden
  • These graphics look like a Mortal Kombat guy performing fatalities or X-rays on a poor woman. 😂

    JoJo BaBokJoJo BaBok11 måneder siden
  • Lol just be single...........easy solve

    bernard koeybernard koey11 måneder siden
  • this looks like a Kurzgesagt video

    AlessandroXVIAlessandroXVI11 måneder siden
  • Know if they want you around, if you think they don’t then leave it.

    afootineachworldafootineachworld11 måneder siden
  • Those boob physics are top notch

    Brandon MonroeBrandon Monroe11 måneder siden
  • Did you use Exurb1as song in this video? I didn't know you also were a fan!

    EBDEBDÅr siden
  • wish that this video had made its way to the kid who thought that randomly touching a girl on the shoulder from the shadows was a good thing. Hes now facing jail time.

    Action Figure LairAction Figure LairÅr siden
  • Flirt with the girl if you want to date her. Flirt with her dad if you want to marry her.

    Rock StylerRock StylerÅr siden

    EEÅr siden
  • #5: if she’s giving you cues that she isnt interested, dont keep pestering her over and over, respect it

    liz hliz hÅr siden
  • this animation is super creepy xD

    Emily JaneEmily JaneÅr siden
  • Awesome

    hsasmgablehsasmgableÅr siden
  • Some people here find the animation creepy. I found it was kinda cute

    Viktor NguyenViktor NguyenÅr siden
  • The animation is so great x')

    Mr StrangeCakeMr StrangeCakeÅr siden
  • Do Andrew Yang!

    MonkizakiMonkizakiÅr siden
  • Models is a great book

    Aniseoul TvAniseoul TvÅr siden
  • I hate TikTok. Have a nice day :)

    S.L. S.S.L. S.År siden
  • I always followed the advice not to approach girls from behind on the dancefloor. Until a few weeks ago I saw a guy basically hugging a really nice (but rather shy) girl from behind and starting to dance with her. I kept watching them and some 30 minutes later they were kissing right there.

    LoserDestinyLoserDestinyÅr siden
  • smile back?? man girls turn their eyes away from me in 0,00000000000001 sec

    Nikt NiewiemNikt NiewiemÅr siden
  • The animation and comments here are gold.

    Nagano YTNagano YTÅr siden
  • 3:10 any woman would be horrified if some guy danced like that

    King IsaacKing IsaacÅr siden
  • We need a book recommendation for women as well - how to successfully flirt for long term relationships, i.e. how to attract a good man with long-term intentions and not one-night-stand intentions.

    binbodabinbodaÅr siden
  • Don't forget to constantly dance with her.

    Tad StrangeTad StrangeÅr siden
  • Please, I've been myself for years and nothing ever worked out.

    badreligion1231badreligion1231År siden
  • Too bad you’re a Patriots fan we can never hang out again.

    Kenneth CruzKenneth CruzÅr siden
  • Honestly work on your looks and be more attractive, being ugly makes up the most of being creepy to women.

    Bonezius PilatuzBonezius PilatuzÅr siden
  • That's exurb1a's dog wrestler waltz. I hope you asked him first.

    Akarsh chaturvediAkarsh chaturvediÅr siden
  • Kurxheghsst animation style

    Zetsuke4Zetsuke4År siden
  • Those animations😂👍

    demoixdemoixÅr siden
  • 3:32 im friggin 5.8 what size? P.s. The animations look familiar ( you should do more)

    samsamÅr siden
  • I love exurb1a's music in the background

    Samuel GordonSamuel GordonÅr siden
  • How to do jokes?

    Sam JudgeSam JudgeÅr siden
  • I must just be really old or something, because I don't remember ever seeing dancing booths. I guess it's just what you crazy kids are doing these days?

    mobspeakmobspeakÅr siden
  • haha these animations are funkkyy

    Cape EnieerCape EnieerÅr siden
  • 3:29 this scene is nightmare fuel for me

    dethplaquedethplaqueÅr siden
  • So I am a man 😭😂😂😂

    rowan mohamedrowan mohamedÅr siden
  • That background Music... exurb1a. Solid choice.

    Caleb TuckerCaleb TuckerÅr siden
  • how to flirt 1 . start flirting.

    B FROM AB FROM AÅr siden
  • you speak spanish?

    Jaximus ACT NJaximus ACT NÅr siden
  • The way makes have to court females makes me feel sick

    row0111row0111År siden
  • If they like you, be yourself. If they don't, you're a creep. Move on.

    E.P. ManneE.P. ManneÅr siden
  • But what about the implications

    MaraxusofkMaraxusofkÅr siden
  • Good video but i find the animations too over the top, they distract me from what you're trying to say

    JohannesJohannesÅr siden
  • I went on a date and did that weird dance while she was pinned against the wall. It worked! Thanks!

    johndavies115johndavies115År siden
  • I want to know how to be creepy without having to flirt

    Bastian RiveroBastian RiveroÅr siden
  • 1:06 pls someone caption this

    Black styfyBlack styfyÅr siden
  • These animations.....

    MicoolaMicoolaÅr siden
  • Double standards amirite

    Absent MindedAbsent MindedÅr siden
  • Jokes on the women, I'm terrified of them.

    NarxesNarxesÅr siden
  • The man portrayed in the video is on crack

    KabutoesKabutoesÅr siden
  • It's a good idea to let her sit with her back to everything anyway. she of course won't feel trapped, but more importantly, she only has a view of you while you can see the whole place

    LTrain 45LTrain 45År siden
  • Am I the only one who noticed the "exurb1a" music in the background?

    Bojidar StoykovBojidar StoykovÅr siden
  • not going to cite Our Lord and Saviour exurb1a as the author of the music even if its free to use?

    Ivo AndričićIvo AndričićÅr siden
  • That excurb1a music tho

    B. BlokzijlB. BlokzijlÅr siden
  • Any advise

    seven love luckyseven love luckyÅr siden
  • If you're interested in flirting you should take a look at attractiongym! Usefull tips with real life video examples

    RiecoRiecoÅr siden
  • Ya know, this is a pretty high quality video. It has a sort of educational tone to it, so it’s interesting to think about all the viewers coming out here to learn... everyone here has been creepy at least on accident at least once

    Austin SargeantAustin SargeantÅr siden
  • How to flirt without being creepy: 1. Be attractive. 2. Don't be not attractive.

    Tim Mosso's N95 MaskTim Mosso's N95 MaskÅr siden
  • I was *JUST* reading Models. It's an excellent book.

    youssarian91youssarian91År siden
  • Be attractive. It's really that easy. Whether or not the statement "You look good" is interpreted as harassment is entirely dependent on if the girl thinks you're attractive enough to say it. There is no consistency. We live in a world that has bee perfectly structured to benefit women.

    Nick SmithNick SmithÅr siden
  • thx dude ❤️

    Night Fury 24Night Fury 24År siden
  • The one thing I learned during my dating life: If the girl likes you, you can be creepy as and the girls still thinks it is cute. But for the first contacts the video is pretty accurate.

    MMÅr siden
  • you can’t tell me you’re not looking at those things too.

    NatalieNatalieÅr siden
  • Step 1: Be attractive

    Royce BunceRoyce BunceÅr siden
  • Could you make a video on how to be comfortable not being comfortable? How to address it in a funny way rather than coming across as awkward?

    HaniHaniÅr siden
  • Hey this is all well and good but you got any tips for the LGBT community? As a Lez I find it impossible to know if I'm being flirted with or am flirting properly

    AmeAmeÅr siden
  • Is this kurzgesagt artwork?

    Roland VirágRoland VirágÅr siden
  • Agreeeeeeeeee. Holly heck.

    Average CAverage CÅr siden
  • I got so many dates on the dance floor by gently walking up and dancing with women.

    Solemn SolaceSolemn SolaceÅr siden
  • In otherwords you have to be a perfect robot and wake around on eggshells

    identity Europaidentity EuropaÅr siden
  • what no one tells you it that in 90% it depends on how good you look and that is based un some studies that put women in the a situation where 1 ugly guy said the same thing as the hot guy but 1 was creepy and the other not XD Mans either u go to the gym and improve or just go mgtow or do both :v

    Gabriel AnghelGabriel AnghelÅr siden
    • also never listen to any advice women give you in dating becasue most of them have no clue what it feels like to make the first step..

      Gabriel AnghelGabriel AnghelÅr siden
  • Alpha M copycat ?

    skyouskyouÅr siden
  • I was wondering why just pulling my pants down wasn't working.

    J TJ TÅr siden
  • This seems to be specific to men. Would you give the same advice to women?

    Seelen SturmSeelen SturmÅr siden
  • These animations are so obnoxiously disturbing and funny lol

    SancLunaticSancLunaticÅr siden
  • What a very strange, creepy video - radical feminist makes demands and gives commands to men. What self-respecting man is going to obey this person? Just so weird and super creepy

    myfavsmyfavsÅr siden