How to Go From Awkward To Charming

28. sep.. 2020
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We have all had moments in our lives where we were more awkward than we would like to be, and we have all had moments where we surprised ourselves with how charming, charismatic and confident we can be. The questions is: how do we go from one to the other on command?
I think that Elon Musk is a great example of someone that represents the best of both worlds. That's why in this video, I want to dive into some clips of Elon to see what you can learn, and how to turn those moments where you are awkward and turn them into ones where you are charming and charismatic.

0:00 - Intro.
1:58 - #1: Elaborate on the question
2:33 - #2: Make consistent eye contact.
3:47 - #3: Crack an understated joke.
5:06 - #4: Embrace the silence.
6:08 - #5: Prime yourself.
7:22 - #6: Fully commit.
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  • 9:20 it means not everyone is meant to be a Chris Pratt.

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  • You should hear what the Panasonic employees say about him at his Gigfactory. Lets just say its not good. . .

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  • I was singing on stage once, screwed up the key, lyrics, and timing. Stopped singing, laughed, said something like, "Well there's a good reason to practice more than I did! Can we start over?" Everyone laughed, and this story already sounds so fake I'm not even gonna finish it.

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  • I think Elon is a good example of the fundamental aspects of charisma: What you see is what you get. He isn't trying to be something else. He's unapologetically himself.

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  • his mouth is much slower than his mind.

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  • He's very intelligent AND has become the 3rd richest person in the world... if I acted like him in a conversation with someone I'd become the "don't talk to him!" guy in no time. Most examples used are always celebrities or highly successful people, and those factors are always ignored as being factors in how people react to them.

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  • Elon knows exactly what's going on lmaooo, Jack Ma is just such a fkn pleb, yeah he can sell stuff but really Jack Ma, Alibaba Intelligence?...God help us

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  • If Elon Musk weren't the ultra-rich and successful investor he is, he'd probably be seen as awkward and childish. There are some good tips in this video but Musk is not very charismatic.

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  • I myself am on a journey of finding and analysing such character traits of people. I find your videos so interesting. Thank you for the valuable info and analysis. I also go through awkward moments when I talk to people and I use the 3rd technique a lot. Thank you so much again.

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  • Its all good he has Social Anxiety disorder. You'll get through it buddy.

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  • Did you watch a little longer at 3:30? I'd think his "this can be fixed in post" comment would be good.

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  • Elon is the most awkward public speaker in the world. He can't put together a basic sentence. He is humming and hawing all the time. Even non English native speakers speak more fluently

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  • You’re a very handsome man, but you’d look even better with a beard. Just something to think about.🧔🏻

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  • Finally... Charisma on Command

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  • He continuesly changing elons photo in his background.

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  • Good job guys

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  • Is it me or does he remind you of someone doctor Mike maybe?

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  • where can i get the background photo of elon musk ?

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  • Why would I want to be anything like that weirdo?

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  • Can you make a video on Gordon Ramsay? He's really charismatic

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  • I would really love Saiorse Ronan to be featured here

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  • The picture behind you keeps changing throughout the video 😂

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  • Ok I just noticed something. I watched a recent video of Elon on the Joe rogan show, he was speaking about selling all of his assets. He spoke very awkwardly, very short, and almost uncomfortable answering Joe’s questions. Is it joe that’s making him uncomfortable? Or perhaps they both know something we don’t?

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  • Are we just going to ignore the Elon pictures behind them?

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  • 0:59 anyone else catch the framed elon musk pic change in the background

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  • Elon is rarely charming, only one clip you showed he was. People just like him because is the "I wanna be rich like you" culture so he has a fan base

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  • For an introvert professional it is hard to start speak about themes without sounding arrogant. Especially I front of a big group. Being too smart in a tech field is hell when it comes to explaining those in front of ppl not even understand basic lingo. It is just super awkward. Everything I say in these situations sounds harsh. But I also teach and my students get me, because they have interest and they ask without judgment. Ali Aba and Tesla is two different world created by two different genius.

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  • 90mgs of adderall a day.. this is why his body language fluctuates.. A.d.d. and as a HUMAN living with a high IQ adhd/add ... adddhhddd ... disorder lol . I can tell you alot. ..I can tell you how 0mg vs 90 mgs of a certain central nervous stimulants can change ones speech and body language from figity 0mg.. because your adhd is out there its on fire.. to having 90mg and being calm charismatic and getting alot done.. Elon gets stuff done because he works his "flaws " one person's freckles are another person's beauty marks. His brain is not catching up to his body duh.. He probably takes a small dose so he can be more average to the masses. (No ones reading this so far this is crazy talk) His interactions are when you think about it pretty much spot on for all that he has accomplished. His brain is different he knows this and he uses it . He puts on a event because its Public relations... because only the neuro diverse understand the universe... And he is winning..It is what it is..

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  • We need a Barney Stinson video

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  • Could you imagine if Elon acted like Tony Stark

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  • Can you do a video that features King Alfred from "The Last Kingdom"? That character has an amazing screen presence and oozes charisma / conviction.

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  • Oh look it’s me as a CEO.

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  • i have your book but i have a question if i follow this book will i be better at communication skills is there any guarantee..

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  • do vid on johnny depp

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  • Why I feel when I watch this like I am an *AI* trying to understand human beings

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  • Stephan A. Smith

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  • A video on groups, that would be phenomenal.

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  • channel about charisma using elon musk as an example of what to do....lmfao....believe in yourselves guys, i'm sure you're all more charismatic than elon musk

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  • Hi, can you please do a video on Tekashi 69 and how to be charming when people want to hate you (something like that ). His interviews are very interesting.

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  • What a silly video, the guy is brilliant in his own way, more importantly he owns it. People aren’t all meant to be the same

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  • I know this has happened to almost everyone So....when you are talking and the other person and you both say bye and go on the same direction....What do you do? Start the convo again or what😅😂

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  • plot twist: Elon has been studying Charlies videos for the last 4 years

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  • Charisma on Command, any chance you'll make a video on Michael Cera and how he uses awkwardness in a funny, charming way?

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  • He’s just sleep deprived.

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  • awesome video!

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  • 4:00 ELON'S FACE IN THE BACKROUND 🤣🤣 it will give me nightmares 😂

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  • Elon Musk lags while giving a presentation. He needs to update his system.

  • I think Elon's awkwardness is a genuine and loveable part of his persona. I loved the Joe Rogan interview when he was that somber reflective person, it was as if he was showcasing his inner thought process. Apart from that, I feel like Elon has these slow start ups because when someone says something like "can you talk about ai?" his brain immediately floods with 1 million things about the topic and he needs to straighten out that flow of thought.

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  • Wow. That was impractical jokers. You should do something about them

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  • Muito bom

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  • You should do a charisma breakdown on videogamedunkey, one of the most uniquely charismatic people I've ever heard of

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  • Thanks Charlie great channel

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  • Can you do a video on ‘why trump will be re-elected?’

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  • Command---aware.

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  • Charlie, it is very unlikely that you will read this, but if you do, I want you to know, I have concern for you

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  • Can you do a video on the presidential debates like you did in 2016?

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  • Thank you guys, this was a grand video. I am really enjoying the content, the funky way of charisma ;)! The bigger message of the video speaks to me

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  • Please do a breakdown of Matthew Mconaughey 💯

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  • Since I’ve started watching this channel 2 years ago, I’ve really taken the advice of listening to music to put myself in a positive mindset before going to events. I sing, dance, and let myself laugh that way I come off as more charismatic when I go to work or class!

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  • I first thought maybe Elon has good day and bad like I do. However, maybe getting warmed up can address this. I plan on trying this for sure.

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  • i have a question. how charismatic person would react on someone telling them they’re in love with them? and how to react when you don’t like person back but would like to answer respectively and stay friends or end up at the good note?

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  • I have a request: IT IS NOW TIME FOR YOU TO 'PREDICT' US ELECTION, you did a wonderful video series there, love it! but after all that credit you took, I think there be a group of audience here, waiting for your prediction and analysis for this one!! Please tell us what you observe!

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    • We need more rounds.

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  • Fantastic content 👍

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  • I mean Elon has a pretty good sense of humor and a sense of humility which is rare for sure thats why hes so likable.

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  • Charlie time to analyse presidential candidates and their debate skills from a charisma perspective...hope to see something on it👍

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  • Please do a video on Jurgen Klopp that guy is amazing

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    • Brendan Quinn oh my god yeahhh klopp is a whole different phenomenon along with Ronaldo

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