How To Go From Boy Psychology To Man Psychology

11. jan.. 2021
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How do you become a man? Cultures around the world have long believed it doesn’t just happen with age - certain steps need to be takenand recently the topic has gotten even more complicated with concerns of toxic masculinity rising.
Well in this video I’ll be using Cobra Kai to break down what I see as the 4 stages men go through in the road to quote unquote manhood, where guys go wrong, and what you can do to get to the next phase of growth.

0:00 - Intro.
0:34 - Stage #1: Boyhood.
2:00 - Stage #2: The eager student.
4:33 - Stage #3: The wanderer.
7:51 - Stage #4: The free thinker.
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  • toxic masculinity? toxic is american culture. wokeness is cancer. keep it in the west -asia

    My Sexy BeastMy Sexy Beast6 dager siden
  • I disagree with a lot of the points in this video. Some things are considered masculine or manly and some things simply aren't.

    Almighty LoafAlmighty Loaf7 dager siden
  • I’m almost 39 and I THINK I might have hit stage four, lol. Great videos 👍

    IanIan7 dager siden
  • Great video!!

    The Red AlarmThe Red Alarm10 dager siden
  • please one video for females too when you can, thank you

    Thisisthesign foryouThisisthesign foryou10 dager siden
  • Love this.

    Cade The Consistency CoachCade The Consistency Coach12 dager siden
  • 1:10 what movie/show is that?

    Ricky BRicky B14 dager siden
  • Poetry will never be manly Sorry

    Andre BritoAndre Brito19 dager siden
  • This is your best video

    larrylarry21 dag siden
  • Jordan Peterson is my NOworld dad.

    Siddhartha PunditSiddhartha Pundit23 dager siden
  • "I told you that 'juvenile delinquent' is a contradiction in terms. 'Delinquent' means 'failing in duty.' But duty is an adult virtue-indeed a juvenile becomes an adult when, and only when, he acquires a knowledge of duty and embraces it as dearer than the self-love he was born with. There never was, there cannot be a 'juvenile delinquent.' But for every juvenile criminal there are always one or more adult delinquents-people of mature years who either do not know their duty, or who, knowing it, fail." Lt. Col. Jean V. Dubois (Ret.), p. 120 -Robert A. Heinlein's Starship Troopers

    Happy JohnHappy John25 dager siden
  • "some of the things of manhood (or in this case ck) are destroying the things he cares about" omgg true. I think Johnny tries to be tough with Robby or something, but he actually just needs to let himself be open and vulnerable with Robby. Those are the parts he wants. He wants his dad to care for him.

    riele. queenriele. queen25 dager siden
  • 16 year old girl here, watching a NOworld video on how to be a man. Lol

    Jamie N.Jamie N.25 dager siden
  • Good video 👍

    Mateusz F.Mateusz F.25 dager siden
  • i build myself tough. but became evil over time. it's the wrong path. I ruined myself entirely

    Vengeful PolititronVengeful Polititron25 dager siden
  • Of all the great advice you've given in your videos, this is probably the best.

    Kj16VKj16V29 dager siden
  • I would liken mentorship to being a musician or other artist. If you worship one band completely to the exclusion of other artists and styles you will never develop your own style and will only ever sound like a pale imitation of your one inspiration, and everyone will hear it. On the other hand, if you listen widely to other artists and genres, then through that pleurality of influences you are much more likely to come up with a genuinely interesting and original sound of your own. Same with mentors. Don't look for one person to follow blindly, look for ideas that work for you, from wherever (and whoever) they may come, and from that mix of influences, your own adult personality will emerge. That is how you become your own person in my opinion.

    Huw GuyverHuw GuyverMåned siden
  • Amanda LaRusso would be a good video on gaining trust. A guy literally came wanting to fight her husband and she offered him a meal followed by actually listening to his problem.

    Leah WalentoskyLeah WalentoskyMåned siden
  • Analyse Rupaul!

    Barney MortBarney MortMåned siden
  • Self reflection is the most important aspect of becoming wiser etc

    T FPT FPMåned siden
  • Havent hit 2 yet but part 3 hit a little too close to home I seem to have skipped the second stage

    G4leG4leMåned siden
  • Lol yeah this is the worst title ever. I'll watch anything about Cobra Kai and love your content

    Ethan SmithEthan SmithMåned siden
  • I wish 13 y/o me had content like this to absorb

    TyLee GAMEZTyLee GAMEZMåned siden
  • Everybody wants to be a Beast Until it's Time To Do What The Beast Do....# TRIBE OF MENTORS

  • Jordan Peterson type of content right here. I’m impressed

    KingRichTvKingRichTvMåned siden
  • Can you do a video about César Mourão, a portuguese comedian great in is improv skills and think fast with is feet and Tedou Souji Kamen rider Kabuto's mais characters? Love your videos👍👌

    Ricardo PintoRicardo PintoMåned siden
  • What about all those hormone disturbing chemicals and toxic foods out there that decrease testosterone? Mindset is great but I think we also have to take care of our bodies as well.

    Big Mr. EBig Mr. EMåned siden
  • When I was growing up, I learned that the life of a man is overcoming pain. Pain is weakness leaving the body. The goal wasn't to avoid it. The goal was to face it.

    Daniel SmithDaniel SmithMåned siden
    • This is really inspirational

      SINGH JISINGH JI8 dager siden
  • Imagine a woman telling you what a man should and shouldn't do 😂

    D13G0 02D13G0 02Måned siden
  • This kind of makes me think about One Piece, about the relationships between Luffy and Shanks. Shanks is the mentor we're introduced by letting a weaker man bully him by spilling booze over him, and Shanks just lets it happen, then laughs with his friends when the bully leaves - even though Shanks could easily have stopped or killed him with no effort. Then later, that same bully tries to kill Luffy - a child - just for calling him names. One isn't concerned about how the world sees him. One is. (Though the problem is still that the show kind of puts emphasis on Shanks being admired later on for being one of the strongest characters in the show more than his admirable sense of self-worth, and Luffy - unlike the lessons taught in this video - doesn't stray from what he learned from Shanks and doesn't ever evolve into a Wanderer or Free Thinker).

    jeramahia123jeramahia123Måned siden
  • I would like to add that a real man is also comfortable with being alone and knows how to survive alone. Furthermore, taking FULL responsibilities of your actions is in my opinion also a trait of a real man.

    Boyka UnlimittedBoyka UnlimittedMåned siden
  • Don't waste your time for this. Guys I don't know from where it's taken from tv show Lol this is real life. Just start taking responsibility for your life be a man

    DILI 1999kgDILI 1999kgMåned siden
  • Have cojones, don't be wishy washy male feminist. Do as you like.

    Carlos HortuviaCarlos HortuviaMåned siden
  • This is kind of hard for me to watch because it is so much of my life in my late 20's. Thanks for this vid guys.

    Luis MinervinoLuis MinervinoMåned siden
  • So don't be an alpha male, be a sigma male instead!

    87Tempests87Tempests2 måneder siden
  • I feel like I grew up a lot when I became my own role model. Wanting to be like someone else is for kids. Wanting to be the best version of yourself is what makes a man.

    Ben RogencampBen Rogencamp2 måneder siden
    • I learned by studying the greats of the past...

      Happy JohnHappy John25 dager siden
  • I like to add that realistically you shouldn't have just "one" teacher in life or study a "single" creed/book/philosophy. As you go through life, and if you truly want to grow as a person, then your going to be influnced by "many" different teachers and study a lot of different creeds/ books/ philosophies. Each with their own different approaches, some very different from each other, but each will help you. Each of these men and women will come to you in different parts of your life fo teach you something valuable In that stage of your life. They all have their own flaws and strengths to them, but you'll get something from all of them. And it doesn't stop. Even as an adult you'll come across new people who will influence you. By the end of your life, you won't just have "one" book by "one" author that will help shape who you'll become, but an entire library. And in this libary you will have your own personal book.

    Richard ParkerRichard Parker2 måneder siden
    • Thx for the advice man. Wish u ahead in life and continue to inspire others as well!

      Billy ツ GunsBilly ツ Guns13 dager siden
  • Strike first strike hard no mercy!

    Isaac BorundaIsaac Borunda2 måneder siden
  • I love how this video used Cobra Kai as an example, plus I love that show

    Communism is evilCommunism is evil2 måneder siden
  • Boxers are the best

    Vegard ThorbjørnsenVegard Thorbjørnsen2 måneder siden
  • Hawk had the best transformation in the whole Netflix

    Badass BobYBadass BobY2 måneder siden
  • Sean Evans from Hot Ones would be a great subject for a charisma breakdown because he asks such great and engaging questions!

    Vagabond MorrisonVagabond Morrison2 måneder siden
  • "How do you become a man?" oh geez I hope this isn't a transgender video...

    YouTube WantsToSilenceMeYouTube WantsToSilenceMe2 måneder siden
  • Name of movie in beginning

    OhthatseliOhthatseli2 måneder siden
  • Name of movie?

    OhthatseliOhthatseli2 måneder siden
  • Q U I E T !!!

    styen dimpustyen dimpu2 måneder siden
  • There is no such thing as toxic masculinity.

    ··2 måneder siden
  • How to be a man in 2021 Just identify as one. Side note, only works in the US and some parts of UK. Proceed with caution.

    MattMatt2 måneder siden
  • Wait, you put on a scene here from the last moments of season 3 :D

    maciek1929940maciek19299402 måneder siden
  • You just announce it on twitter and/or reddit

    Ralpha MaleRalpha Male2 måneder siden
  • Great advice, Thanks a lot.

    Rae ZRae Z2 måneder siden
  • Video started well, lots of errors with what happened in Cobra Kai.. then just became incel propaganda by the end!

    Chris MaddockChris Maddock2 måneder siden
  • Wow great video! Didn't realize cobra kai could be so practical lol. Feel like I'm pretty far down this path as I have been trying to learn everything I can and best adapt that to what I want to do, definitely not letting other people dictate who you are is very important

    SharpSteelzSharpSteelz2 måneder siden
  • Really great video bro

    Mighel AkandoMighel Akando2 måneder siden
  • And after becoming a man, you become a badass.

    trustobey1016trustobey10162 måneder siden
  • That's easy. Get $75, go down to Cherry Street near downtown. Look for a girl named Gina. Her manager's name is Ringo...he drives a purple Cadillac. She'll make a man out of ya.

    dxtripleh1014dxtripleh10142 måneder siden
  • I flipped a few times between stage 2 and 3 with different mentors. As soon as I got to a certain lesson which I found to be unfair to others or too unreasonable in some way, I began to worry about the validity of everything else the mentor had told me. Then I find a different mentor and the cycle repeats.

    Kolelo KaramKolelo Karam2 måneder siden
  • 🦞 🦞 🦞

    MobyDickHeadMobyDickHead2 måneder siden
  • I was thinking about this the other day the only way to be a man. Is to stop Pursuing society’s expectation and simply create the man you are happy being. You will be more respected n admired for being confident in the choices you have made for yourself and not others

    TheCONZ I amTheCONZ I am2 måneder siden
  • It could even be a character I personally grew up looking up to my father : someone who overcame his social awkwardness and Sherlock Holmes : Someone who weaponized his quirks

    Harucina HintHarucina Hint2 måneder siden
    • @Billy ツ Guns hindsight = 20/20 lol

      Harucina HintHarucina Hint8 dager siden
    • That’s what he meant by ‘someone’.

      Billy ツ GunsBilly ツ Guns13 dager siden
  • I wish this video came years ago.

    Katyayan NarulaKatyayan Narula2 måneder siden
  • be a man: be johnny be a man's man: be kreese Be a god amongst men: be miyagi-san

    journeymanXjourneymanX2 måneder siden
  • This is why the sons of single-mothers become weak, a strong father is needed.

    crypter27crypter272 måneder siden
  • The wrights of passage Duhh how else

    Shaa prosperous1Shaa prosperous12 måneder siden
  • I'm a guy. It's Manly by default.

    CyberdelicXPCyberdelicXP2 måneder siden
  • Bout to go watch karate kid later nerds

    Edgar BanuelosEdgar Banuelos2 måneder siden
  • There's lot of obvious experiences that make someone a 'real man': losing virginity, getting drunk, growing a beard, killing in combat, etc. And certain character attributes: loyalty, discipline, courage etc. Most people know these. Very, very few have them though. The modern world isn't set up in such a way to allow real men to exist.

    Someone SomeoneSomeone Someone2 måneder siden
  • I was a nerdy Nintendo playing, Computer addicted nerd when I was young. And boys laughed at my geekiness. Now I am a grown up nerd whose nerdiness led to a good job, but still a Nintendo playing, computer addicted nerd... who grew up to be capable of breaking a man's jaw in half with a punch... and nobody laughing anymore.

    Fabio SalvadorFabio Salvador2 måneder siden
    • @Billybobthekid I’m just saying irl tournament are 70% waiting 30 foighting

      RainsIn AfricaRainsIn Africa2 måneder siden
    • @RainsIn Africa nah it looks fun tho

      BillybobthekidBillybobthekid2 måneder siden
    • @BillybobthekidIts fine also do you play warframe?

      RainsIn AfricaRainsIn Africa2 måneder siden
    • @RainsIn Africa I don't. i was just being mean. forgive me for my actions please.

      BillybobthekidBillybobthekid2 måneder siden
    • @Billybobthekid why do you think that

      RainsIn AfricaRainsIn Africa2 måneder siden
  • TRUTH, 100%! Great video, could have totally taken advantage of all the people looking for guidance but instead brings light into the darkness and offers a valuable and real outlook. Congrats, Charisma - one of your best ones yet! The parallels to my own journey were too strong for me to not love this.

    rautermannrautermann2 måneder siden
  • One of my favorite words to live by is "Be a filter, not a sponge"

    mystry nanemystry nane2 måneder siden
    • i call miguel sponge for that very reason

      riele. queenriele. queen25 dager siden
    • Gonna steal that line. It's a good one.

      Huw GuyverHuw GuyverMåned siden
  • In retrospect wrestling shaped me into who I was which was good . Sort of similar to Johnny Lawrence with Karate. I started in the 4th grade as a scrawny kid who got beat up all the time to becoming the 2nd freshman captain out of 20 guys. In my 8th grade year I went 28-9 in varsity and was the champion in conference. A lot of this stuff in the video are things I have been through. I stopped caring if I was called pretty boy for tying my hair back on the team. And if I could do it all over again I would; to improve on those mistakes made along the way from the past. I wish I could’ve qualified for state but I ripped back muscles in the end which was the killing blow to my career. Just like Johnny getting kicked in the face. But I must admit it was a great journey and without it I wouldn’t be half the man I am today.

    Alex BailieAlex Bailie2 måneder siden
  • How’d I miss this one?!?!

    J WJ W2 måneder siden
  • Be a man by keeping your word, by being immovable in your values and by being unstoppable in your forces. Do your best with what you have and try to achieve mastery in all aspects of life with the purpose of serving others.

    Mastery OrderMastery Order2 måneder siden
  • Great advice. Especially once you've reached the free thinker stage. Put yourself into the world, be you're own man.

    Tim McArdleTim McArdle2 måneder siden
  • I wish if there was a video dedicated just to hawk from this series.....he always rules the place👍🔥

    Arindam MishraArindam Mishra2 måneder siden
  • It shows you have the far-Left and Feminism have pervaded mainstream culture that people propose the idea of "toxic masculinity" without an ounce of shame. Terrible sexism. Introduce the topic of toxic femininity next time they do, just so things are fair and balanced.

    VeritasVeritas3 måneder siden
  • Which movie is this??????

    Moksh JainMoksh Jain3 måneder siden
  • I feel like I'm simultaneously in all of these categories. But category 4 is new for me, and that's growth.

    jordanrichards320jordanrichards3203 måneder siden
  • Standing up for yourself is one of the biggest ones in my opinion.

    N MarrsN Marrs3 måneder siden
  • Cobra Kai!

    ebirac2007ebirac20073 måneder siden
  • incredible video

    A SinghA Singh3 måneder siden
  • When you realise your parent, mentor or role model is imperfect and begin to fill in those gaps in wisdom for yourself, you get a DEEP sense of maturity and self trust that guide you through life.

    Waking Up To LifeWaking Up To Life3 måneder siden
  • All right so after watching the first minutes of the video, I watched karate kid 1 and all seasons of Cobra Kai, it's amazing, now I can watch this video

    Дмитрий ГлушкоДмитрий Глушко3 måneder siden
  • This was a fantastic video great job!

    HTChamber 2HTChamber 23 måneder siden
  • Hi Charlie, awesome videos! Love these. Can you do a video on best practices for zoom work calls and how to best connect to others? That would be so timely and much-needed. Thanks!!!

    coolpeipscoolpeips3 måneder siden
  • How do you educate yourself into being comfortable speaking with people since I've stopped smoking weed everything just seems harder or maybe it's that reality has hit me and I'm struggling too adapt

    God ZenoGod Zeno3 måneder siden
  • This video inspired me to watch all karate kid movies and the show. Thank you.

    OffKey ArtsOffKey Arts3 måneder siden
  • Whats the music at 2:07?

    Nudelsuppe20Nudelsuppe203 måneder siden
    • @Mjol ninja dont

      Nudelsuppe20Nudelsuppe203 måneder siden
    • Africa

      Mjol ninjaMjol ninja3 måneder siden
  • Ok but that Mohawk looks ridiculous lmao

    David KonevkyDavid Konevky3 måneder siden
  • This was a great video

    lyisimlyisim3 måneder siden

    YTGameCLIPSYTGameCLIPS3 måneder siden
  • Imagine a future where humanity has bigger things to think about than how manly or womanly they are from day one. Imagine if all the money from Axe bodyspray was used for research to advance humanity instead. If only there was a time machine to see if we ever make it to this stage.

    Some PandaSome Panda3 måneder siden
  • Step 4: Don't listen to feminists trying to tell you what masculinity is.

    Ralph MarblerRalph Marbler3 måneder siden
  • Johnny Lawrence is a badass. He’s a man I look up to

    MagsMags3 måneder siden
  • Supposedly when you sport hairy bolox

    TonyTony3 måneder siden
  • please do a character analysis on naruto, there's a lot of lessons in there. I know many young subscribers would enjoy it

    Om PatilOm Patil3 måneder siden
  • Jocko Willink & Raymond Reddington (The blacklist)

    QBTUBETVQBTUBETV3 måneder siden
  • Umm... What is the name of the movie in beginning

    Abdullah MajidAbdullah Majid3 måneder siden
  • please please please make a video on Cate Blanchett.

    sridhar vaishnavasridhar vaishnava3 måneder siden
  • Maturity comes when you understand you aren't mature enough.

    jackett_21jackett_213 måneder siden