How To Make Small Talk With Anyone

31. aug.. 2020
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We’ve all had conversations that feel forced or boring, or are filled with awkward silences. It can be almost painful. That’s why in this video we're going to go over 5 steps to make small talk with anyone. We’ll do so by breaking down some tricks that Joe Rogan uses on his podcast to connect with everyone from academics to athletes to celebrities.  

The goal of each of these is to either get the person to like you more OR get you off small talk and into a real conversation that lets you form a genuine connection. Some will be mindsets and some will be word for word questions you can steal. They’re all easy to do, but most people don’t do them.


0:00 - Intro.
0:54 - #1: Grease the wheels early with a compliment.
2:17 - #2: Transition between topics using “reminds me of” thinking.
4:07 - #3: Ping for topics of mutual interest.
4:31 - #4: Get other people excited about the conversation.
6:27 - #5: Create a connection with people while listening.

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  • I couldn’t imagine not being naturally good at this and having to consciously think of this. I struggle with thinking people don’t like me if they don’t help keep the convo going at all

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  • I was supposed to go to a therapist cuz of depression. Then I said “I’m bad at small talk”. Now I’m gonna walk around and greet random people... What tf is wrong with me?

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  • Me to the mirror: How you doing? Me in the mirror: Exact same as you, my boy.

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  • The 'stop and chat'....nah

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  • It’s not that I don’t know how to have a proper ‘small’ conversation, I just really don’t enjoy it. It’s courtesy, sure, but it seems like a genuine waste of time. I suppose that’s my more introverted side shining.

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  • I like how they showed a race car driver and called her an athlete. Come on.

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  • yeah but what if I don't feel like talking to people as an introvert, its sad how others seem to be having fun in conversation, and I can only converse if I'm genuinely interested

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  • Very interesting. Looking forward to trying these techniques on my wife and my infant children

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  • I like the silence. In my head the longer it goes the longer I win. When they speak I've got them.

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  • This is an amazing video, and no offense to the creator but I just want to say that it's kind of sad a video like this even exists. You would think it would be as easy as "Say things to people that you would enjoy hearing yourself." But the real reason it isn't so easy - is because most people don't even know what they truly want to hear.

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  • 9:00

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  • I’ll tell you how to make small talk, get off your @#$&$#% phone!

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  • Joe Rogan: you know monkeys on dmt kill ppl, did you hear about those aliens?

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  • There are some people that are just impossible to talk to. If "yes" and "no" are the only answers you are going to get and even a "What would you do if you had a million Dollars?" will result in something like: "Well...I don't know." then there is no way you can keep the conversation going and it is possible that the other person isn't even interested in talking anyway.

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  • If you mirror me I will automatically assume you are a narcissist or informant. Just sayin

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  • awesome!

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  • this technology age is great. thanks to the internet, millions of people can learn to talk to each other.

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  • great, what about conversations for teen to teen, there is a big difference

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  • Small talk is for people that are empty and inferior.

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  • How to make small talk with anyone: Be Joe Rogan

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  • why I always get my lips dry easily when talking to people.

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  • I wonder what would happen if you learned all rogans techniques, got in a conversation and perposley tried to make a convo as awkward as possible with him

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  • Tip to avoid awkward conversation: Do not engage in human interactions.

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  • This is like going behind the scenes at disney world and seeing a dude pull of the mickey mouse mask and light a cigarette.

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  • This was awesome I think Joe just does it naturally... It's a gift of socializing

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  • Oke what is 🤣😘

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  • There is one BIG note - he knows everything about his guest and he has studied everything about them.He simply knows that he likes cars or wrestling.

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  • You broke it down well. Thank you.

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  • Crush: You’re really cute Joe Rogan: So let’s say your the president...

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  • “When the guest doesn’t know what DMT is, it falls by the wayside” *shot of Ed Norton* “ - but if they do…” *shot of Russel Brand* Now that’s comic editing

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  • Golden Rule: “be a comedian!”

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  • Joe Rogaine feels so fake to me. He knows how to talk non stop though

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  • I already know everything

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  • Love how all these videos are just long ads 😂

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  • Watch Joe's interview with Macaulay Culkin bc Rogan clearly hates Mack for some reason and did none of these things. Whole interview was awkward af hahahaha

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  • Video summary in 3 steps: 1. Ask them if they've tried DMT 2. Tell them that chimps are super strong 3. Repeat the last sentence they say word for word.

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  • This is helpful but I can’t think that fast 😂 there will be too much awkward silence while I think and review my notes. 😂

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  • All I heard was sucking noises and joe Rogan’s name

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  • still doesn't work for me 😂

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  • The right way to make small talk is to ask them if they like hot fudge sundaes.

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  • 4:13 How the hell can you introduce " DMT " in a conv ?! xD

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  • Thanks. You’ve turned me into Neil DeGrasse Tyson.

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  • Probably my favorite thing about working at a grocery store was learning a lot more about small talking with any age and variety of person

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  • This is how I'm going to get a girlfriend

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  • I try to bring up DMT acid or other drugs in every conversation I’m in, I have even talked to my grandma about DMT a couple of times

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  • But what if small talk is annoying and i feel like its a waste of time?

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  • I think I'm going to be sitting by myself, mostly...

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  • This is the dumbest.

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  • King of DMT

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  • will it be frowned upon if i pull up this video during a conversation?

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  • Taking notes after this lockdown has turned me into an antisocial person

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  • That was slick. I didn't even realize that this whole thing was an advertisement until it was going down. U just used one of your conversation hypnotizing techniques on me. You sir, could sell sand at the beach, and make the buyer wanna have a conversation. Well played, sir. Well played.

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  • lol when people don’t know how to keep a conversation 😂

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  • As a barber who small talks for a living, this was cool to see someone else described those little things i see in small talk. Great video!

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  • as an aspie I appreciate this

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  • This is GOLD!

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  • Well... you could just do something and commit to it. Instead of picking something up, trying it, and putting it down two minutes later. Commit to something yourself and the rest just falls into place. There is the simplified version for all my fellow human beings. Golf is my ticket, what's yours? (See what I did there?)

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  • A friend at a party asked me how I was doing with my studies. I told him right now I'm studying a subject called algorithms and data structures. He instantly asked me "And what's a data structure?", so I naturally gave him a quick answer. I can't even finish the answer and he throws me more questions about the subject, but it was still a very enjoyable conversation. The dude doesn't even know about computers yet he seemed very interested in what I was talking about. I can see a lot of this video in him.

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  • Laughing is contagious because i was laughing when joe was laughing

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  • i wish everyone in the world spoke 1 language

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  • Yeah joe is really vey good socially.

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  • Before Corona, I didn't need this video. I spent the past year just thinking without talking too much. Learned a lot about nothing

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  • I often find myself in a position where I’m tryna have some small talk but the other person makes it awkward and then I don’t know what to do so I become awkward

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    • @Sarah Buxton that , and the fact you are female How’s the weather

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    • I’ve met a couple of awkward ppl. They have one word answers and don’t really ask questions so its very difficult to have a back and forth convo. After a while I realise that’s just who they are, awkward rational geeky type who can’t do small talk but they’re actually comfortable not silence. Either you have to learn to get comfortable around them, or find other friends.

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    • that sounds like perfect mirroring

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  • Why are u talking to me

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  • i have to meet a friend ive only talked to per text tomorrow and i have no idea what to say im so awkward wish me luck

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    • @J K im am not a guy no thanks

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    • Just have him hold onto your sack for a little bit.

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  • In any conversation the first impulse I have is to compliment said person, especially any and all women, for me, it's very easy., perfume, shoes, clothes, broch, necklace, etc.

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    • Squat down on my sack and then sneeze on it...and then breathe on it...and kinda lean on it.

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  • Me: oooh yay a video on how to seem more normal, I hope the advice wor-“ Autism: No

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  • I wonder why he laughs all the time 🤣🤣

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  • Gonna ask my crush "Why do you exist". Thanks.

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  • No ones talkin about how this guys program is $600. I’m sorry but who tf is actually paying for that?

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  • Fun fact: if you just listen and respond honestly then you will be fine. People that try things like this are narcissistic and impossible to be around

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  • Lol why do these videos jump to random clips of meme actors like Mark Wahlberg

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  • Lmfao this has got to be, by far, the cringiest channel on the internet. 🤯🤯🤯🤯🥶🥶🥶🥶

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  • Dale Carnegie: How to Win Friends and influence People is the best book you’ll ever read if you want to overcome social anxiety.

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    • @Victor Zehan I know, that title is deceiving but you're probably not familiar with the book. It's actually a great book and is taught in universities. Written in the 20's I believe, still relevant today. Human condition doesn't change.

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    • Bro do ppl not have ANY humility 🙄

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  • 1. Grease the wheel early with a compliment. 2. Transition between topics using "reminds me of" thinking. 3. Ping for topics of mutual interest. 4. Get other people excited about the conversation. 5. Create a connection with people while listening.

    • 7.) cover yourself in oil

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    • Too much work.

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    • 6. Mention DMT and the snake goddess

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  • In Australia, all this method does is alienate you from the rest of society, people here only want to talk about themselves and their issue with anyone who doesn't have white ancestors from the settler days

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  • As much as I like Joe Rogan, there are much better sources for this kind of thing than Joe.

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  • You know you’ve watched a lot of Joe Rogan when almost all the guests he used in the video you watched that podcast lol

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  • somebody show jimmy fallon this video for god's sake....

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  • That was a friggin smooth transition to the selling point of the vid, Ill give you that! ^^

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  • Im gonna watch this video when i need to laugh.

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  • Takes 2 to have a conversation.

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  • These are fine and all, but when "it reminds me of..." trails off into a subject the other person doesn't know or care about either you just come off as a weirdo.

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  • Most of the clips being shown are completely irrelevant to the video lol

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  • People making jokes about this, -> me here writing and taking tips. Because I am really bad at smalltalk and making connections 😳

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  • Complimenting someone's "energy" hahahaha

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