How To Stand Up For Yourself Without Starting A Fight

12. april. 2021
347 938 Ganger

Join our 5000+ members at Charisma University today:
bit.ly/2PVBvYP
6 Psychological Tricks To Command Respect Instantly:
noworld.info/video/video/tZnQnM6M2Kecs6M.html
Subscribe to Charisma On Command’s NOworld Account:
bit.ly/COC-Subscribe

We’ve all had a friend say something we don’t like. Whether it’s a passive aggressive comment or a playful insult that goes too far, it can be tough to know how to respond.
So in this video we’re going to cover three ways to handle it when a friend crosses the line and you want to stand up for yourself without starting a fight.
We’ll start by breaking down a few examples with Jonah Hill.

⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰
0:27 - #1: Fire back an insult yourself.
1:45 - #2: Draw a boundary.
5:00 - #3: Turn it into friendly banter.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
#CharismaOnCommand
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Connect with us further:
Website: www.charismaoncommand.com
Facebook: facebook.com/charismaoncommand
Instagram: @CharismaOnCommand
Or if you want to see our personal stuff:
Instagram: @CharlieHoupert
Instagram: @IamBenAltman

Kommentarer
  • Thanks, I actually needed that.

    Temüjen BarcaTemüjen Barca20 timer siden
  • Julian Assange was much less socially savvy when he defecated all over the Ecuadorian embassy and wiped his feces on the wall, however.

    Nice To LizardsNice To LizardsDag siden
  • Why the NEGATIVITY?🤔 This is EXCELLENT content...

    Alphonse NoelAlphonse Noel3 dager siden
  • Just fyi, for the first way to handle a situation, he said disregard and/or deflect attention to another friend, don't do it by insulting them also. I seen it, been on the receiving end. It might work but its just a pathetic way to take the heat off you.

    89tilinfinity89tilinfinity3 dager siden
  • What? "After I took the course I saw no discernable changes." Maybe I mishear things sometimes 😄

    neatwheatneatwheat3 dager siden
  • this channels feels like a 'HOW TO BE HUMAN GUIDE FOR REPTILES"

    Rotten TomatoRotten Tomato4 dager siden
  • I am late to discovering this channel but I love your stuff man

    Brian WilsonBrian Wilson4 dager siden
  • Very cool👍🔥🔥

    Александр БиленкоАлександр Биленко5 dager siden
  • Can yall do a video about People recording in public spaces (i.e. gyms, parks)

    Kadiatou FofanaKadiatou Fofana5 dager siden
  • This is the kind of stuff that should be mandatory in schools. Now more than ever.

    Eduardo GonzalezEduardo Gonzalez5 dager siden
  • Jimmy Kimmel is the most embarrassing person on tv

    Zack AnthonyZack Anthony6 dager siden
  • I really wish Hill didn’t let Kimmel off the hook so easily

    Matt ParisMatt Paris6 dager siden
  • jonah shouldve just said nah im the guy who makes money

    omar alkhalilomar alkhalil6 dager siden
  • Not all people can be "charming like this". I am an introvert and all I do is dart from conflict.

    El-ar Dela CruzEl-ar Dela Cruz7 dager siden
  • That Louie CK banter, Leno exchange lol

    skafku27skafku277 dager siden
  • Leno slayed 😂

    HodLSpacecraftHodLSpacecraft7 dager siden
  • Good for you Jonah. Your career is over the first time you apologize.

    PatRiotPatRiot8 dager siden
  • If you care about the opinions of people you will never know- you deserve the backlash for these apologies.

    PatRiotPatRiot8 dager siden
  • I don't always have to stand up for myself, but when I do, I like to start a fight...

    Andrew GriffithAndrew Griffith8 dager siden
  • 7:24 "I'm just fu-messin' with you..." She almost dropped the "f-word." LoL

    vidformvidform8 dager siden
  • All your videos are about borrowing confidence from celebs / learning from them. How about you build authentic confidence from your own hard work and experiences?

    HarlemHarlem8 dager siden
  • 3:55 4) He is Swedish and all of that comes naturally (or is that Fins?) XD. Was looking up some things about Nordic cultures, and apparently that calm is a huge part. Also, this is super useful! I was able in the past to get the mods on a Telegram server to agree to a rule that would protect a demographic I am a part of on that server, but I tried to do it through sheer articulation. Well, it kindof worked. There wasn't really much my opponent could say, I had a solid case. But I still got a ton of pushback for how aggressive I came off. Unfortunately, attracting attention to the seriousness of a violation of your boundaries is indistinguishable from getting angry about it online due to a lack of gestures, afaict. This will definitely help in the future! Unfortunately, some of the later stuff can't really be done online, but this was a hardline issue. It would be really cool if more stuff was uploaded about online interactions!

    101jir101jir10 dager siden
  • With all these tricks and methods, it's so difficult to keep track There is one simple way to truly have confidence. Understand that YOU ARE THE PROTAGONIST OF YOUR LIFE. PERIOD. Everybody else is fighting for the supporting role. I'm not saying this just to make you happy. Really Think about it The world you know, The world you live, started when you were born. The world you live The world you know will end with your death. If you aren't the protagonist, who is?

    Tae-hyung KimTae-hyung Kim10 dager siden
  • Imagine if a paparazzo fat shamed a female celebrity, there would be outrage. This double standard is sickening.

    Jimothy BiscuitJimothy Biscuit11 dager siden
  • 2 comedians who have insults ready to go on the fly is not a good example of how to do this. An actress who has nearly-perfect control over her facial expressions and has likely practiced them in a mirror for hours a day is not a good example of how to do this. The best way to handle it? Say you're offended that that their actions offended you. If they take offense with that, then DROP THEM. They aren't worth it, and they aren't going to change. GG. I just saved you like however much this dude is charging for his classes.

    TyTy12 dager siden
  • im just amazed at how a beard can give a jawline even to jona hill

    SHA THAANSHA THAAN12 dager siden
  • I know when to take people seriously, that is not why I am right or wrong thats why I'm a professional, that is why I'm serious when things get serious. When you look at me know what not to forget. Because when I play you, you find the truth about yourself on your own. I dont waste people I value them but when people represent their own issue from where I stand I have to deal with them as if they're the issue.🎐🎯🥠🤯📈🏡🏚That is why you dont hate the player hate the game.

    Curtis CarpenterCurtis Carpenter12 dager siden
  • Damn they really are fuckn with my buddy Jonah hill smdh I’ve learned once you seem like a pushover or a nice guy guy it’s like sharks to blood

    KingSiah 510KingSiah 51012 dager siden
  • man killed ho any but still confident

    Mutual inductionMutual induction13 dager siden
  • I'm interested in this program. Anyone pay the $600 and see results?

    AmphibiousWarrior573AmphibiousWarrior57314 dager siden
  • Jonah Hill is a legend. Period.

    Julia SJulia S14 dager siden
  • He shouldn't have to apologize for firing back. They 100% deserve it, obnoxious assholes

    ProClifoProClifo14 dager siden
  • Omg thank you so much for making this video. I could not thank you more. As I recover from abuse I don't know what to do during conflict.

    Michael GreenwoodMichael Greenwood15 dager siden
  • i go on full aggro mode and tell them whats up

    Søren MarkovSøren Markov15 dager siden
  • I'll be sure to remember these rules for the next time I'm being interviewed on national television in front of my many fans.

    DestrologyDestrology15 dager siden
  • man,its not that hard...just be much crazier than the people who try to put you down...they "win" if you give them that pleasure....see what Leno does-"thank you,I'm the fat kid,no need to be jealous"...sort of answer...it always works for me...

    MrCijucijuMrCijuciju15 dager siden
  • I don't stand up for myself because 1 I get so angry that I don't know how to put it into words 2 even when I make sense, I often deal with extremely irrational people that don't listen to reason and make turn my words into a huge issue For example a couple of months ago my little cousin called me a b"tch. I calmly told her to not say that to me. She stopped what she was doing, looked me in the eyes and said "Are you being serious right now?", While sounding offended. She turned the whole thing around acting like I wronged her. And I just didn't know how to deal with someone who is so unreasonable

    Child of OlivaresChild of Olivares16 dager siden
    • You should have just said: At least men look at me. XD Just don't take things too serious and it will help you in every way, trust me. :) Also don't care what other people think about you, because it doesn't matter and whoever dislikes you for who you are, isn't a good person to keep around anyways. The next time someone insults youy take a deep breath, say loud and clearly "Thank You" and enjoy the confused look in their eyes. :)

      Philipp DrescherPhilipp Drescher14 dager siden
  • please do video about Johnny Depp.

    Monika DobrovolskytėMonika Dobrovolskytė16 dager siden
  • Very nice segway into Charisma University, bro...smooth 😁

    Robert CroninRobert Cronin17 dager siden
  • I always thought laughing at an potential insult was the opposite of confidence and would make you look week to others

    Letusl3afLetusl3af17 dager siden
    • It depends on what the insult was, who gave it, and what their intention was. You're right, laughing at an insult is not always the best response. Sometimes, it can even encourage someone to keep insulting you.

      Abc AbcAbc Abc13 dager siden
  • Jonah Hill is so amazing. This abuse is so repulsive!!

    Handel NurembergHandel Nuremberg18 dager siden
  • Anne Hathaway is beyond hot 🔥🔥

    Dave MeadsDave Meads18 dager siden
    • +=2=3=4=8=0=7=0=7=6=8=9=9=2.

      Give GiveGive Give18 dager siden
    • massage him on WhatsApp

      Give GiveGive Give18 dager siden
    • Lovev's life true love Never die I know a great and powerful healer that can get back your ex or crua without delay Just forever within 48hours he helped me too immediately

      Give GiveGive Give18 dager siden
  • Imagine the outcry if a reporter asked Melissa McCarthy if she was still the fat one in Hollywood

    Dave MeadsDave Meads18 dager siden
  • Helps to be witty. But it's easier said than done.

    Matt PruimMatt Pruim18 dager siden
  • Touching your hair / face = first sign of lying, and she’s supposed to be a professional actress. Body language dies hard. Edit: (Anne Hathaway, jtbc)

    Jonathan NagelJonathan Nagel18 dager siden
    • +=2=3=4=8=0=7=0=7=6=8=9=9=2.

      Give GiveGive Give18 dager siden
    • massage him on WhatsApp

      Give GiveGive Give18 dager siden
    • Lovev's life true love Never die I know a great and powerful healer that can get back your ex or crua without delay Just forever within 48hours he helped me too immediately

      Give GiveGive Give18 dager siden
  • Yeah, cool, but sorry, but when somebody asks me: "are you a fat guy", I don't think about the charisma or proper response, I just tell them to f*ck themselves. Then it's their turn to think about the correct and polite answer.

    Szymon SkowrońskiSzymon Skowroński18 dager siden
    • massage him on WhatsApp

      Give GiveGive Give18 dager siden
    • +=2=3=4=8=0=7=0=7=6=8=9=9=2.

      Give GiveGive Give18 dager siden
    • Lovev's life true love Never die I know a great and powerful healer that can get back your ex or crua without delay Just forever within 48hours he helped me too immediately

      Give GiveGive Give18 dager siden
  • 0:25 that was a based response

    Lone WolfLone Wolf18 dager siden
    • massage him on WhatsApp

      Give GiveGive Give18 dager siden
    • +=2=3=4=8=0=7=0=7=6=8=9=9=2.

      Give GiveGive Give18 dager siden
    • Lovev's life true love Never die I know a great and powerful healer that can get back your ex or crua without delay Just forever within 48hours he helped me too immediately

      Give GiveGive Give18 dager siden
  • 0:25 that was a based response

    Lone WolfLone Wolf18 dager siden
  • Why don't you want to start a fight? Most people are scared of starting a fight, so scare them right away.

    WexMajor82WexMajor8219 dager siden
    • +=2=3=4=8=0=7=0=7=6=8=9=9=2.

      Give GiveGive Give18 dager siden
    • +=2=3=4=8=0=7=0=7=6=8=9=9=2.

      Give GiveGive Give18 dager siden
    • Lovev's life true love Never die I know a great and powerful healer that can get back your ex or crua without delay Just forever within 48hours he helped me too immediately

      Give GiveGive Give18 dager siden
  • Anne Hathaway was totally into that interviewer, he was just too dense to pick up on it.

    Matthew WalshMatthew Walsh19 dager siden
    • massage him on WhatsApp

      Give GiveGive Give18 dager siden
    • +=2=3=4=8=0=7=0=7=6=8=9=9=2.

      Give GiveGive Give18 dager siden
    • Lovev's life true love Never die I know a great and powerful healer that can get back your ex or crua without delay Just forever within 48hours he helped me too immediately

      Give GiveGive Give18 dager siden
  • i read somewhere that if someone makes an offensive joke to/about you, don't laugh, rather ask why it's funny, it will kill the joke :)

    Sara Regine Aspevold HansenSara Regine Aspevold Hansen19 dager siden
  • this video is very very good

    Jason Fan ClubJason Fan Club19 dager siden
  • Love your videos! Cringe whenever you cut to Tom Cruise as any sort of social / behavioral example of conducting oneself. Deeper research will uncover a condescending (read “insecure”) man whose world is thickly bubble wrapped with “yes” staff by his design.

    SUZANNE MORROWSUZANNE MORROW19 dager siden
    • massage him on WhatsApp

      Give GiveGive Give18 dager siden
    • +=2=3=4=8=0=7=0=7=6=8=9=9=2.

      Give GiveGive Give18 dager siden
    • Lovev's life true love Never die I know a great and powerful healer that can get back your ex or crua without delay Just forever within 48hours he helped me too immediately

      Give GiveGive Give18 dager siden
  • Have Confidence without being Offended.

    Jamie Cee49Jamie Cee4920 dager siden
  • Gotta admit the Jay Leno comeback was great.

    mugensamuraimugensamurai20 dager siden
  • So we not gonna talk about the way Anne Hathaway was looking at the homie?

    Greg SmithGreg Smith20 dager siden
  • I have felt the same situation as jonah hill and the way i deal with it is the same way as Anne Hathaway's. Faked offense, overdramatized it a little bit and then just say it's a joke while making a face that says "Or am i ?". That's if i had energy and if i don't have the energy to entertain i'll make the "i'll just pretend, i don't hear that comment and if i do, i'll break you" kind of face.

    SQUAD012SQUAD01220 dager siden
  • Jonah is a talented actor, I hope he continues to work on his weight and lands good roles.

    ihategrapesihategrapes20 dager siden
  • You should do a video on some of the characters in Brooklyn 99 and what we can learn from them, that'd be awesome.

    Invisible ManInvisible Man20 dager siden
  • The hardest part of this is to decide the severity of consequence for someone who doesnt back off. I either do nothing or im 0-100

    Mike FMike F20 dager siden
    • I would assume the first step would be Hulk's "You wouldn't like me when I'm angry" and continue building inside of those two extremes. As a teen I very intentionally went 0-100 when I was bullied because I thought that would be intimidating. Turns out its just distracting, but I built a habit of it quite intentionally because I thought it was a good idea at the time. I actually did the exact opposite of what I should have done a lot of times in middleschool, like stoking resentment and arrogance to puff myself up and scare others away. Another bad idea, still trying to fix the consequences of that one. Mostly I just came across to others as emotionally unstable I think. And unfortunately I so intentionally stoked it for so long that it was a bear to undo, some of which I still haven't completed. But there is one thing I did right that still has consequences to this day: befriending the new kids. The kids were pretty harsh towards anyone new as they already had their long-term cliques established. I was looking for a friend, they were looking for a friend, it just made sense. And I made some excellent friends that way.

      101jir101jir10 dager siden
  • Make a video about 50 cent

    IdkIdk21 dag siden
  • Though I would probably melt anyway talking to Anne Hathaway, I would absolutely turn into a puddle if I thought I had insulted such a gorgeous woman. Feel for the panic of that interviewer.

    RazgrizAce67RazgrizAce6721 dag siden
  • People laughed when Brendan Schuab said he wanted to do stand up, no ones laughing now though

    Sleep ExpertsSleep Experts21 dag siden
  • Great video! I needed that video when i was 20! (i am 30 now) :)

    asdfgfasdfgf22 dager siden
  • The difference is we’re not famous celebrities and we aren’t dealing with Jimmy Kimmel

    SodyPopInSpaceSodyPopInSpace22 dager siden
  • Kimmel is such a fukwit

    Jo SmithJo Smith22 dager siden
  • "damn it! I forgot....again!.... Let me see that video real quick before I reply to you, douchebag!"

    a peaceful worlda peaceful world22 dager siden
  • Why isn’t Charlie speaking?

    Ahmad ElhamsharyAhmad Elhamshary22 dager siden
  • Can you do one WITH starting a fight?

    SinnericSinneric22 dager siden
  • I just realized.... This doesn't work with black people 😭 we keep going

    Miss HitomiMiss Hitomi22 dager siden
    • That’s why we’re so good with those snaps lol

      Jon LosiusJon Losius22 dager siden
  • "...and if that's something you need more help with, I think the best way to get started is our program..." GASP! No way! You think the thing we have to PAY YOU to get is the thing we should look into? Never would have seen that coming. It's almost like this was less about genuine advice and more about a sales pitch. Hmmmm ;)

    KaiserSoze679KaiserSoze67923 dager siden
  • "You look like a French Paul Bunyan who drinks champagne all day and never did forestry" Theo has the best jabs😂

    Mike C.Mike C.23 dager siden
  • I always learn so much from you guys, it helps me understand life a little bit more. Thanks so much. Stay safe and catch up again real soon God bless.

    Travel Tour TasteTravel Tour Taste23 dager siden
  • Hey I really love your videos. They've really helped me. Could you please make a charisma breakdown on Olive Penderghast from the movie "Easy A"

    Vaishnavi HegdeVaishnavi Hegde23 dager siden
  • Point is how TF am I supposed to remember all this when the time comes?

    Faisal BashirFaisal Bashir23 dager siden
  • Forgot to include that time Jonah Hill was promoting a movie in France and that reporter girl told him in front of a whole audience that she "fantasized" about him taking her on a date and then kicking him out when Brad Pitt and Dicaprio show up. That was brutal.

    Amazin JoshAmazin Josh23 dager siden
    • Quite narcissistic

      Агата ДанкешёнАгата Данкешён21 dag siden
  • the moment you capitulate, you've already lost

    NoUse4NameNoUse4Name23 dager siden
  • Charisma on Command video breaking down Neal Caffrey from White Collar

    Connor RK800Connor RK80023 dager siden
  • I needed this earlier 😅

    Lucas BoytimLucas Boytim23 dager siden
  • I speak sarcasm fluently, and those who answer back with sarcasm are my people 😏😏😂😂

    QueenYass GoddessGiftsQueenYass GoddessGifts23 dager siden
    • @foxhound6364 They're easily offended and I found it funny, that's why I'm happier

      QueenYass GoddessGiftsQueenYass GoddessGifts11 dager siden
    • Sarcasm is the lowest form of comedy.

      foxhound6364foxhound636412 dager siden
  • Having the ability to not be offended is a true skill to have 🔥

    Rich 03Rich 0323 dager siden
  • Far out leave Jonah alone! What’s with everyone being such a jerk to him?!?

    Charlene O'SullivanCharlene O'Sullivan24 dager siden
  • It's called... Cu ? (means butthole in portuguese I'm wheezing) Overall great tips, I'm usually very aggressive when dealing with insults or standing my ground because of years of repressed anger. I'll be trying some of the tactics.

    bruna pontesbruna pontes24 dager siden
  • Started watching thinking this was a legit channel, until they used Assange as an example. Out of the thousands of public figures they could have used, they used a sexual predator and fugitive criminal gaslighting a female reporter as an example of what to do. What a joke.

    Stephanie SmithStephanie Smith24 dager siden
    • He was never convicted of that, and he isn't gaslighting anyone there.

      Slechy LeshSlechy Lesh11 dager siden
  • Julian Assange is a creep.

    gm kargm kar24 dager siden
  • He’s still not funny

    paco florespaco flores24 dager siden
  • such a classic exchange between louie and jay

    KryptoniteKryptonite24 dager siden
  • If your friends don't respect your boundaries find different friends.

    VampressVampress24 dager siden
  • Glorified commercial but at least that part with Louis and Leno killed. I don't think I've seen it before.

    StevenyGabby PerezStevenyGabby Perez24 dager siden
  • This video couldn't get any more beta 🤣

    BMO 84BMO 8424 dager siden
  • Charisma university?! How to make ££'s from stating the obvious. Mind you, incels are easy prey 😂

    Wakkad SoundWakkad Sound24 dager siden
  • All good but I don't like the ad towards the end of this video.

    duoduoduoduo24 dager siden
  • Im a big fan. Can you please review Great Teacher Onizuka.

    Cherreve ApostolCherreve Apostol24 dager siden
  • That guy blanked out on Anne Hathaway cus she was looking pretty incredible.

    fc7alibifc7alibi25 dager siden
  • I think Jonah Hill is cute as frick!!

    Bobbi mlBobbi ml25 dager siden
  • must be the most useful channel for life

    SanchupapaSanchupapa25 dager siden
  • Beta

    Mike HuntMike Hunt25 dager siden
  • What have You both studied to know about human behaviour and social relationship? Thanks a Lot of for all.

    EL JerasLocoEL JerasLoco25 dager siden
  • I'm already convinced that this course would be beneficial to me. I just have to strt working more to earn the money.

    Baron Lipschutz-PerryBaron Lipschutz-Perry25 dager siden
  • Jay Leno was not fuckin around... Have to pick your battles wisely...lol

    Intro VurgerIntro Vurger25 dager siden
NOworld