How To Turn Anxiety Into Charisma

10. juni. 2019
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After watching an interview on Jimmy Fallon where Sophie Turner comes across as very charismatic, I started looking into doing a breakdown on her. I was surprised to find that she actually says she struggles in social situations.
On the second watch through, I noticed that hints of nervousness were present in that first Jimmy Fallon interview. So in this video, we’re going to learn what it seems Sophie has learned: how to turn anxiety, shyness, and nervousness into charisma.

4:34 - Strategy #1: Active listening
4:50 - Strategy #2: Mirroring
6:00 - Strategy #3: Elaborate on someone else’s idea
6:31 - Strategy #4: Make fun of your own shyness
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  • I just want to say she was perfect on GoT and I hope she knows this.

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  • Most women that claim they're awkward or introverted are just doing it out of the popularity of the terms, or their perceived attractiveness of that identity. They aren't actually like that. I've only met one true introverted woman in my life.

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  • being self-conscious about your awkwardness = you give off sad, insecure vibes 😔👎🏾 being confident about your awkwardness = you give off positive, happy vibes 😉👍🏾

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  • I'm anxious and introvert and still want to be the center of attention, what does that make me (okay, usually alcohol is involved)

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  • dating is hard with depression and anxiety, because girl will decide NO within 30 seconds of meeting you and swipe left, no chance.

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  • Charli d’amelio is an interesting subject! She’s shy but is great at interacting with people. And her rise to fame is fast but she adapts really well. Idk how she can interact with so many people and it looks like she’s really treating person actively

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  • Ok, this is me an extrovert awkward beneath anxiety

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  • She has the same energy as timothee and saorise

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    • yessss omg

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  • Thank you. This was actually really helpful. Please do more on shyness and social anxiety.

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  • I want her to be my friend

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  • Wanna know how to TURN anxiety into charisma? Just call Sophie TURNER

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  • But she isn’t shy at all😐😐

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  • I bet she went to depression again because of dark phoenix.

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  • Thanks for the tips !

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  • so kind of you to share this helpful info for free

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  • i eat clit to get over it

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  • How come no one is talking about the thumbnail?? She legit looks like an 80s model.

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  • I actually experienced this before. I was nervous on dates but my anxiety makes me talkative since I feel the need to fill the silence with interesting stories and I bring up anecdotes to relieve the stress. One guy I went on a date with assumed I was the social butterfly type and another person just said I was very charismatic. I guess it all works out in the end and fake it til you make it really works sometimes. Keep smiling and stay engaged and usually people are a lot more willing to talk about themselves when they feel welcomed and listened to.

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  • It's basically what Ryan Reynolds does hehe it's cool and adorable

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  • Very helpful in many aspects!

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  • Its not a strategy, its her personality. She's just being herself and completely engaging in the moment. It takes practice, you have to get out there and interact with people even if it feels like you want to crawl out of your skin.

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  • I'm loving these, thank you. I am an introvert and anxiety, depression, and self worth issues. i end up being that akward person that people kinda like but at the same time kinda for the help.

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  • Its naturally cheecky.

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  • I need to learn how to mirror people better, 🤔 I need better connection w my body🌀 Cos all i do is TALK🙊🙊🙊🙊

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  • Mirroring is a big indicator of female autism

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  • This makes me feel so much better about being me

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  • Worst question: “what have you been up to lately?”

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  • I’m always shy and clumsy in social interaction but I noticed that making jokes about that helps a lot.

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  • this called me out so hard

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  • imagine being so nice people make videos about it

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  • She has burst of charisma or energy to distract the Nervousness she is clearly feeling, because in those moments she isnt scared, she isnt nervous, those are her true reactions, personal reactions coming out! ❤️❤️❤️

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  • This is masking

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  • studying acting really made me a better communicator; making eye contact, active listening etc

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  • I have the worst poker face... I’m a terrible liar. I feel like I just saw myself in this video.

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  • Ahhh, got it. So cater to other people's egos.

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  • I’m so glad to hear that I can have bursts of energy while being normally reserved. I’m concerned it comes off as off-putting or not genuine.

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  • “Start by being vulnerable and open” My mental disorders and unresolved trauma: *it’s my time to shine*

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  • Love the plug for CBT!

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  • There are people who are really psychos whose gonna trap you in every conversation to show they are above you... Your only defense at that insta-moment is a cold passive attitude towards your verbal attacker... You have the right to remain silence no matter what provocative questions he/she wants you to get engage into. Always be in a cool posture. Dont raise your voice. Set it on level tone and volume. Never use sorry. Give no facial expression. Show whose the agressive ONE in TV and viewers won't forget it. Believe me on this social-behaviour experiment... I f you are pressed to answer questions say this : "you want me to answer that, the way you want to hear it" .. or say... "what can I say? No answer of mine would satisfy you be it the way you want to hear it - as your conviction has been made before this interview has started" dont add more. If she pressed you say "I did I've answered it"

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  • I wanna see her RED HAIR 🥀🌶️

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  • why did joseph gordon levitt go to shake that person's hand like that?? lmao

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  • I see Sophie Turner, I click

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  • She is not shy

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  • What’s up

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  • Hi

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  • I’m watching this a year later and I feel like I’ve actually absorbed and practiced these?? I’m way better today for sure

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  • I tried to dislike Sophie because my ex boyfriend was really thirsty for her but it was so hard because of her charisma

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  • It helps when you're naturally gorgeous and have perfect hair and wardrobe. So I just need to get a personal stylist and then I can start trying to put all this into action.

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  • Me with severe social anxiety: 👁👄👁

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  • Am I the only one who hates when other people repeat my last words? I mean it's ok if you do it sometimes but like in these clips... it drives me crazy😅

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  • After so many videos about confident strong men, finally a video about... um... insecurity of women.... how about Meryl Streep in the next video

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  • Active listening is hard

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  • She's a doll ❤

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  • 2:46 was that clip used on purpose..because it always looks like he’s hiding something.. Such as a frog in his mouth

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  • 2:15 and sometimes that bathfulnish can even crosh over

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  • I dont even know why I'm watching this.....I never talk to anyone in real life 😄😄

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  • How to turn vulnerability to charisma: First off, you gotta be at least 10/10.

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  • If she has social anxiety then I am not even born.

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  • I'll just stick to Xanax

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  • Step one: be attractive

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    • Step 2: be attractive

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  • For the people here with things like GAD, OCD, or basically whatever else, this is about general worry. The disorders are different. Though, these tips aren't necessarily useless, but will be harder to accomplish because your body/brain fights you.

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  • that part at 3:23 just absolutely melted me.....❤👋😶my heart, ma'am, take it it's yours

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  • I'm about to be charismatic as heckkk B)

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  • Ahhhhhhhhh! I feel like I’m a psychopath taking lessons on how to fake my association to the world! Learn this! Be like this! However, really be like this, but still.... be yourself. What the frack?! Fuuuuuuuuuhcccck

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  • She looks freaking gorgeous in that red dress daym!

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  • It helps her that she is beautiful. Try being like this and not being pretty

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  • I can tell that she’s not faking and she’s just a very nice person

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  • now I have a crush on her

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  • It’s easy said but it’s soooo difficult in reality >.< especially with social anxiety

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  • Nahh.. she is just a covert narc playing the shy girl..

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  • anxiety isn’t shyness

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  • She’s very much like Sansaa

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  • Timothee chalamet is the best example

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  • Me right now: memorizing these tips, rehearsing in my head Me tomorrow at work: "how do you do fellow kids?"

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  • I 100% agree with the self deprecating jokes

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  • 😆 I think I am already doing this and I have not been diagnosed with anxiety.

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  • She's a girl. If a man acts like this he is getting destroyed by everyone.

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  • Nowadays getting depressed is so easy right...its not fair for people who actively are suffering from mental illness

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  • Okay at 2:36 I felt that idk why

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  • I had no idea who she was but now I love her just because of this video

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  • I do thiss thank god I am doing it right

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  • It makes me anxious when other people mirror me. Because some do it to ridicule or destabilize you and you cannot always tell/

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